Nanny share with 3 infants?

[Anonymous]

Would it ever work to have a nanny share with three infants (and a very experienced nanny)? Two infants have already started in the share and the third infant would join in a few months - so there would be a 7 month old, a 9.5 month old and 4.5 month old. Would that ever work? And how much more/hour would you pay for a third infant (assuming all of the parents and nanny agreed to give it a try)?

[Anonymous]

I would be very concerned about burnout.

[Anonymous]

I did it for a month and quit. We were paying far too much for daycare-level attention and care. Three is just too much for one person.

[Anonymous]

It's doable , but I don't know i it would be practical.

You'll end up paying daycare rates and it will be like having your child in daycare.

There are other things to consider to like do you want the nanny to be out and about?

Outings are more challenging with 3 infants especially when one will still be a newborn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
It's doable , but I don't know i it would be practical.

You'll end up paying daycare rates and it will be like having your child in daycare.

There are other things to consider to like do you want the nanny to be out and about?

Outings are more challenging with 3 infants especially when one will still be a newborn.

We were stuck paying $625/wk for one child in a 3-child share. We were screwed over.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't do it as a nanny. Two toddlers and a babyor tthree toddlers would be fine. What happens when all three babies are screaming at the same time? What happens if none of the babies sleep at the same time and the nanny never gets a break. In a day care the caregiver will at least get a break when someone else relieves them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't do it as a nanny. Two toddlers and a babyor tthree toddlers would be fine. What happens when all three babies are screaming at the same time? What happens if none of the babies sleep at the same time and the nanny never gets a break. In a day care the caregiver will at least get a break when someone else relieves them.

A nanny with triplet or multiples infant experience could handle what you mentioned without a problem.

I just don't see the benefit in this scenario unless the parents are paying the nanny far far below her value, whih I doubt if she is so experienced.


To me it makes more sense to go at it alone or put your kids in daycare because with a 3 infant share that's what you are doing anywyay.

[Anonymous]

OP here - thanks. I wasn't sure it would be possible and this is a helpful reality check that it probably isn't the best plan.

[Anonymous]

I do think a nanny with experience with multiples could handle it. I would charge you $10 per hour per family as a minimum. If you have an attached garage and large enough vehicle then outings are possible. For all the trouble though, it makes more sense to spread out a blanket in the back yard.

[Anonymous]

MB here and I agree with 23:46. A really experienced nanny could definitely do it, but it is a pretty major undertaking. The hourly rate would have to be quite high-end and as a parent, I'm not sure I'd feel like this was a great solution - a more conventional two family nanny share would be preferable IMO.

[Anonymous]

Also (9:03 here) - it's tough to coordinate everything with one other family, let alone two. This means 3 sets of parents need to be in harmony on working with and managing the nanny and that sounds like a situation that would be inherently difficult, no matter how great the parents.


Rough for the nanny also I'd think.

[Anonymous]

As the nanny, I would have to take more control in a situation like this. With three babies the daily routine and rules would have to be geared toward what makes logistical and feasible sense for me. For example, no way I would do attachment parenting or cloth diapering. Not because I don't appreciate your role as the parent but because I cannot possibly provide that level of service every single day without exhausting myself. It would be more like a daycare where the parents defer to the operating procedures instead of controlling everything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As the nanny, I would have to take more control in a situation like this. With three babies the daily routine and rules would have to be geared toward what makes logistical and feasible sense for me. For example, no way I would do attachment parenting or cloth diapering. Not because I don't appreciate your role as the parent but because I cannot possibly provide that level of service every single day without exhausting myself. It would be more like a daycare where the parents defer to the operating procedures instead of controlling everything.

+1

[Anonymous]

You could cloth diaper with 3 babies that's just silliness.

Also the routine needed for a 4 month old is different from what the routine of a 7 month old and a 9 month old.
That's true in good daycares.


But in general it would be more complex trying to balance the needs of 3 sets of parents


OP, if your nanny truly wants to do it, has the skills to manage 3 babies in different stages of development and you've considered all the logistics (equipment, stroller, car for outings, hosting house etc)

Give it a chance.

In my opinion each family should be paying no less than $ 9 per hour

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You could cloth diaper with 3 babies that's just silliness.

Also the routine needed for a 4 month old is different from what the routine of a 7 month old and a 9 month old.
That's true in good daycares.


But in general it would be more complex trying to balance the needs of 3 sets of parents


OP, if your nanny truly wants to do it, has the skills to manage 3 babies in different stages of development and you've considered all the logistics (equipment, stroller, car for outings, hosting house etc)

Give it a chance.

In my opinion each family should be paying no less than $ 9 per hour

Yes, you could but I doubt you would pay me to spend all my time rinsing and washing cloth diapers for three kids... PPs point is valid. The day would have to be well coordinated to protect the nanny from burn out and the nanny will know best what that entails.