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How do I nicely tell my MIL to stop using a nickname she created for my DD?
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Anonymous
| Choose your battles carefully--is this really worth hurting your MIL. It sounds as though you already have resentment toward her and this is just your way of showing her "who's boss." Grow up. |
Anonymous
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NP here - I didnt read this whole thread, but how about a good ol' fashioned self-deprecating lie -
something like "I know that I'm being really silly, but I knew someone in my childhood with that nickname and I just hated this person. Do you think you can come up with a different nickname for her?" |
Anonymous
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You're WAY too controlling, OP.
I don't think it's about the nickname either. |
Anonymous
| OP here, um, I got some nice and not-so-nice comments. Can't believe I'm considered "controlling" just b/c I don't like a nickname my child was given. Wow. |
Anonymous
| My dear aunt who recently passed away had a nickname for me that her children (my cousins) used, and my mom still affectionately uses it from time to time today (and even some of my dearest old friends who know about it)--I loved it. I was still known by my real name by most friends, family, out and about...I see no harm that can come from what your MIL is doing. I would let it go. Your DD will come to associate the nickname with her loving relationship with her G-ma, especially since you don't ever use it. |
Anonymous
You've missed the point. It's not the fact that you don't like it; we're all irked by things like that. It's that you believe you have the right to control her behavior. |
Anonymous
I quite agree. Be irked all you want, but, really, that's your issue. If the nickname grew out of love and if your son doesn't mind it, then... Unless it's derogatory. Then you should step in. But if it's just a Joey or JoJo or Jose in lieu of Joseph, well, I'd strongly recommend learning to chill out and butt out of this. |