Over 50 dating someone in their 20's

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a mid 50's male. While I am not interested in dating anyone (as I am married), what I bring to the table is $$$$. I have much more money than almost any 20 something. I also know who I am, which some women find attractive.

I also know how to please a woman: she would be satisfied. Many 20 somethings do not.

So, the 20 somethings might look better than me, sure. But, I can take her out for a nice time. Oh, and I will fall alseep by 10, so she can go out partying with her friends or other guys and I won't care.

Please don't delude yourself. Unless you look like George Clooney, the initial attraction/spark just isn't there. You can have all the moves and technique and experience, but without the actual chemical/magnetic draw, it just isn't there.

But yes, some women can mentally check out for 20 minutes for the right price/security.

I don't know...a good sense of humor and intellect is a really important part of the spark. If the guy is just plain dumb and superficial it can only go so far no matter how hot his body is - it's fun while it lasts. Certainly, an older guy could be extremely attractive in a total package sort of way.

But usually the older guys who are secure and attractive in a total package type of way..just aren't that aren't interested in being romantically involved with such very young women. I know that there are exceptions to this of course. But a relationship based on this person being young/hot and that person having money/lavishing attention are usually not that solid to begin with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a mid 50's male. While I am not interested in dating anyone (as I am married), what I bring to the table is $$$$. I have much more money than almost any 20 something. I also know who I am, which some women find attractive.

I also know how to please a woman: she would be satisfied. Many 20 somethings do not.

So, the 20 somethings might look better than me, sure. But, I can take her out for a nice time. Oh, and I will fall alseep by 10, so she can go out partying with her friends or other guys and I won't care.

Please don't delude yourself. Unless you look like George Clooney, the initial attraction/spark just isn't there. You can have all the moves and technique and experience, but without the actual chemical/magnetic draw, it just isn't there.

But yes, some women can mentally check out for 20 minutes for the right price/security.

I don't know...a good sense of humor and intellect is a really important part of the spark. If the guy is just plain dumb and superficial it can only go so far no matter how hot his body is - it's fun while it lasts. Certainly, an older guy could be extremely attractive in a total package sort of way.

But usually the older guys who are secure and attractive in a total package type of way..just aren't that aren't interested in being romantically involved with such very young women. I know that there are exceptions to this of course. But a relationship based on this person being young/hot and that person having money/lavishing attention are usually not that solid to begin with.

Yes I think for such a relationship to work there needs to be something more than youth for money. But that is also the case for even similarly aged couples, it takes something more than just money. That said, I firmly believe that friendship and love is not bound by age. If it were you could never be friends with someone much older or younger than you. As far as physical attraction goes, to each his/her own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a mid 50's male. While I am not interested in dating anyone (as I am married), what I bring to the table is $$$$. I have much more money than almost any 20 something. I also know who I am, which some women find attractive.

I also know how to please a woman: she would be satisfied. Many 20 somethings do not.

So, the 20 somethings might look better than me, sure. But, I can take her out for a nice time. Oh, and I will fall alseep by 10, so she can go out partying with her friends or other guys and I won't care.

Please don't delude yourself. Unless you look like George Clooney, the initial attraction/spark just isn't there. You can have all the moves and technique and experience, but without the actual chemical/magnetic draw, it just isn't there.

But yes, some women can mentally check out for 20 minutes for the right price/security.

I don't know...a good sense of humor and intellect is a really important part of the spark. If the guy is just plain dumb and superficial it can only go so far no matter how hot his body is - it's fun while it lasts. Certainly, an older guy could be extremely attractive in a total package sort of way.

But usually the older guys who are secure and attractive in a total package type of way..just aren't that aren't interested in being romantically involved with such very young women. I know that there are exceptions to this of course. But a relationship based on this person being young/hot and that person having money/lavishing attention are usually not that solid to begin with.

I have noticed this. I am a 50 something male, and when I joke, people want to me around me, even young people. I am trying to get a hall pass that basically says anytime a hot 20something wants me, I can do it. Wife is disagreeable. But, when we got married, there was an understanding: if meg ryan wanted me, I could go, and if george clooney wanted her she could go. No guilt....

Oh well, the plumbing probably would not work anyway...and Viagra/cealis is not an option for me...damn nitro...

[Anonymous]

Twenty what? One? Nine? Either way it's nobody's business.

[Anonymous]

I do not see a problem...they could help set your iPhone and printer.

[Anonymous]

For some reason this thread reminds me of this very entertaining GQ article on Sugar Daddies and the "transactional love economy."

http://www.gq.com/story/sugar-daddies-explained



"Do you ever see a super-old, super-rich guy out on the town with a super-young girl who's super out of his league and wonder, how the hell did that happen? This is how it happened. Taffy Brodesser-Akner investigates the bold new transactional-love economy."

[Anonymous]

I'm a 53 year old woman and have recently dated a couple of men just shy of 40. I think a 15 year age gap is doable, but 25 would be too much for me.

The hard part about doing someone so much younger than you is that you constantly are aware of how old you are. I can match the younger guys in terms of energy level, etc., but I can't turn back the clock.

Unfortunately, a lot of 50 year old men are not interested in 50 year old women.

[Anonymous]

^^ haha, I meant "dating someone" not "doing someone". I guess both are applicable, though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a 53 year old woman and have recently dated a couple of men just shy of 40. I think a 15 year age gap is doable, but 25 would be too much for me.

The hard part about doing someone so much younger than you is that you constantly are aware of how old you are. I can match the younger guys in terms of energy level, etc., but I can't turn back the clock.

Unfortunately, a lot of 50 year old men are not interested in 50 year old women.

When I was 28-32, I was with a woman that was 50-54. My family was aghast -- pointing out that I would be taking care of her in her old age, etc. The funny thing is today, at 74, she is significantly healthier than me at 52; I am battling advanced cancer and heart disease. She has no medical issues. We broke up when I realized I wanted to have kids, which she could not provide.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do not see a problem...they could help set your iPhone and printer.

LOL My 15+ older DH does that for me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For some reason this thread reminds me of this very entertaining GQ article on Sugar Daddies and the "transactional love economy."

http://www.gq.com/story/sugar-daddies-explained



"Do you ever see a super-old, super-rich guy out on the town with a super-young girl who's super out of his league and wonder, how the hell did that happen? This is how it happened. Taffy Brodesser-Akner investigates the bold new transactional-love economy."

Show me a marriage that is not a transaction. This applies to same-age couples just as much. I bet you're new to DCUM!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a 53 year old woman and have recently dated a couple of men just shy of 40. I think a 15 year age gap is doable, but 25 would be too much for me.

The hard part about doing someone so much younger than you is that you constantly are aware of how old you are. I can match the younger guys in terms of energy level, etc., but I can't turn back the clock.

Unfortunately, a lot of 50 year old men are not interested in 50 year old women.

Unfortunately, a lot of 50-year-old women are holding out for the One come along and dazzle them; no one else is worth squeezing into their schedule.

[Anonymous]

I've BTDT. 29 at the time, dating an early 50 something. I was a lawyer and he was a commercial real estate developer. So while he was rich, I was making good money too.

Mostly we liked similar things: fine dining, the ballet, the opera, impromptu trips to Paris. But I once took him to my favorite dive bar and he was really out of his element. He bought everyone there drinks. I was so mortified.

It was incredibly hot. He was so hungry for me. Towards the end, sometimes he'd remind me of a vampire, sucking my youth and energy to renew his vigor. In the end it didn't work out because he said I wanted to get married and have kids, which he had already done that. I denied I wanted those things and told him I only wanted him. But 8 years later, I'm happily married with kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a 53 year old woman and have recently dated a couple of men just shy of 40. I think a 15 year age gap is doable, but 25 would be too much for me.

The hard part about doing someone so much younger than you is that you constantly are aware of how old you are. I can match the younger guys in terms of energy level, etc., but I can't turn back the clock.

Unfortunately, a lot of 50 year old men are not interested in 50 year old women.

This would only work if you both already have kids. Probably why you don't see older women/younger men couples in general.

[Anonymous]

I'll never forget one time planting a drunken friendly kiss on an older 50ish guy's neck (long, crazy story I won't get into) and his skin felt sooo crepey or at least not the way I was used to skin feeling on guys my own age (20 something). I have never forgotten that...

I'm 50ish now. Yikes.