Is it easier to tell lies in relationships in D.C.?

[Anonymous]

I am a Midwesterner. I grew up in a mid sized city. I was raised in an ethnic enclave where our grandparents and great grandparents came over on the boat together and went way back for generations to the old country. We all knew each other. Our families did not like us to date people if they didn't know their families or who they were and where they came from.


When I moved to D.C., I found myself being "schooled" by women younger than I, about the B.S. that men in D.C. dish out. I am also a woman. I have found it nearly impossible to believe or trust anyone, especially in a romantic relationship, who I meet from here. D.C. does lend itself to being a place where people move from other places, and they can reinvent themselves. And lie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:D.C. does lend itself to being a place where people move from other places, and they can reinvent themselves. And lie.

This has been true of big cities forever.

[Anonymous]

I think DC is also a city where people are used to making themselves sound more important/influential/stable than they are. So you'll meet someone who will say they're an advisor on X issue or to Y person, and that means that they're a consultant who worked one time on a project involving X issue or with Y person.

It's not just the men either. I know a woman who is unemployed, who works on a project basis with a couple of companies and NGOs. Depending on who she's talking to, I've heard her claim to be an employee of the company and the NGO, as well as saying that she's on the job market.

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

You'll learn to use your intuition instead of relying on gossip that reaches back a couple of generations. You'll also learn how to navigate relationships that come without preconceived judgements and pedigree. It's a good thing to develop so you can rely on your own good judgement.

And of course not everyone in a larger city is lying. I met my DH there, and was refreshingly honest about his quirks and the family's dirty laundry, from the beginning.

[Anonymous]

Harder in the age of Google.

[Anonymous]

Comic strip poster is back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Comic strip poster is back.

Like a recurring nightmare.