"Women judge other women when they are feeling either jealous or smug."

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No, I'm not going to carefully curate and edit posts on an anon forum, get over it. I will no longer be responding to you, you clearly don't even care what I have to say about the exact topic you asked me about.

You should not write when you are angry, sweetie.

Why are you so miserable? Why are you spending your evening mansplaining womens emotions to other women? What are you getting out of insulting random women online?

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How many times have you heard "Ugh I can't believe she said that. She's just jealous!!!" Not all women are jealous and "catty" (a term almost exclusively used for women). There is a trend to discount things women say because theyre just jealous, trying to pit women against each other.

Not all women are jealous and catty all (or most) of the time. However, every woman is sometimes jealous or catty (or both). You seem bothered by the fact that the term "catty" is almost exclusively used for women. However, are you bothered by the fact that terms like "wimp," "nerd," and "geek" are used exclusively for men?

There has been a big push in the younger generations to discard this and support other women.

Bullshit. Do you have daughters in middle school? Young women are still doing the same things to each other that their mothers did 30 years ago and their mothers did 30 years before that.

Yeah, you may not like everyone, but just because you dislike someone it shouldn't automatically be assumed its because youre jealous. Which is what OPs mom is trying to say (or smug), which I disagree with. I'm not saying anything about how harshly women judge other women or comparing their judgement to men, only the automatic assumption it's because its based on jealousy.

Enlighten me. When a woman unfavorably judges another woman's appearance (something I have heard my entire life, from grade school to retirement parties), how often is it not motivated by jealousy? Answer: seldom.

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You should not write when you are angry, sweetie.

"You have no idea what I taught my daughters, and it is awful that you think you can tell me what I taught them. I did teach them to use the rules of English grammar when they right (a lesson you should have learned.)"
Fu%king idiot

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I have a large engagement ring , inherited from my husband's grandmother. I would happily replace it with a fake. I told dh I wouldn't wear it because I was afraid of losing it, so he took out insurance on it.

It's funny how someone like me, who honestly could not care less, ended up with a huge diamond

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Anonymous wrote:I only judge the women who have those big, honkin’ rocks on their fingers. Too showy for me.

Ok, so then maybe you're being smug because you think you're so cool that you don't need a big ring to show off.

Or maybe you're actually jealous because you want one. Be real with yourself here. It's anonymous.

DP - I judge the women who get moissanite or CZ giant honkers. They can't afford the price of a 4ct diamond but want people to think they can, so they get the fake one.

That said, I'd take a 4ct real diamond in a heartbeat! Get your sunglasses ready because I'd be blinding everyone

One of my friends has both real and fake "giant honkers". I can not tell the difference, nor can most people (queue the poster who claims they can here). She and her husband are both accomplished, yet quite down to earth. She really doesn't care if anyone has an opinion on what she wears or not, that is what I love about her, and that is one of the main reasons she is my friend. Y'all need to get your priorities straight and stop caring what the miserable harpies think.

If she doesnt care, why do you?

I am commenting that she has a great attitude, which I do care about. You are not very good with the zingers, are you?

Wouldnt call it much of a zing, maybe a zap?

[Anonymous]

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No, I'm not going to carefully curate and edit posts on an anon forum, get over it. I will no longer be responding to you, you clearly don't even care what I have to say about the exact topic you asked me about.

You should not write when you are angry, sweetie.

The “sweetie” poster strikes again. Take that nasty 20th century condescension elsewhere already.

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The “sweetie” poster strikes again. Take that nasty 20th century condescension elsewhere already.

I thought you were not going to be responding anymore (see your post at 19:41.) If you are going to keep this up, please address the question regarding your honkers.

And please tell us if you have a large engagement or wedding ring.

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Are you a man? Judging by your getting into a physical fight over being called a nerd, I'm guessing so.

And are you seriously trying to mansplain why women are catty and jealous? Wtf, gtfoh.

Yes, I am a man. No, I am not explaining why women are catty and jealous. I am saying that they have been and can be.

So, you need to STFU (and capitalize the letters when you use an acronym, such as WTF.)

Literally no one said otherwise. You just wanted to gaslight a woman, and mansplain some random garbage. Did it make you feel like a big man? Do you think your daughters would be proud?
#thisiswhywepickthebear

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Literally no one said otherwise. You just wanted to gaslight a woman, and mansplain some random garbage. Did it make you feel like a big man? Do you think your daughters would be proud?
#thisiswhywepickthebear

Do you use language like "Fu%king idiot" around your daughters? Would they be proud? I bet not.

#outofcontrolcrazy

[Anonymous]

NP to this entire thread. Yes, it's true and especially true in these pages as the women on DCUM are frustrated sad types who engage in this sort of behavior all day long. Truth.

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Literally no one said otherwise. You just wanted to gaslight a woman, and mansplain some random garbage. Did it make you feel like a big man? Do you think your daughters would be proud?
#thisiswhywepickthebear

Do you use language like "Fu%king idiot" around your daughters? Would they be proud? I bet not.

#outofcontrolcrazy

You're talking to multiple posters...

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You're talking to multiple posters...

Sure I am, honey.

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Anonymous wrote:I only judge the women who have those big, honkin’ rocks on their fingers. Too showy for me.

Ok, so then maybe you're being smug because you think you're so cool that you don't need a big ring to show off.

Or maybe you're actually jealous because you want one. Be real with yourself here. It's anonymous.

DP - I judge the women who get moissanite or CZ giant honkers. They can't afford the price of a 4ct diamond but want people to think they can, so they get the fake one.

That said, I'd take a 4ct real diamond in a heartbeat! Get your sunglasses ready because I'd be blinding everyone

One of my friends has both real and fake "giant honkers". I can not tell the difference, nor can most people (queue the poster who claims they can here). She and her husband are both accomplished, yet quite down to earth. She really doesn't care if anyone has an opinion on what she wears or not, that is what I love about her, and that is one of the main reasons she is my friend. Y'all need to get your priorities straight and stop caring what the miserable harpies think.

If she doesnt care, why do you?

I am commenting that she has a great attitude, which I do care about. You are not very good with the zingers, are you?

Wouldnt call it much of a zing, maybe a zap?

That either.

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Literally no one said otherwise. You just wanted to gaslight a woman, and mansplain some random garbage. Did it make you feel like a big man? Do you think your daughters would be proud?
#thisiswhywepickthebear

Do you use language like "Fu%king idiot" around your daughters? Would they be proud? I bet not.

#outofcontrolcrazy

Please, show your daughters your "right"ing, I know they'll love it

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Anonymous wrote:Judging engagement ring size is very petty on the sliding scale of female pettiness.

When someone has a small stone, I assume they married young or had other priorities.

The larger rings used to be more indicative of something about the finances of the couple, but the advent of lab-grown diamonds makes it impossible to know. So now I just think those larger rings suggest a need to show off. But don't actually convey anything financial about the owner.

My local CVS has some decent-looking large diamond engagement ring knockoffs (odd that they sell them there...isn't it?).

Hmm. There is that smugness OP's mom referenced. I just think those larger rings suggest the wearer thinks gems are pretty and that they enjoy sparkling jewelry.

PP. There are lots of pretty sparkles that cost less than $10-20K. Which is the price point of the real rings in that category. I figured somebody would call me out for my comments but I'm pretty sure this size of ring, like driving a luxury car, is intended to be noticed/assessed by others. The people I know like this, the bride tells the groom what to buy. These are not spontaneously presented rings.

My ring was about 11k. The diamond isn't huge at all, but it isn't small either -- it has a 1.5 carat center stone. It isn't "intended to be noticed/assessed by others" at all. I like rocks, I always have, my grandfather was a geologist and my first science fair project in early elementary school was about geodes. Diamonds are beautiful to look at, as are rubies, sapphires, amethysts, opals, whatever. Your post? Well -- there is that judgment with smugness OP is asking about...

You got an 11K ring because you like rocks and geodes? And it had to be a diamond? You know they actually sell quartz engagement rings, right? I'm not smug. I just don't believe your reasoning.

You are smug. Or know nothing about minerals. Probably both.

There are quartz engagement rings. Yes, they are more fragile/less hard on the Mohs scale, but they certainly exist, are beautiful rock specimens, sparkle just fine, and are $1,000s cheaper. Those are facts. Just Google quartz engagement rings. Since you like rocks...should be fun to learn about. Maybe you have room for a cocktail ring.