'Doormat' thread title qualifier

[Anonymous]

Can all the doormats please start identifying themselves as such in the title, so those of us who would otherwise truly be willing to weigh in with good advice can save the time and trouble of reading?

If the first step you've taken/are planning to take isn't to directly address the problem with the person you are having the problem with, you are a doormat. If your spouse isn't willing to communicate directly with his or her friends/family, he or she is a doormat.

Gettin' real tired of your sh*t, doormats!

[Anonymous]

We'd have basically all "qualified" threads in "Family Relationships"...

[Anonymous]

Hahahaha. OP, I'm reminded of every Jane Austin book----the uncomfortable glances, the agonized internal dialog, the hoping, the pining, the rueful departure. I want to yell at the characters 'EFFING SAY SOMETHING".

But that was a different era with a different set of propriety. I don't know what people's excuse is in this day and age. I get diplomacy and tact but sometimes you have to pipe up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hahahaha. OP, I'm reminded of every Jane Austin book----the uncomfortable glances, the agonized internal dialog, the hoping, the pining, the rueful departure. I want to yell at the characters 'EFFING SAY SOMETHING".

But that was a different era with a different set of propriety. I don't know what people's excuse is in this day and age. I get diplomacy and tact but sometimes you have to pipe up.

Exactly! May we all be like Lady Catherine de Bourgh and just let it fly.

[Anonymous]

The first step to healing is admitting.

[Anonymous]

Ha! I hate the doormats. They'll get great advice...and never actually use it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ha! I hate the doormats. They'll get great advice...and never actually use it.

Which would be one thing if they were willing to just move on, but that's never the case. They would prefer to stew and agonize and feel mistreated than either deal directly with the problem or adapt and move on.

[Anonymous]

Hmm, I have just realized we have a few of this type (doormats) at work!

[Anonymous]

Yes, if they just vent and do their thing, fine. But these "askholes" seek advice and then mush-mouth excuses why they can't take it.

[Anonymous]

I frequent the health boards, and it is full of doormat types, in this case those who prefer to luxuriate in their ailments instead of doing something. They pose a health problem that significantly affects quality of life and people come back asking if they have seen a doctor or specialist, had certain tests, have other symptoms and make suggestions for investigation and you never again hear back from the OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I frequent the health boards, and it is full of doormat types, in this case those who prefer to luxuriate in their ailments instead of doing something. They pose a health problem that significantly affects quality of life and people come back asking if they have seen a doctor or specialist, had certain tests, have other symptoms and make suggestions for investigation and you never again hear back from the OP.

Yep...why would you ask a doctor when you can just whine to a layperson Internet audience?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, if they just vent and do their thing, fine. But these "askholes" seek advice and then mush-mouth excuses why they can't take it.

Wow! Where are you meeting all of these "doormats"??!! Maybe you need to find new friends??!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, if they just vent and do their thing, fine. But these "askholes" seek advice and then mush-mouth excuses why they can't take it.

Wow! Where are you meeting all of these "doormats"??!! Maybe you need to find new friends??!!

More like reading threads started by doormats quite frequently!

[Anonymous]

It would save time...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can all the doormats please start identifying themselves as such in the title, so those of us who would otherwise truly be willing to weigh in with good advice can save the time and trouble of reading?

If the first step you've taken/are planning to take isn't to directly address the problem with the person you are having the problem with, you are a doormat. If your spouse isn't willing to communicate directly with his or her friends/family, he or she is a doormat.

Gettin' real tired of your sh*t, doormats!

As the holiday/gifting/visiting/family season approaches, it's becoming clear that we need a reminder about this. Doormats, don't forget to identify yourselves as such, and don't forget to indicate that you in no way plan to take any good advice that requires direct communication.