toddler was bitten at daycare and now he has a big purple bruise on his arm

[Anonymous]

FTM of a 19 month old. Picked DS up from daycare and learned that he and another toddler get into a wrestling match over a toy, DS hit the kid, and the kid bit him. DS' left with a big purple bruise on his arm.

Is there anything more I should do at this point? I'm a little stressed that DS hit another kid in his class. This is his first time, and hopefully the last. DH and I have been working with him for months to extinguish the hitting behavior when he's angry/frustrated. I'm also upset that his arm is bruised. WWYD if you were me?

[Anonymous]

Nothing, besides continuing to encourage language skills for your little one- children at that age hit/bite because they cannot express themselves. Just keep working on that...not only so your LO can express his feelings but also advocate for himself when one of his playmates is too rough.

This incident is perfectly normal and sounds like it was handled appropriately by the daycare staff (meaning they informed you of the incident.)

[Anonymous]

How long has he been in daycare?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How long has he been in daycare?

Since he was 4 months old.

[Anonymous]

When did his aggression begin?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When did his aggression begin?

He started hitting us at home around 11 months old. Sometimes he will kick. Has never been a biter.

He's not aggressive at daycare from what we've been told.

[Anonymous]

Hitting / biting is not normal behavior, although certain people will scream their disagreement. I can only suspect that something was happening at daycare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hitting / biting is not normal behavior, although certain people will scream their disagreement. I can only suspect that something was happening at daycare.

You clearly know nothing about toddlers and normal development. Bugger off.

To the OP: agree w earlier posts to just keep working on using his words

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hitting / biting is not normal behavior, although certain people will scream their disagreement. I can only suspect that something was happening at daycare.

You clearly know nothing about toddlers and normal development. Bugger off.

To the OP: agree w earlier posts to just keep working on using his words

Don't ask how much parents pay me for consultations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hitting / biting is not normal behavior, although certain people will scream their disagreement. I can only suspect that something was happening at daycare.

You clearly know nothing about toddlers and normal development. Bugger off.

To the OP: agree w earlier posts to just keep working on using his words

Don't ask how much parents pay me for consultations.

Lol. We won't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hitting / biting is not normal behavior, although certain people will scream their disagreement. I can only suspect that something was happening at daycare.

You clearly know nothing about toddlers and normal development. Bugger off.

To the OP: agree w earlier posts to just keep working on using his words

Don't ask how much parents pay me for consultations.

Lol. We won't.

Well done. Lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hitting / biting is not normal behavior, although certain people will scream their disagreement. I can only suspect that something was happening at daycare.

Like what?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hitting / biting is not normal behavior, although certain people will scream their disagreement. I can only suspect that something was happening at daycare.

You clearly know nothing about toddlers and normal development. Bugger off.

To the OP: agree w earlier posts to just keep working on using his words

Don't ask how much parents pay me for consultations.

Liar.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:FTM of a 19 month old. Picked DS up from daycare and learned that he and another toddler get into a wrestling match over a toy, DS hit the kid, and the kid bit him. DS' left with a big purple bruise on his arm.

Is there anything more I should do at this point? I'm a little stressed that DS hit another kid in his class. This is his first time, and hopefully the last. DH and I have been working with him for months to extinguish the hitting behavior when he's angry/frustrated. I'm also upset that his arm is bruised. WWYD if you were me?

I'd suggest that you have a look at the written report, if you haven't already seen it. You may want to confirm that what they told you is consistant with what they recorded.

[Anonymous]

Totally normal. They all go through phases...yours will probably move on to biting next then kicking then the screaming phase. Just keep reinforcing good behavior-- it's just something he's trying out for now and if you keep reinforcing good behavior, he will move past it.