How do we politely tell DD to stay quiet about her summer?

[Anonymous]

Elementary kids do not go to daycare.

I don’t work and we have more money than most people at our school. We travel more than others. Most other people do a mix of camp, travel and hanging out in the summer. Our higher income and more expensive experiences never come up. My kids won’t know or say that our trip costs more than the kid who is going to the local beach. There is this one girl who is very outspoken and braggy. She goes on about her camping trips. I am sure my daughter thinks the camping trips are a bigger deal than our trips to Europe and Asia.

[Anonymous]

Teach your kid not to brag. That starts with you not being judgmental or braggy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't tell her anything!! I once had the same ideas that it would be boastful to inform people but it's important for her not to feel shame or separate herself in secrecy. Someone will text you for a play date and ask "what camp?" if you say she's at a camp. Somehow it will come out and you will look cagey for keeping it a secret and just look bad. Just don't address it with her at all. She can talk about it or not. Learn from my mistakes!

This!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Elementary kids do not go to daycare.

I don’t work and we have more money than most people at our school. We travel more than others. Most other people do a mix of camp, travel and hanging out in the summer. Our higher income and more expensive experiences never come up. My kids won’t know or say that our trip costs more than the kid who is going to the local beach. There is this one girl who is very outspoken and braggy. She goes on about her camping trips. I am sure my daughter thinks the camping trips are a bigger deal than our trips to Europe and Asia.

What is "bragging" in re a camping trip?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Isn't summer "daycare" for 10 year olds just camp? I'm confused what all the other kids are doing...
Teach your DD not to brag in general.
In this instance, maybe just coach her to say that she won't be local most of the summer...I'll be in X city with my cousins in June, etc.

OP calling it "put in daycare" for ES age summer camp tells me all I need to know.

My DD is in daycare at Sidwell lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Isn't summer "daycare" for 10 year olds just camp? I'm confused what all the other kids are doing...
Teach your DD not to brag in general.
In this instance, maybe just coach her to say that she won't be local most of the summer...I'll be in X city with my cousins in June, etc.

OP calling it "put in daycare" for ES age summer camp tells me all I need to know.

My DD is in daycare at Sidwell lol

lol? Smack

[Anonymous]

10 year olds have no concept of this kind of one-up-manship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's necessary to ask her to lie or defect about this.

It's smart to tell her not to brag and not to bring it up constantly, but there is really nothing wrong or weird about a conversation that goes "What did you guys do this summer?"
and the responses go "Nothing" and "I go to my grandma's house and we go to the beach in July" and "I go to the aftercare all day in the summer" and "I'm doing a bunch of camps - art and acting and stuff."

There are always kinds who do different things. So what if your kid's are more expensive or posh. Someone's always are. And there is a clear line between interesting and obnoxious (like there is no need to say "I am going to taste pasta in five Italian cities after my $5K sleep away camp in the Berkshires!" when you can just say "My parents send me to a sleep away camp and we're going on vacation."

This is exactly what I was looking for, thank you.

FYI, I said daycare because last year she DID attend daycare. Yes, she was only in with kids her own age, but yes, it was at a daycare facility and no, they did not do field trips. At all. Her father will be deployed all summer, so I decided to pull out all the stops and give her opportunities that she wouldn't have locally, and I think we'll continue that going forward. She's at the age where she needs to be exposed to things outside a daycare's four walls.

You should have been looking for some of the humble pie takes, as well.

[Anonymous]

This is pretty funny. OP sounds like the standard summers around here. I doubt any kids know or care how expensive these trips are. As a PP said, Chesapeake and St. Lucia are about neck and neck to an elementary school kid.