Jealous of sister's presents

[Anonymous]

My sister married a rich guy. As such for special occasions he lavishes her with nice presents the likes of which I have never seen before. Jewelry and expensive purses.

Meanwhile I am lucky to receive flowers even.

Not going to lie, it stings.

[Anonymous]

Tell your DH to step his game up. I'm sure your sister is making it very clear to her husband what she likes and expects.

[Anonymous]

It only stings in the beginning. My sister married into a very wealthy family (like 100 million dollar + net worth) and at first it was crazy and of course made me envious at times. Now 14 years later it just isn't a "thing". It sounds strange but its almost something I forget. It seems huge and monumental in the beginning but then you realize their issues are just like yours. Kids normalize the situation. Nursing woes know no income level. Potty training your stubborn 2.5 year old is an equalizer. Same with marriage ups and downs. Same with elderly parents. You will see what seems hard to get over now isn't. The money will be less exciting to her too. We just laughed the other day because she mentioned her "lake house" and I literally didn't know she had a lake house. We talk 4 times a week and see each other 10 times a year and I truly never heard of it. We both started dying of laughter and she went "ya I haven't been there either." We both knew how ridiculous that sounded and just couldn't help but laugh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell your DH to step his game up. I'm sure your sister is making it very clear to her husband what she likes and expects.

So if OP tells DH she would like to have a Rolex Pearlmaster for her birthday, will he be OK with it?

[Anonymous]

My sister married someone who makes decent money. They have much nicer things than we do - nicer house, nicer vacations, name brand clothing, etc. But their marriage suuuuuuucks. So I take solace in the fact that money isn't everything and that ultimately, my happiness is wrapped up in my family, not "things."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister married someone who makes decent money. They have much nicer things than we do - nicer house, nicer vacations, name brand clothing, etc. But their marriage suuuuuuucks. So I take solace in the fact that money isn't everything and that ultimately, my happiness is wrapped up in my family, not "things."

So OP should hope her sister’s marriage sucks?

[Anonymous]

Be a sugarbaby to a guy who takes you shopping.

[Anonymous]

I understand. It’s hard not to be a little jealous. My DH is a scientist, so it’s not like we’re poor but we’re definitely not rich. The year my sister got married, between her wedding present, Christmas presents, birthday, valentines gifts, and “a little something” he got for her on their honeymoon, he spent almost double my DH’s salary on jewelry for my sister that year.

The key for me is not to compare and not to try to keep up. I’m happy with my DH and our family has all our needs met. I’ve been happy for years without getting hundreds of thousands of dollars worth of jewelry in a year, and that still holds true. I’m happy for my sister, not that she married a very wealthy man, but that she found someone she loves and who loves her, and the money is a nice perk for her.

[Anonymous]

What's with the jealous pps lately? Is this millennial issue?

[Anonymous]

Quit being so materialistic

[Anonymous]

Is the issue that she is given expensive things or that she's remembered on special occasions and you're not?

If it's the first, stop counting someone else's money and being materialistic. If it's the second, explain the concept of love languages to your husband and tell him to step it up.

[Anonymous]

Ask for hand me downs

[Anonymous]

I don’t understand the jealousy either. Especially with a sibling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ask for hand me downs

+1

[Anonymous]

Who cares about purses and jewelry??? We make more than enough money for that kind of stuff but I don't measure the value of our relationship by such shallow things. My husband is kind, fit, knows how to communicate, respects me, loves me and is a good lover, is fun, does well in his career and is respected in his field, and is a great dad. No one who buys expensive gifts could hold a candle to that.