Place for Separated Husband to Meet Similar Dads?

[Anonymous]

Have you tried the fathers at your kids' schools? Your kids may even know whose parents are divorced -- mine do. Or check the school directory and see if different addresses are listed for mother vs father.

Ok, calling them up would be weird, but you may bump into them at school events.

[Anonymous]

The Methodist Church in my town had a divorce recovery class and there were social events also scheduled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you tried the fathers at your kids' schools? Your kids may even know whose parents are divorced -- mine do. Or check the school directory and see if different addresses are listed for mother vs father.

Ok, calling them up would be weird, but you may bump into them at school events.

I was going to say, school pick up/drop off or school social activities.

[Anonymous]

Don’t rely on your friends you had when you’re married. They won’t be around. In any divorce you’re the bad guy. As a man you’ll always be the bad guy regardless of what happened. So you’re going to have to find a new group of friends. I had one guy who was married who stayed friends, the rest all the women circled the wagons around her and their husbands went with them to keep the peace.

So for me I just did hobbies I used to do before I was told I couldn’t anymore. What I mean is ai did them before I was married and a little before we had kids, then I was told I couldn’t we didn’t have time. I found friends through that.

Long story short, you’ll have to get out and just do things you like and meet people that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't worry too much about category of friends, just pursue activities you enjoy and the rest will follow. A divorced friend took up hiking and now has a nice group of friends with that common interest.

This

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

My recommendation for a group of men doing something explicit in a circle was not appreciated.

I snickered.

Ah, one of the many reasons to love DCUM. The milk of human kindness (especially for men) is dry as a bone here.

The OP is going through a divorce and only wants help finding friends who are going through the same thing. However, these two posters above offer stupid and insensitive comments and then pat themselves on the back for doing so.

This is made even worse by the fact that if the OP was a woman, and someone used her post to make a lewd "joke," the board would have lit up.

Maybe because it is ridiculous that a grown man/woman has to crowdsource this and DCUM is not exactly friendly to men in general.

[Anonymous]

Maybe because it is ridiculous that a grown man/woman has to crowdsource this and DCUM is not exactly friendly to men in general.

The OP did not have to crowdsource this question. He did so because it seemed to be a forum where he could find an answer to questions from others who have been through divorces, etc. His mistake was that this board is often very unfriendly to men.

The ridiculous part is that one poster would make a crude, distasteful joke, and another idiot poster would find it funny

OP — You will meet other divorced dads at your kids' events (e.g., sports and school events.) Look for opportunities to carpool, attend games together, etc. and it will happen.

[Anonymous]

Parents Without Partners? I had a friend who made a ton of new friends, male and female through them, but that’s been a while ago.

[Anonymous]

Go to the gym and find another man to yap about your packages. Or a bar? Always a sausage party. Almost anywhere OP, are you new at life?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Maybe because it is ridiculous that a grown man/woman has to crowdsource this and DCUM is not exactly friendly to men in general.

The OP did not have to crowdsource this question. He did so because it seemed to be a forum where he could find an answer to questions from others who have been through divorces, etc. His mistake was that this board is often very unfriendly to men.

The ridiculous part is that one poster would make a crude, distasteful joke, and another idiot poster would find it funny

OP — You will meet other divorced dads at your kids' events (e.g., sports and school events.) Look for opportunities to carpool, attend games together, etc. and it will happen.

this forum has no answers

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t rely on your friends you had when you’re married. They won’t be around. In any divorce you’re the bad guy. As a man you’ll always be the bad guy regardless of what happened. So you’re going to have to find a new group of friends. I had one guy who was married who stayed friends, the rest all the women circled the wagons around her and their husbands went with them to keep the peace.

So for me I just did hobbies I used to do before I was told I couldn’t anymore. What I mean is ai did them before I was married and a little before we had kids, then I was told I couldn’t we didn’t have time. I found friends through that.

Long story short, you’ll have to get out and just do things you like and meet people that way.

Yeah...this was not my experience at all.