Did anyone marry a low-earner DH and it turned out okay?

[Anonymous]

I am about to marry a man I love very much but I am concerned about the fact that he doesn't not earn a lot of money. I do not think this is a big deal but I want to go in with eyes wide open about what this means for us as a family. Can anyone tell me its going to be okay?

[Anonymous]

Get a better job yourself. Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

What qualifies as a low-earner, in your opinion?

[Anonymous]

Marry someone of a higher SES

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What qualifies as a low-earner, in your opinion?

90k at 29. No family money or financial support from parents. 180K in grad school debt.

[Anonymous]

It's all very specific to your own situation.

Yes, millions have married low-earning spouses and it has turned out okay. There are also those who have married low-earners and it's turned out poorly.

What is your income like? What's the COL in your area? What kind of lifestyle do you want? What kind of lifestyle does he want? How many children?

No one can reassure you. You and your partner should discuss this together. Perhaps see a financial counselor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What qualifies as a low-earner, in your opinion?

90k at 29. No family money or financial support from parents. 180K in grad school debt.

$90k at 29 is not a low earner, unless you intend to have multiple children, never work, and live in a high COL area.

If you make the same $90k, you will be set between the two of you.

[Anonymous]

I married a low-earning DW. But she was willing to stay home with the kids, and that took off a lot of pressure when they were little.

what does it mean? We don't have as many luxuries as our dual-earning neighbors. But our marriage is strong, we have food and shelter and a few luxuries, and our kids are happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What qualifies as a low-earner, in your opinion?

90k at 29. No family money or financial support from parents. 180K in grad school debt.

$90k at 29 is not a low earner, unless you intend to have multiple children, never work, and live in a high COL area.

If you make the same $90k, you will be set between the two of you.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's all very specific to your own situation.

Yes, millions have married low-earning spouses and it has turned out okay. There are also those who have married low-earners and it's turned out poorly.

What is your income like? What's the COL in your area? What kind of lifestyle do you want? What kind of lifestyle does he want? How many children?

No one can reassure you. You and your partner should discuss this together. Perhaps see a financial counselor.

I am currently between jobs as I was recently let go. I do not earn very much and did not focus on making a ton thinking it would fall on my husband when I eventually married.

I'd like a decent UMC lifestyle with 2 children. I realize with this man that seems out of the question. We will probably live a stressed out paycheck to paycheck life with maybe 1 kid?

Every relationship is a compromise right? No one is perfect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What qualifies as a low-earner, in your opinion?

90k at 29. No family money or financial support from parents. 180K in grad school debt.

That's not terrible income depending on how much you make. Does he have advancement potential? What is his plan for the debt?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What qualifies as a low-earner, in your opinion?

90k at 29. No family money or financial support from parents. 180K in grad school debt.

That's not terrible income depending on how much you make. Does he have advancement potential? What is his plan for the debt?

I am looking for jobs that pay about 60k. He pays 800 in school loans every month.

[Anonymous]

not a low-earner.

but of course, it depends on what you both want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's all very specific to your own situation.

Yes, millions have married low-earning spouses and it has turned out okay. There are also those who have married low-earners and it's turned out poorly.

What is your income like? What's the COL in your area? What kind of lifestyle do you want? What kind of lifestyle does he want? How many children?

No one can reassure you. You and your partner should discuss this together. Perhaps see a financial counselor.

I am currently between jobs as I was recently let go. I do not earn very much and did not focus on making a ton thinking it would fall on my husband when I eventually married.

I'd like a decent UMC lifestyle with 2 children. I realize with this man that seems out of the question. We will probably live a stressed out paycheck to paycheck life with maybe 1 kid?

Every relationship is a compromise right? No one is perfect.

Do you want reality or a DCUM answer? My DH and I would be thrilled if he made $90k. I make a little over $115k and we have a very nice life with TWO kids, we can even feed them every day. *gasp*

Signed,
Not living paycheck to paycheck

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What qualifies as a low-earner, in your opinion?

90k at 29. No family money or financial support from parents. 180K in grad school debt.

That's not terrible income depending on how much you make. Does he have advancement potential? What is his plan for the debt?

I am looking for jobs that pay about 60k. He pays 800 in school loans every month.

Why don't you bolster your skills to increase your earning power?

Why do you think he is a "low earner" if you yourself earn 2/3 of what he does?