I think people who brag deserve the jealousy and hate it engenders

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You reap what you so.

Change my mind.

You don't know if someone is bragging or just sharing their happiness. For example, if someone is happy their kid finished college and got a good job, you may see it as bragging if your kid hasn't even though their intention was innocent.

[Anonymous]

I'm so afraid of people interpreting things as bragging that I actively hide good news.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You reap what you so.

Change my mind.

You don't know if someone is bragging or just sharing their happiness. For example, if someone is happy their kid finished college and got a good job, you may see it as bragging if your kid hasn't even though their intention was innocent.

OP, you sound depressed and perhaps psychopathic or sociopathic.

Do you dream up a reason for people's intentions when they talk to you? Do you stalk other people's social media looking for fault that is not there? Do you imagine people have ill intent? Do you ascribe people talking to you (or not) an evil alter ego, that is nothing like the actual person? Are you the person who "names" posters - like "cat lady", and so forth? You seem to be mentally damaged.

If you can't be happy for yourself or other people, just admit it, you need mental help. You are depressed and anxious, at best.

[Anonymous]

C’mon we all know there’s a big difference between sharing something you’re proud of and bragging.

Example 1:
“Larla is doing really well in kindergarten! She’s excited to go every day and has made lots of friends, and comes home every day with a smile on her face!” This is normal. Love it and can get behind sharing this 100%.

Example 2: “kindergarten is going great for Larla. But even though she is where she needs to be socially, academically she is far ahead of her peers.” I actually had another mom say this to me. Who talks like this?!?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:C’mon we all know there’s a big difference between sharing something you’re proud of and bragging.

Example 1:
“Larla is doing really well in kindergarten! She’s excited to go every day and has made lots of friends, and comes home every day with a smile on her face!” This is normal. Love it and can get behind sharing this 100%.

Example 2: “kindergarten is going great for Larla. But even though she is where she needs to be socially, academically she is far ahead of her peers.” I actually had another mom say this to me. Who talks like this?!?

Agreed. While there are people who will interpret saying anything positive about your life as bragging, I think most rational people can tell the difference.

I also think it's just a social skill to know your audience, and understand that when you are talking to someone who might not have the same blessings you do, tread more carefully. Like in the example a few posts back, if I had a friend whose kid is struggling in school or finding work, I'm not going to go on and on about my own kid's success -- I will mention it but not dwell on it. You can also read people's reactions to know whether they actually want to hear more about some good fortune in your life. Sometimes I can tell that someone just is not interested in something I'm sharing, and I'll allow the conversation to move on. It's understandable that someone going through infertility might not want to hear every detail about your new baby's development, or someone who recently got laid off might not want to talk about your promotion extensively. It's okay. Just read the room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You reap what you so.

Change my mind.

You don't know if someone is bragging or just sharing their happiness. For example, if someone is happy their kid finished college and got a good job, you may see it as bragging if your kid hasn't even though their intention was innocent.

OP, you sound depressed and perhaps psychopathic or sociopathic.

Do you dream up a reason for people's intentions when they talk to you? Do you stalk other people's social media looking for fault that is not there? Do you imagine people have ill intent? Do you ascribe people talking to you (or not) an evil alter ego, that is nothing like the actual person? Are you the person who "names" posters - like "cat lady", and so forth? You seem to be mentally damaged.

If you can't be happy for yourself or other people, just admit it, you need mental help. You are depressed and anxious, at best.

Someone here has mental health issues, but it's not OP. Just... wow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You reap what you so.

Change my mind.

You don't know if someone is bragging or just sharing their happiness. For example, if someone is happy their kid finished college and got a good job, you may see it as bragging if your kid hasn't even though their intention was innocent.

OP, you sound depressed and perhaps psychopathic or sociopathic.

Do you dream up a reason for people's intentions when they talk to you? Do you stalk other people's social media looking for fault that is not there? Do you imagine people have ill intent? Do you ascribe people talking to you (or not) an evil alter ego, that is nothing like the actual person? Are you the person who "names" posters - like "cat lady", and so forth? You seem to be mentally damaged.

If you can't be happy for yourself or other people, just admit it, you need mental help. You are depressed and anxious, at best.

Someone here has mental health issues, but it's not OP. Just... wow.

You do understand that OP is likely one of those people holding one way conversations - not having an exchange of thoughts, but wants to be right and make declarations and statements, instead of a two way conversation. Maybe that is you, and the post hit home, but that is no one else's problem.

You have to grow up and learn that other people are just living their lives and not everything is bragging.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You reap what you so.

Change my mind.

You don't know if someone is bragging or just sharing their happiness. For example, if someone is happy their kid finished college and got a good job, you may see it as bragging if your kid hasn't even though their intention was innocent.

OP, you sound depressed and perhaps psychopathic or sociopathic.

Do you dream up a reason for people's intentions when they talk to you? Do you stalk other people's social media looking for fault that is not there? Do you imagine people have ill intent? Do you ascribe people talking to you (or not) an evil alter ego, that is nothing like the actual person? Are you the person who "names" posters - like "cat lady", and so forth? You seem to be mentally damaged.

If you can't be happy for yourself or other people, just admit it, you need mental help. You are depressed and anxious, at best.

Someone here has mental health issues, but it's not OP. Just... wow.

You do understand that OP is likely one of those people holding one way conversations - not having an exchange of thoughts, but wants to be right and make declarations and statements, instead of a two way conversation. Maybe that is you, and the post hit home, but that is no one else's problem.

You have to grow up and learn that other people are just living their lives and not everything is bragging.

You have no idea what kind of conversationalist I am, nor OP. You are making a ton of assumptions about total strangers and channelling a lot of anger (where is that coming from do you think?) at people you don't know. You are accusing someone of being psychopathic, sociopathic, mentally damaged, depressed and anxious based on a few posts on an anonymous forum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You reap what you so.

Change my mind.

You don't know if someone is bragging or just sharing their happiness. For example, if someone is happy their kid finished college and got a good job, you may see it as bragging if your kid hasn't even though their intention was innocent.

OP, you sound depressed and perhaps psychopathic or sociopathic.

Do you dream up a reason for people's intentions when they talk to you? Do you stalk other people's social media looking for fault that is not there? Do you imagine people have ill intent? Do you ascribe people talking to you (or not) an evil alter ego, that is nothing like the actual person? Are you the person who "names" posters - like "cat lady", and so forth? You seem to be mentally damaged.

If you can't be happy for yourself or other people, just admit it, you need mental help. You are depressed and anxious, at best.

Someone here has mental health issues, but it's not OP. Just... wow.

You do understand that OP is likely one of those people holding one way conversations - not having an exchange of thoughts, but wants to be right and make declarations and statements, instead of a two way conversation. Maybe that is you, and the post hit home, but that is no one else's problem.

You have to grow up and learn that other people are just living their lives and not everything is bragging.

You have no idea what kind of conversationalist I am, nor OP. You are making a ton of assumptions about total strangers and channelling a lot of anger (where is that coming from do you think?) at people you don't know. You are accusing someone of being psychopathic, sociopathic, mentally damaged, depressed and anxious based on a few posts on an anonymous forum.

It is not anger, it is real life observation of people like OP. They do not have the ability to be happy for anything, including themselves. How on earth would they have the ability to be happy for anyone else? They are happy being miserable, they rarely leave the house, and they spend time with people with whom they commiserate. They are stunted and they do not seek the help they need. I am not angry for pointing it out. Truthful, yes. If this is you, you may wish to look deeper within yourself for answers, and that may take a professional to help you.

[Anonymous]

Does everyone who brags engender jealousy? In me it just engenders absolute boredom and a lack of desire to speak to the person again, ever. So you' won't make a new friend of me if you spend all your time bragging, basically.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does everyone who brags engender jealousy? In me it just engenders absolute boredom and a lack of desire to speak to the person again, ever. So you' won't make a new friend of me if you spend all your time bragging, basically.

What is bragging? Is it saying what your kid is up to, and you want it carefully edited for your internal struggles and feelings?

Do you ever ask you friends about their kids? Or do you just talk about yours, and the other person can't get a word in edgewise?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does everyone who brags engender jealousy? In me it just engenders absolute boredom and a lack of desire to speak to the person again, ever. So you' won't make a new friend of me if you spend all your time bragging, basically.

What is bragging? Is it saying what your kid is up to, and you want it carefully edited for your internal struggles and feelings?

Do you ever ask you friends about their kids? Or do you just talk about yours, and the other person can't get a word in edgewise?

This thread has many comments of people explaining the difference between simply talking about a success or good thing in your life, and bragging.

You clearly have some issue with a specific person or persons in your life and are trying to work them out on the thread. I'm sorry you have someone in your life who doesn't ask about your kids, or who takes offense at you saying anything good about your kids. That sucks. It's also not at all what this thread is about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does everyone who brags engender jealousy? In me it just engenders absolute boredom and a lack of desire to speak to the person again, ever. So you' won't make a new friend of me if you spend all your time bragging, basically.

I agree generally but: yes, sometimes bragging can create jealousy. I mean, I think this is the main goal of someone who brags (and I mean someone who actually brags, not someone who just shares a success or happiness in their life with a friend). They are trying to impress people and make them envious. Whether it works will depend on what it is they are bragging about, who they are talking to, whether that person even wants what they have. But I do think the goal of explicit bragging is to make people jealous.