I'm not sure why you are so triggered by my comment. I don't like putting women in boxes, like OPs mom did. I dont like a knee jerk reaction that if a woman says something negative that it stems from jealousy. Wimp/nerd/geek are definitely not exclusively used for men. I've even been called a nerd/geek because I liked reading growing up I dont have middle school kids, but slightly older. They are all about being a "girls girl" and building up their female counterparts. I also dont think that when women judge appearance it's often jealousy. Perhaps you hang out with a very jealous crew, but people judge for all sorts of reasons. Boiling down any negative comment to jealousy is lazy and petty. Humans are rounded individuals full of emotions and feelings. Far more than just jealousy. |
Ok, so then maybe you're being smug because you think you're so cool that you don't need a big ring to show off. Or maybe you're actually jealous because you want one. Be real with yourself here. It's anonymous. |
I think if you're talking superficial things, then probably.
But I judge the hell out of the woman who was in the Truth vs. Alex Jones who perpetuated the lie that Sandy Hook was a hoax and it's not because I'm jealous or smug, it's because she's a piece of trash. (I also judge the hell out of Alex Jones and many others who were involved, but you asked about women and she was the only prominent woman who was featured so that's why I called her out. Many men were worse). |
When you write, "You are so triggered," you try to discount my words by using the term "triggered" in a clinical sense, such as when TV shows have trigger warnings to let viewers know that the show contains sensitive content. Men have accused women of doing this forever (e.g., my joke about blonds triggered her, and she went off the rails.) Do better.
I do not like putting people into boxes. Try to be more inclusive.
Really? Have you ever been in a physical fight because someone called you a nerd? Plenty of men have because the term is used to emasculate. Sadly, you are using a trite example to mask the use of a hurtful term.
That's good to hear. I have three daughters, all three of whom have graduated from college and entered the workforce.
Again, your writing is trite. Of course, humans have more emotions than jealousy, but this fact does not support your position that women do not judge other women's appearance jealously. Be honest. Have you ever said something about another woman's appearance to your friends to demean her (e.g., I cannot believe she wore a top that tight)? Of course, you have. |
Yeah, I got the same feeling about the aunt, that she's meddlesome and judgey of the small ring, though her wording was polite. OP's mom shut her down effectively. |
DP - I judge the women who get moissanite or CZ giant honkers. They can't afford the price of a 4ct diamond but want people to think they can, so they get the fake one. That said, I'd take a 4ct real diamond in a heartbeat! Get your sunglasses ready because I'd be blinding everyone |
Sounds like you are 100% one who calls other women jealous if they dont like you |
Yeah, I don't know about that. I saw the thread on the Ballerina lady in Utah and I judged her pretty harshly in my head and I am definitely not jealous of her 8 kids and fake ranch life. Nor am I smug and thinking I'm any better than her. I just think what she was peddling was pretty gross and tasteless. |
I don't think I agree with this. I judge parents (women and men) who let their kids have pacifiers at like age 4 and while doing an activity like playing at the park. But if I'm being honest it's because I'm being smug that I never did that. But I don't think it's an insecurity on my part? |
Calling "bullshit" and using personal insults certainly looks like it was triggering, apologies if that offended you. No, I've never been in a physical fight. Not sure what that has to do with terms having a sexist connotation. I actually try not to use gendered insults (p***y, c**t, etc) as they are generally demeaning to women specifically. Nerd is not gendered. I'm sorry if you had a rough time growing up as a nerd, many wear it as a badge of honor these days but it wasnt always so easy. 3 daughters is a lot! Too bad you didnt teach them to be girls girls, and instead perpetuated these sexist stereotypes and harmful reductive terminology. I don't care much what you think of my writing. Your overuse of trite is perhaps trite in itself! I've never said that women do not judge other women's appearance from jealousy. I said there are many reasons for it, it shouldn't be a knee jerk reaction that it is automatically jealousy. |
Ok, and you're being smug about it because you do keep your appearance up, right? Or maybe you're secretly jealous that some women don't have to work that hard to keep up their appearances and their husbands still don't cheat on them... |
Are you a man? Judging by your getting into a physical fight over being called a nerd, I'm guessing so. And are you seriously trying to mansplain why women are catty and jealous? Wtf, gtfoh. |
You need help. First, you need (a good deal of) help with the rules of grammar. Next, you need help with constructing a readable post. |
You're being smug here though. I'm not trying to be mean, I just think you're saying that these women are tacky and you're better than that (or you're rich enough to have a huge ring so you don't need a fake one). |
Am I? I don't have a huge ring. I can't afford a huge one. What I judge is the pretending of having money, not of actually having or not having. I'm not sure smug is the right word here. More like, sad? That someone feels they need to do that? Maybe not. Time for some introspection. |