Take a look in the mirror. He probably thinks the EXACT SAME about you. He's likely not he only problem. You're part of the issue as well. Keep that in mind with all that hatred you have... |
I agree with previous posters that this was not a compelling example at all. I am in a situation where I am choosing to stay. He is toxic. But here is how I stay:
1. pick your battles. 2. go to therapy for yourself. 3. do not protect him. I don't excuse his behavior, his words, his actions. 4. build a strong relationship with your kid. You may want to read Lisa D'Amour - she has a great book on parenting teens. 5. find your own happiness. 6. do not expect him to change. You need to find your happiness without needing him to change at all. |
I think the OP was concerned he might never come back. |
Yeah, this is his problem. Why are you trying to solve his problems, OP? If he’s a dumbass, that’s on him. Let him fail. |
Split up. It’s only going to get worse. Ask me how I know. |
OP, is this you?
https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1193579.page |
Sounds like you picked a fight with him. Your kid is 13 and you're worried about her staying up 30 minutes past her bedtime? He was driving, it was his choice to make. You need to stop nitpicking everything he does. That ought to help. |
OMG, I remember that insane post. |
But the 13 year old WANTS to inherit the house of misery! |