Tough love: He doesn't like you anymore.
He probably liked the chase more than he liked you in the first place? Why is he still around? Inertia, probably. |
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Yes I think he's trying to get her to break up with him and think it's her idea. |
OP here. This is definitely not what’s going on. He’s very happy in the relationship and in love. I think he just thinks he “won” me, so now he thinks we can be couch potatoes for life. |
+1 and he also likely exceeded his dating budget and is cutting back bc he “has you.” |
How much does he make? This, my friends is a perfect example of dating leverage. Early investment is key. Now though he’s converting acts of service bc they’re more sustainable. |
Sony you go out at all or is it just no longer lavish dates? Also, any successfully relationship hinges on communication. Have you asked him WHY he doesn't want to go out, even when you offer to pay?
If everything else in your relationship is great and he's kind and considerate elsewhere, part of me wonders if it is finance related plus being the type that doesn't want a woman to pay. Or feels uncomfortable with it |
I disagree, if that were true he wouldn’t still be treating her well in every other domain but planning expensive dates. He’s broke is the problem. |
This is pretty normal. People don’t have a lifetime of going on lavish dates. |
Welcome to the real person phase. The honeymoon part of dating is over. Get used to it or find another man to return to the honeymoon phase. |
Are dates really just for the honeymoon phase? I mean I don’t think you need to have weekly tickets to Kennedy Center events once the relationship is established, but a monthly or bimonthly dinner date is something happily married people do, no? |
If he’s getting the milk for free… |
OP here. I’m not sure if he can afford to take me out as frequently and lavishly as he did in the beginning, but I don’t think he is broke. He buys stuff for himself on a regular basis. |
Start making plans with your girlfriends, like going out of town, spa and dinner days and watch his hunting instincts wake up again. |
No, people who like art and culture go out for concerts regularly. If you book in advance, some tickets are as little as $25. I would be bored to hell in such a relationship where we never go out for anything interesting, and my partner is not interested in planning. It doesn't need to be "lavish", but he can still show he cares on a tight budget |
I think he's cheap, broke/low on cash, doesn't care for you or some combination of these. If he accepts your invites, he would be forced to reciprocate (e.g. pay for something comparable himself). And he doesn't want to, thus he doesn't go when you invite. I would break up: what future can you have if you have kids, need to plan summer camps, travel together etc.? |