Around what ages are teens getting sexually active nowadays?

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Omg the +1 to her own comments mom is back!!

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Anonymous wrote:11th/12th grade most common, but some will do it earlier if they’re in a relationship. And many still lose their virginity in college.

You mean some lose their virginity in college. Not many

I know plenty of 20 yos (even post college) who have not had sex yet.

[Anonymous]

I am just laughing at these comments. 14yr olds aren't telling you they lost their virginity and 20 somethings aren't definitely not telling you they are still virgins. Like please stop.

OP, teens have sex, even some as early as middle school but to ask the average is lost on you. No one knows what each individual is going to do. You have to worry and parent about your kids only.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am just laughing at these comments. 14yr olds aren't telling you they lost their virginity and 20 somethings aren't definitely not telling you they are still virgins. Like please stop.

OP, teens have sex, even some as early as middle school but to ask the average is lost on you. No one knows what each individual is going to do. You have to worry and parent about your kids only.

Yes, but there are plenty of teens that are open about these things with their parents.

Sure, there are plenty of them who are not. Let's say that 50% of parents claiming to know about their kids' sex lives (or lack there of) are wrong. That still leave a LOT of kids.

I did not have sex in high school. My husband did not. My best friend in high school did not either. Two of my current closest adult friends did not either (we're open about this as we're all parenting teens.) Heck, even my next door neighbor didn't (yes, we're pretty good friends and also both have teens and she is very open about being "a very late bloomer".)

There are posters on here posting the agenda that "ALL TEENS HAVE SEX".
Studies don't show this, anecdotal reports don't show this.

Stop trying to justify your own kids' behavior as the universal truth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:11th/12th grade most common, but some will do it earlier if they’re in a relationship. And many still lose their virginity in college.

You mean some lose their virginity in college. Not many

I know plenty of 20 yos (even post college) who have not had sex yet.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Omg the +1 to her own comments mom is back!!

Ask Jeff, weirdo!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am just laughing at these comments. 14yr olds aren't telling you they lost their virginity and 20 somethings aren't definitely not telling you they are still virgins. Like please stop.

OP, teens have sex, even some as early as middle school but to ask the average is lost on you. No one knows what each individual is going to do. You have to worry and parent about your kids only.

Yes, but there are plenty of teens that are open about these things with their parents.

Sure, there are plenty of them who are not. Let's say that 50% of parents claiming to know about their kids' sex lives (or lack there of) are wrong. That still leave a LOT of kids.

I did not have sex in high school. My husband did not. My best friend in high school did not either. Two of my current closest adult friends did not either (we're open about this as we're all parenting teens.) Heck, even my next door neighbor didn't (yes, we're pretty good friends and also both have teens and she is very open about being "a very late bloomer".)

There are posters on here posting the agenda that "ALL TEENS HAVE SEX".
Studies don't show this, anecdotal reports don't show this.

Stop trying to justify your own kids' behavior as the universal truth.

+1 lady you are so weird and getting stranger and stranger each day

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am just laughing at these comments. 14yr olds aren't telling you they lost their virginity and 20 somethings aren't definitely not telling you they are still virgins. Like please stop.

OP, teens have sex, even some as early as middle school but to ask the average is lost on you. No one knows what each individual is going to do. You have to worry and parent about your kids only.

Yes, but there are plenty of teens that are open about these things with their parents.

Sure, there are plenty of them who are not. Let's say that 50% of parents claiming to know about their kids' sex lives (or lack there of) are wrong. That still leave a LOT of kids.

I did not have sex in high school. My husband did not. My best friend in high school did not either. Two of my current closest adult friends did not either (we're open about this as we're all parenting teens.) Heck, even my next door neighbor didn't (yes, we're pretty good friends and also both have teens and she is very open about being "a very late bloomer".)

There are posters on here posting the agenda that "ALL TEENS HAVE SEX".
Studies don't show this, anecdotal reports don't show this.

Stop trying to justify your own kids' behavior as the universal truth.

+1 lady you are so weird and getting stranger and stranger each day

+2

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am just laughing at these comments. 14yr olds aren't telling you they lost their virginity and 20 somethings aren't definitely not telling you they are still virgins. Like please stop.

OP, teens have sex, even some as early as middle school but to ask the average is lost on you. No one knows what each individual is going to do. You have to worry and parent about your kids only.

Yes, but there are plenty of teens that are open about these things with their parents.

Sure, there are plenty of them who are not. Let's say that 50% of parents claiming to know about their kids' sex lives (or lack there of) are wrong. That still leave a LOT of kids.

I did not have sex in high school. My husband did not. My best friend in high school did not either. Two of my current closest adult friends did not either (we're open about this as we're all parenting teens.) Heck, even my next door neighbor didn't (yes, we're pretty good friends and also both have teens and she is very open about being "a very late bloomer".)

There are posters on here posting the agenda that "ALL TEENS HAVE SEX".
Studies don't show this, anecdotal reports don't show this.

Stop trying to justify your own kids' behavior as the universal truth.

There are far more moms who “believe” they know everything their teens do than there are moms who actually know everything their teens do.

If you believe “my child certainly tells me everything!” well,

- you just go right on believing that and I wish you luck.

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Anonymous wrote:My kids group— college.

Same here with 1 or 2 starting at age 17 with boyfriends.
My daughter goes to a girls school so they have very limited contact with boys (which in retrospect has not been the greatest in other ways but great if pushing off sex is a concern!)

It’s like saying the Catholic school teens are abstinent lol

My DD went to Holton. It does not delay anything. I helps during the school day to focus, I will say that and I think in retrospect it made her more of a leader and powerful. But those girls were so boy hungry it was insane. Lots of big house parties, rich drugs/drinking and tons of sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kids group— college.

Same here with 1 or 2 starting at age 17 with boyfriends.
My daughter goes to a girls school so they have very limited contact with boys (which in retrospect has not been the greatest in other ways but great if pushing off sex is a concern!)

It’s like saying the Catholic school teens are abstinent lol

My DD went to Holton. It does not delay anything. I helps during the school day to focus, I will say that and I think in retrospect it made her more of a leader and powerful. But those girls were so boy hungry it was insane. Lots of big house parties, rich drugs/drinking and tons of sex.

my daughter and friends are not going to house parties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kids group— college.

Same here with 1 or 2 starting at age 17 with boyfriends.
My daughter goes to a girls school so they have very limited contact with boys (which in retrospect has not been the greatest in other ways but great if pushing off sex is a concern!)

It’s like saying the Catholic school teens are abstinent lol

My DD went to Holton. It does not delay anything. I helps during the school day to focus, I will say that and I think in retrospect it made her more of a leader and powerful. But those girls were so boy hungry it was insane. Lots of big house parties, rich drugs/drinking and tons of sex.

disgusting. i'll take public all day every day.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think there is no general answer. This is personal to your own children. Statistics are 45% of teens 15-19 have had sex. Average age for first time sex in US is 17.

Most 12-15 yr olds are not having sex. Especially if your younger teen is busy with extracurriculars and a rigorous academic schedule, and they aren’t in a relationship, chances are they are not having sex with anyone.

I would love to see a study comparing teens with more extracurriculars and “rigor” with those with less, and age of first sexual activity. My bet is the difference won’t be statistically significant.

NP. I don't know. The ones I know of in the middle school already into all the things have a whole lot of time on their hands in pretty lightly supervised environments.

Not saying other kids don't find a way if they are so inclined.

This is similar to what I have seen as well. The kids with lots of time on their hands and inadequate supervision, are into all sorts of things (and not just sex, vaping, drinking, etc.). The ones with lots of time on their hands but parents who don't try to be their friends are considerably less likely to engage in all fo the above.

https://www.naturalhigh.org/icelands-radical-transformation-of-teen-substance-use/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think there is no general answer. This is personal to your own children. Statistics are 45% of teens 15-19 have had sex. Average age for first time sex in US is 17.

Most 12-15 yr olds are not having sex. Especially if your younger teen is busy with extracurriculars and a rigorous academic schedule, and they aren’t in a relationship, chances are they are not having sex with anyone.

I would love to see a study comparing teens with more extracurriculars and “rigor” with those with less, and age of first sexual activity. My bet is the difference won’t be statistically significant.

NP. I don't know. The ones I know of in the middle school already into all the things have a whole lot of time on their hands in pretty lightly supervised environments.

Not saying other kids don't find a way if they are so inclined.

Ask any middle schooler what after-school clubs and the late bus are for.

Perhaps I am a square prude, but I am wondering where these kids are having sex? In the bushes?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kids group— college.

Same here with 1 or 2 starting at age 17 with boyfriends.
My daughter goes to a girls school so they have very limited contact with boys (which in retrospect has not been the greatest in other ways but great if pushing off sex is a concern!)

It’s like saying the Catholic school teens are abstinent lol

My DD went to Holton. It does not delay anything. I helps during the school day to focus, I will say that and I think in retrospect it made her more of a leader and powerful. But those girls were so boy hungry it was insane. Lots of big house parties, rich drugs/drinking and tons of sex.

disgusting. i'll take public all day every day.

It’s happening in public too. Huge party with Churchill students last weekend. At least 200 kids.