ikr? A man to tell women what the ideal number is.. please. It's like this guy I worked with who had no kids telling me how to parent. Yea, all the moms around me thought he was such an idiot. |
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if he had six kids or two kids that would be his perfect number. He’s just bragging about how great his choices have turned out without acknowledging all the privileges and support he’s received. Sounds like everyone else on dcum. |
thankfully not something I have to worry about with older kids that help! |
I don't know anyone that grew up in a large family as one of the older children that has their own large family. Generally, the older siblings who had to help parent their younger siblings are not happy that they had to do it.
Younger siblings on the other hand...I know a few of these, too, and a lot of them wanted and have large families. Probably because they were the younger siblings and got a lot of attention from a lot of people. They didn't have to do the work. |
I am the oldest of four. I have one. My youngest sibling has three. The two in the middle have two each. |
I grew up in a family of four sisters. We each have either three or four. |
yes, i have 2 kids. Don't have so many kids if you cannot yourself be the parent and expect others (your poor kids) to take care of them. |
I have 4 kids and planned for that and love it.
However, any woman or person in general who takes advice or even gives a rat’s a** from whoever this Tim Carney character is, is an idiot. |
I met Tim before he had his first kid. Let’s just say he doesn’t really have a choice but to claim six kids are just great because that’s what he signed up for. I feel a bit sorry for his wife who likely felt like her only purpose at 21 was to have babies, as the middle child of 8. Still he’s not a bad guy, just sort of annoying and smug. And dead wrong on abortion of course. |
I have three sets of cousins where there were four or five children in the family. Only the younger two children in each family have their own kids. Two of the three second-oldest are step-parents. One of the oldest says, after she left home, she didn’t want to raise any more kids.
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Nobody in my large family had more than 3. Even those were obviously oops babies (one with FSA, so lovely.) |
Tim’s very concerned with low fertility rates in the US, yet is steadfastly opposed to any government policies to provide support like childcare, and also refuses to acknowledge that most women don’t want a ton of kids. |
+1 I wanted 4 kids, then I ended up hospitalized with HG. Tim Carney can tell me how many kids are ideal after managing through an HG pregnancy (or one of the many other complications some women deal with). |
I didn’t agree with everything in the article but I think people of DCUM could benefit from a little cross examination of the intensive parenting model. |