Disagreement with my husband
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Anonymous
| I'm pregnant with a boy and when he's born I want to get him circumcised but my husband is agaisnt it. How do I win this argument and convince him it's the best thing to do? |
Anonymous
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Re circumcision, I let DH have the deciding vote, since he's male.
For other issues, you each explain your position, listen respectfully to the other, seriously consider their viewpoint, and come to agreement. |
Anonymous
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Become Jewish? Point out concerns about STDs later in life?
Both are equally valid viewpoints with reasonable positions behind them. Don't try to win, try to come to a conclusion you both feel good about. |
Anonymous
Is this how you approach everything where you disagree with your husband? If so- I feel bad for him. Hopefully he'll get shared custody. |
Anonymous
| He's the one with a penis, I think the advantage goes to him. I let my dh decide for our son. |
Anonymous
| Circumcision is barbaric. Please don't mutilate your son by removing the most functional and sensitive part of his sex organ. Consider if you were removing the inner labia of your daughter because it might be "cleaner". |
Anonymous
| If you want to convince your DH, make a list of health conditions that can occur later in life when circumcision isn't done. Convince him that he may need to have it done later when it's more painful and requires stitches. Circumcision also dramatically lowers the risk of acquiring STDs, including HIV. |
Anonymous
It is far from barbaric. Calm down. That said, you need to listen to your husband. If he is against it, I wouldn't go throug wit it. |
Anonymous
Nonsensical. He has no more right over this decision than you do. |
Anonymous
| I would prefer circumcision as well. However, I don't approach arguments as a zero-sum game in which I must win and the "other side" is to be convinced and vanquished. You need to come to a workable solution, which may or may not be circumcision. It means listening to each other, being thoughtful, and deciding what's right for your family. |
Anonymous
You are cutting a functional sex organ... on an infant. |
Anonymous
| We circumcised our son but if my husband didn't want to I wouldn't have. If one person's preference involves optional surgery and the other's doesn't, I would go with the preference for no surgery. |
Anonymous
| Yep, I figured the one of us with a penis should have the right to decide. (He went with no). |
Anonymous
| I agree with 18:41. This is an optional, cosmetic surgery. If your spouse is against it, do not do it. The foreskin can always be removed later in life. If you remove it now, it cannot be repaired. I was opposed to circumcision and NOTHING my spouse could say would sway me, because all the arguments for it did not seem convincing to me. |
Anonymous
Not the organ, a skin that's hanging off, but that is not important here. The fact that her husband is against it is what matters. |