how many hours sleep does your child in MS get on school days?

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Anonymous wrote:The parents with athletes who are letting them get less sleep are foolish. Studies show the more sleep a kid gets, the bigger and better their potential is in success at their sport. You are stifling their physical and mental growth capacity by shortchanging their sleep during these critical years.
We protect our teens' sleep at all costs: no late dinners, parties, games/practices, certainly no socializing/being on the phone late. If your kid truly prioritizes the sport they love, they should have the sense (or parents who educate them) about how critical sleep is (among other things like nutrition).

+1 sleep is when their bodies grow and minds refresh.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t have a bedtime for my 14yr old. I think by that time it is time to start to self regulate. However all electronics automatically get shut off at 10pm, excluding the Kindle paperwhite. I presume my kid is asleep by 11pm. He wakes at 730. I don’t think it’s enough because I have to wake him every morning and it’s hard. I think he needs 10hrs, but i cannot force him to sleep at 930.

Move the electronics bedtime earlier.

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Anonymous wrote:My 6th grader is allowed to stay up later than 9:00 pm. I think 9:00 is really early for a middle schooler.

This. Honestly, the idea of a "bedtime" for a teenager is odd to me. Mine has to get up a bit before 6am and gets to sleep when he can after activities and homework and, yes, sometimes just wasting time if he has caught up on sleep over the weekend.

It is. I tell my 14 yo good night when I go to bed and then assume he goes to sleep at some point. If not, oh well, he’ll be tired the next day. He’s usually asleep between 9:30 and 10 from what he tells me but he really doesn’t have a “bedtime”.

how can you feel good about this? bc he's 14 he no longer needs parenting? ugh, this is what's wrong with this generation -- shitty parents.

Huh. NP. So my 14 year old kid gets up at 630am to be out the door by about 720am. He walks to school. Our practice is the phone goes away at 9pm (both turns off and needs to be charging downstairs) and he's expected to be in his room doing something quietly. Sometimes that's sleeping. Sometimes he's not tired and he reads a book. Sometime he re-organizes his closet or just messes around in his room. Whatever just be quiet.

I don't think a 14 year old needs a strict lights out bed time like a little kid needs and in fact, I think that's weird. Do you want someone turning out the light and making you lay there if you're not tired yet? At what age does the kid get any agency?

14 yr olds are not mature enough to understand the ramifications of not having enough sleep.

By 16 or 17, they should have a better understanding, especially if they are planning to go to college away from home. They need to start taking responsibility about their sleep. But, 14 is still too young.

- parent of 19 at college and a 15 yr old.

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14-year-old. Bedtime is aspirationally 9:30, but really lights aren’t out until 10. Wake up at 6:30, out the door at 7:30.

I know it’s not enough sleep but don’t seem to be able to move it back - not with homework, instrument practice, and free time, which I absolutely do want him to have.

It’s tough.

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My 8th grader goes to bed at 10:30-10:45 and wakes at 8:15. His school has a 9:00 a.m. start time (HB Woodlawn in APS). I drive him because it is on my way and I don't have to be at the office at any set time.

That 9:00 a.m. start time is such a blessing. My oldest had to catch his middle school bus at 7:05 when in 6th grade and it was hell. I honestly don't think anyone in our family would be able to do a bedtime earlier than 10:15 or so, no matter how early the wakeup. We are all "night people," and we have a lot going on in the evenings.

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I wish mine went to bed at 9, but that never happens. They have a lot of homework. It never seems to get finished early in the afternoon/evening, even when they have the time available. Most night about 10:30-1130 is when they go. Up at 6:30.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t have a bedtime for my 14yr old. I think by that time it is time to start to self regulate. However all electronics automatically get shut off at 10pm, excluding the Kindle paperwhite. I presume my kid is asleep by 11pm. He wakes at 730. I don’t think it’s enough because I have to wake him every morning and it’s hard. I think he needs 10hrs, but i cannot force him to sleep at 930.

I would say, I'm getting you an old school alarm clock and you need to start waking yourself in the morning. If you can't do it, I'll try shutting electronics off at 9:30 to help you wind down earlier the night before.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The parents with athletes who are letting them get less sleep are foolish. Studies show the more sleep a kid gets, the bigger and better their potential is in success at their sport. You are stifling their physical and mental growth capacity by shortchanging their sleep during these critical years.
We protect our teens' sleep at all costs: no late dinners, parties, games/practices, certainly no socializing/being on the phone late. If your kid truly prioritizes the sport they love, they should have the sense (or parents who educate them) about how critical sleep is (among other things like nutrition).

This sounds satirical but in case it’s not, can you please define “late” and how long you plan to protect your children’s sleep?

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t have a bedtime for my 14yr old. I think by that time it is time to start to self regulate. However all electronics automatically get shut off at 10pm, excluding the Kindle paperwhite. I presume my kid is asleep by 11pm. He wakes at 730. I don’t think it’s enough because I have to wake him every morning and it’s hard. I think he needs 10hrs, but i cannot force him to sleep at 930.

You can force him to go to bed at 9:30pm. Kids need time for their minds and bodies to relax.

My parents never enforced bed time, and I had sleep issues until my late late 30s.

You probably have sleep issues becuase you have mental health issues, this is the main cause of sleep problems. Maybe manage your anxiety better.

Sorry, I have 4 kids, 1 in medical school, one in undergrad and one a senior and my 14yr old. You cannot "force" anyone to go to sleep at 930. You need to land the helicopter at some point and teach your kids to self regulate. Not letting them have agency is exactly what leads to massive mental health issues.

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My 7th grader goes to bed around 9:15 but reads until 10:00/10:30 (says she can’t fall asleep earlier). Then she’s up at 6:00 (yay fcps). So approximately 8 hr but could use more…

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t have a bedtime for my 14yr old. I think by that time it is time to start to self regulate. However all electronics automatically get shut off at 10pm, excluding the Kindle paperwhite. I presume my kid is asleep by 11pm. He wakes at 730. I don’t think it’s enough because I have to wake him every morning and it’s hard. I think he needs 10hrs, but i cannot force him to sleep at 930.

Put an alarm clock on the other side if his room. You say you think he needs to self regulate but you still wake him up! He neeeds to get himself up, you can provide the tools but he needs to use them.

[Anonymous]

My 6th grader goes to bed between 8:30 and 9 but can stay up reading, which she will often do until 9:30. Her bus comes at 6:40am.

HS in our district has a 9am start, so that will be a game changer.

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Anonymous wrote:The parents with athletes who are letting them get less sleep are foolish. Studies show the more sleep a kid gets, the bigger and better their potential is in success at their sport. You are stifling their physical and mental growth capacity by shortchanging their sleep during these critical years.
We protect our teens' sleep at all costs: no late dinners, parties, games/practices, certainly no socializing/being on the phone late. If your kid truly prioritizes the sport they love, they should have the sense (or parents who educate them) about how critical sleep is (among other things like nutrition).

Until they go to college

This sounds satirical but in case it’s not, can you please define “late” and how long you plan to protect your children’s sleep?

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8th grader. Electronics downtime begins at 8 pm (except Libby, for ebooks or audiobooks). He’s asleep sometime between 9-9:30 pm and has to wake up at 6. It is not enough for him but and 8 pm bedtime is silly at this age. My almost 17 yo falls asleep 9pm on the dot, same wake up time. She is very serious with her sleeptime!

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Anonymous wrote:My 6th grader is allowed to stay up later than 9:00 pm. I think 9:00 is really early for a middle schooler.

This. Honestly, the idea of a "bedtime" for a teenager is odd to me. Mine has to get up a bit before 6am and gets to sleep when he can after activities and homework and, yes, sometimes just wasting time if he has caught up on sleep over the weekend.

It is. I tell my 14 yo good night when I go to bed and then assume he goes to sleep at some point. If not, oh well, he’ll be tired the next day. He’s usually asleep between 9:30 and 10 from what he tells me but he really doesn’t have a “bedtime”.

how can you feel good about this? bc he's 14 he no longer needs parenting? ugh, this is what's wrong with this generation -- shitty parents.

Huh. NP. So my 14 year old kid gets up at 630am to be out the door by about 720am. He walks to school. Our practice is the phone goes away at 9pm (both turns off and needs to be charging downstairs) and he's expected to be in his room doing something quietly. Sometimes that's sleeping. Sometimes he's not tired and he reads a book. Sometime he re-organizes his closet or just messes around in his room. Whatever just be quiet.

I don't think a 14 year old needs a strict lights out bed time like a little kid needs and in fact, I think that's weird. Do you want someone turning out the light and making you lay there if you're not tired yet? At what age does the kid get any agency?

14 yr olds are not mature enough to understand the ramifications of not having enough sleep.

By 16 or 17, they should have a better understanding, especially if they are planning to go to college away from home. They need to start taking responsibility about their sleep. But, 14 is still too young.

- parent of 19 at college and a 15 yr old.

I love signing with the age of your kids, as if that gives you proper authority and you are laying down facts.

Sorry don't agree and a 14 year old doesn't need a strict lights out bed time like a preschooler. If you set the stage for them to make good choices, they will and they won't have to lie in the dark wide awake wondering when their overbearing parents will go away.