DS wants to have sleepovers, but is still in pull-ups at night

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Anonymous wrote:PP who suggested the pajama pants again. I think the long t-shirt would be fine with such close friends. Go for it.

NP here. So he'd be wearing an oversized t-shirt but with no pants on underneath? I don't know that I'd be OK with that, at another family's house.

Does the friend have any other siblings? I feel like you're setting him up for teasing by allowing to go without pants at a friend's house like this.

DP. It’s fine. Girls wear nightgowns. When the boys get older, many only wear boxers. Even at sleepovers. The long tee is okay as long as he’s comfortable and this is a good friend.

Pre-pandemic, my boys stayed the night with close friends almost constantly. Whether it be at their families house or ours, underwear and/or boxers was absolutely the norm around bedtime. This is seriously not a big deal.

We're a household of only boys, so my judgement may be a bit skewed here somewhat, but I feel like it wouldn't phase me in the slightest to have a kid run around in a pull up before bedtime. If anything, a pull up is even more modest than regular underwear. If the OP's kid is going to be wearing a long shirt, 9 times out of 10 you probably wouldn't even know he's wearing a one at all. If my 7 year old kid is staying overnight with your family, then I certainty trust you enough for you to see them in a pull up for a few minutes before bed.

Completely fine.

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OP here -

Sorry to everyone for not being around this thread more to reply to everyone! Life has been crazy busy lately.

Our plan is to allow DS to stay the night with 'Primary' friends' family next Friday. Covid had been hitting our local area hard, and because of multiple things being canceled or postponed, both our families are effectively back to semi-being stuck inside and not going out much. So, we decided now might be an OK time for DS to try his first ever sleepover.

We're good friends with this family, and I've already spoken with the mother about the pull-up situation. Her two youngest LO's are still in diapers full-time, and she made it clear that it was not at all a problem for DS to wear a pull-up to bed while over there.

My concern was less about what DS is or is not wearing on top of his pull-up over there, but more concern over his pull-up leaking, as is a somewhat regular occurrence over here. I think we may have somewhat of a plan to help on that front however. And this thread has reminded me that I need to call the mother of DS's friend tomorrow for exactly that reason.

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It sounds like you are shaming your child for wearing pull ups at night when he does not care and he does not think his friends will care. Stop being a jerk and let him have a sleepover. You can be discreet about the pull ups, btw. He can change in the bathroom right before hopping in bed and change and clean himself up in the bathroom immediately after waking up. Chances are his friends won't even notice.

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Let him wear the pull ups. No big deal!

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Hey there everyone! This is the OP from before.

Apologies for reviving an 'old' thread here for a moment. But I just wanted to let everyone know-- DS had his first ever sleepover last night. Things got slightly delayed because of some covid related issues. But we were able to let the kids get together last night. DS made it through the whole night and had a BLAST.

I talked with the mom of the family he stayed with just a few minutes ago when we picked up DS, and the pull-ups were a complete non-issue. She has two younger kids that are both in diapers full time (DS's friend is the oldest sibling). So DS wearing a pull-up wasn't even a blip on the radar for them.

It's already been discussed having future stays over in the coming weeks, and we may actually be bringing this same friend with us on a Fall camping trip in the near future, now that we know the pull-ups aren't a concern.

Thanks once again to everyone for all the suggestions and support!

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I would not let him JUST wear a pull up because he will be embarrassed if his friend tells other people.

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Anonymous wrote:I would not let him JUST wear a pull up because he will be embarrassed if his friend tells other people.

Post its 3 years old, but I don't understand why he would just wear a pull up and not jammies. MY DD was a bedwetter and when she did have sleepover she will wear jammies and a large t-shirt to make them less noticeable. Only time she would've slept with t-shirt and just pull ups on was in the house or hotel, but even then most them she would wear jammies

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Anonymous wrote:So DS will be 7 the first week of September. He has never been to a sleepover, as he still wears pull-ups at night, wakes up wet each and every morning without fail.

He's made good friends with a couple of other boys from his summer swim team, two of whom live very close to us. Apparently there's been many requests thrown around for someone to have a sleepovers (all adults are fully vaccinated across all the families). I've talked to DS about this, and explained--gently--the difficulty and risk of attempting this, with him still being in pull-ups at night.

DS has made it very clear that he does NOT care at all if his two closest friends know about the pull-ups, and we're good enough friends with the families in question that I actually somewhat agree (?!) that more than likely, neither of the two boys in question would give DS a hard time about it whatsoever. They're very good kids. However, I am still concerned, as kids their age aren't known for being good with secrets.

What would you do here...? DS is heartbroken missing out on sleepovers, and even more badly wants to be able to have his friends over. But I'm torn.

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Try a bedwetting alarm. My DD was in a similar position around that age and the therapee system (sold on Amazon) worked relatively quickly. I did one sleepover with her in pull-ups (actually camping in a tent). We snuck off in the morning to get rid of the pull up.

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Anonymous wrote:So DS will be 7 the first week of September. He has never been to a sleepover, as he still wears pull-ups at night, wakes up wet each and every morning without fail.

He's made good friends with a couple of other boys from his summer swim team, two of whom live very close to us. Apparently there's been many requests thrown around for someone to have a sleepovers (all adults are fully vaccinated across all the families). I've talked to DS about this, and explained--gently--the difficulty and risk of attempting this, with him still being in pull-ups at night.

DS has made it very clear that he does NOT care at all if his two closest friends know about the pull-ups, and we're good enough friends with the families in question that I actually somewhat agree (?!) that more than likely, neither of the two boys in question would give DS a hard time about it whatsoever. They're very good kids. However, I am still concerned, as kids their age aren't known for being good with secrets.

What would you do here...? DS is heartbroken missing out on sleepovers, and even more badly wants to be able to have his friends over. But I'm torn.

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How is it a troll? Post is from 2021

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Anonymous wrote:I think 7 is too young for sleepovers regardless of the pull-up situation. We didn’t start until 8, it was hard getting them to sleep, and then delayed again until 10.

This! I don't understand how can parents allow this craziness of sleepovers at such a young age!

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I’ve known several older kids who’ve used diapers at night to keep them dry. It’s not that unusual. If you don’t make it into a big deal they won’t feel like it’s anything to be upset about.

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Tell him he can have sleepovers once he's out of pull ups. I thought kids were potty trained before kindergarten. They were in my day.

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Anonymous wrote:Tell him he can have sleepovers once he's out of pull ups. I thought kids were potty trained before kindergarten. They were in my day.

I know this is an old thread, but reading this has made me so angry. I have asked all
of my son’s doctors and taken him to a bed wetting clinic. The doctors say he will grow out of as he matures. My son is embarrassed about his pull up especially since his younger brother is not in one. We have tried everything and limiting liquids doesn’t help once they start sports. Parents aren’t lazy and just letting their kids wear pull ups.

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Anonymous wrote:Tell him he can have sleepovers once he's out of pull ups. I thought kids were potty trained before kindergarten. They were in my day.

I know this is an old thread, but reading this has made me so angry. I have asked all
of my son’s doctors and taken him to a bed wetting clinic. The doctors say he will grow out of as he matures. My son is embarrassed about his pull up especially since his younger brother is not in one. We have tried everything and limiting liquids doesn’t help once they start sports. Parents aren’t lazy and just letting their kids wear pull ups.

How old is he? He will outgrow it my daughter stop at 14……
Yes, we went to the doctors and they did test and they told us it’s common, the medication doesn’t stoped it just stopped for that night.. my daughter was also embarrassed about it because her younger brother didn’t have any issues at night. In 2015, they had goodnites underwear pads, where they would wear underwear like pads, it make her happy because they were underwear where you just added a pad. She stopped the following year, but I don’t think they still sell them. She was always scared to go to sleepovers because of it. Sometimes it takes a while, but he will stop soon it just takes a bit longer for some kids.