Over 50 dating someone in their 20's
![[Post New]](/jforum/templates/default/images/icon_minipost_new.gif){kind=icon}
Anonymous
|
My DH is 12 years older than me, and we've been married for over 25 years. Most of the time I don't think about the age difference, honestly. We've been together so long, raised our kids together and have so many shared experiences at this point that our differing ages don't generally seem relevant. I will say that DH is in hi mid 60's now and starting to have a few small health issues, which is a drag. It does make me worry about the future somewhat, but I've had many good years married to this guy so whatever comes I think we'll muddle through somehow.
Life offers no guarantees to any of us. I had both a parent and a sibling die in their 40's, and I have another sibling who married a guy three years younger who was super active until he contracted a progressive degenerative illness at age 50. So you just never know. Age is one variable but there are so many other things you simply cannot control. |
Anonymous
What your just saying, although apparently based on your person experience, is still ignorant. What your claiming is only two very healthy active people can live a happy meaningful life together. So your basically just saying any one with health issues is SOL when it comes to love. just saying |
Anonymous
|
NP.
PP, I think you're personalizing, but... 20 years older is similar to being with a person you're age who is sick. Growing old together and enjoying the "golden" years seems unlikely. Ladies and gents, unless changing adult diapers is what you want, resist the temptation to have cold hands holding yours. |
Anonymous
You have no idea what your talking about. Do you really think all elderly wear diapers and have cold hands. I'll give you a little clue, even in a nursing home only about half the residents are incontinent. |
Anonymous
This is so delightfully insufferable!  You must be very young and naive, my friend. Thankfully, this will improve with time
|
Anonymous
No. According to some, everything should be about planning your retirement. God forbid you don't pretend you enjoy being old and decrepit when you get there! |
Anonymous
|
I'm a woman and have dated a couple of men 12 years younger than me. We had great fun and the relationships lasted about a year to 18 months.
I have remained very close friends with one of them. He wanted to have kids. I told him that I was not willing to go there again at my age (adoption or surrogacy). I think in the long term it has drawbacks, but for the short term -- I'd recommend it. LOL It's hard going back to dating men my age with their pot bellies and couch potato attitudes. |
Anonymous
| Consenting adults, fine. Not for me. Weird. |
Anonymous
|
My dad remarried someone half his age. She was mean as hell when he got old and senile. Sad. He earned every bit of that trophy wife
|
Anonymous
Even Clooney and Pitt are is with a 40-year old and 36 year old 
Downing has been long married to a woman who is 42. So even they think it's weird
|
Anonymous
They may find it weird, but the question was are they gross to a 20 something? But if your looking for actual celebrity couples where one is/was in their 50's and the other in their 20's when they started dating or got married I'll oblige. Alec Baldwin 53, Hilaria Thomas 27 Sylvester Stallone 51, Jennifer Flavin 29 Frank Sinatra 51, Mia Farrow 21 Bing Crosby 54, Kathryn Grant 24 Billy Joel 55, Katie Lee 23 Eric Clapton 55, Melia McEnery 24 Kevin Costner 49, Christine Baumgartner 27 And of course the granddaddy of them all Hugh Hefner 86, Crystal Harris 26 |
Anonymous
|
I'm 45 and my wife is 25. People like to think they know the reason why age gaps like that happen and come up with reasons like "he is rich" or "he is immature" or "she's a gold digger" or "she is in to power" but it really isn't that simple. In our case I have a good job and I'm able to provide a comfortable life but I'm by no means rich. At this point in my life I know who I am and I'm able to take care of what needs taking care of. When I was younger (20s - 30s) I was still figuring out how things work. I think that my wife appreciates the fact that I'm confident and capable more so than my money. We see it on DCUM all the time. The wives always say they wish they had an "alpha." Older men are more patient, confident and capable simply because they have had more life experience. That can be appealing to women. This is only one of the facets of why these relationships may happen to work. Just figured I'd add some perspective.
|
Anonymous
|
You don't understand...
...I am in my 50's (male). In my head, I am still psychologically with respect to the opposite sex, in my 20's. Mentally we still desire the most sexually attractive females. Then I look in the bathroom mirror and see a face that is unrecognizably old. And I think of all the lost opportunities from my youth. |
Anonymous
Nevertheless, odds are high she will be cheating on you w/i the next 5 to 10 years. You will be riding over the hump of the aging curve during that period; some guys age a lot worse than others--and you won't know which is you until you get there. Meanwhile, your wife is heading into her most sexually horny years as a woman in her 30's and 40's. But you sound smart enough to have already figured that all out and made your peace with it. |
Anonymous
| I would use birth control on your end vs relying on the younger person, unless you want a newborn at 50+. |