We bring my daughter to Ruths Chris twice a month (she's 3), but we go at 5:30. |
So go to dinner at 8 when there won't be kids around, and go to places that aren't kid friendly. If you go at 5:30, my husband and I (who go out to eat often with our 3 year old) will be there. |
It WAS nice - and if you re-read, I wasn't just referring to my own wedding - but those of many of my friends as well. Most guests opted not to bring their kids and got sitters, but we ended up with about 10 kids - including our adorable little ring bearer and flower girls. They all hung out together and played on the lawn through the reception. We had an outdoor wedding and you barely even noticed the kids, except for how cute they were all dressed up. Parents of the youngest either left early with them or took them back to their rooms for a sitter when the night got later. It's wonderful! |
By the way, you sound very uptight. Who "gossips" about kids being at a wedding?? |
NP here and not the person you are quoting but, I agree with you! I'm happy to leave the 5:30pm dining hour to you and your young child (I agree that children learn how to behave in public by having the chance to experience dining in public) if you leave the 8pm dining hour to me when I choose to dine in an adult place without my child. The problem I have is when I choose to go out at 8 or 9pm and there are overtired, cranky, loud kids with parents who seem oblivious to the irritation they are causing for other people. |
Maybe I'm so self-centered or perhaps sympathetic or whatever, but children just don't really bother me unless they are my own and acting up. On an airplane if I am travelling without mine, I might put on headphones if there are children being loud. In a restaurant on a date-night with DH, I am so into my husband, I probably wouldn't notice any children. I had a very formal and expensive wedding ($80k sounds cheap to me), and I know there were plenty of children there (my little cousins, family friends, a bridesmaid who brought her newborn, etc.), but honestly, I don't really remember anyone being bothered by them in the least. By the way, I am American so it may just be a personality thing. |
I'm with you. I don't even notice kids when I'm out. They don't even register. Maybe because I have three WILD boys that I'm used to just tuning out the screaming, squealing, and occasional object flying through the air. Come to think of it I can't recall one single incident where a child annoyed me in a public space. |
And of course the drunk drama queen NEVER causes any problems ... come on, drunk 20-somethings or underaged LAX bros in Clarendon are 10x more annoying than some 5 y/o who's enjoying her/himself. |
Me too. |
Ah. You're one of those moms whose children annoy others. |
In a "fairly small southern town," your reception was probably an afternoon one with punch and desserts. |
4 generations of one family are alive at the same time? There are at least 35 years between generations in my family. Who disciplines the kids who act up? Anyone? |
I can guarantee yours are annoying plenty of others, though. |
I promise we don't go to romantic dinners at 5:30. If you were still there at 7:30, you'd see kids, depending on the place. |
I agree that many cultures are more welcoming to children than Americans, though I think there are regional/ethnic variations. My experience in India in particular was that people were wonderfully welcoming to children. I'm normally pretty rah rah USA, but it does make me ashamed that Americans are less welcoming to children. I just don't get it - if you live in a busy urban area like DC there are lots of more serious issues that are constant issues - metro gropers, muggers, dangerous drivers, drunks - I just cannot comprehend how children in public places even make the list for so many people. |