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It could be worse than a cheating husband...
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Anonymous
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I'm trying to get myself to a place where I'm not feeling sorry for my plight with a cheating husband and looming divorce. So I'm trying to think of all the worse fates than divorce and I'm surprised at how many things are actually worse fates!
My list: I'd rather get divorced than... Lose one of my aging parents Lose one of my kids (!!) Be in a disfiguring car accident Lose my sight Lose my sense of humor Relocate halfway around the world Lose all my money (which isn't much!) Anyone else care to join in? |
Anonymous
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First of all, I am so sorry for your situation. Having been there, I applaud you for looking on the bright/right side. Keep your chin up! I wouldn't wish dvorce on my worst enemy, but it is a far, far better alternative than living with a cheater for the rest of your life.
I would rather get divorced than... Lose myself and the strength and confidence that my children need me to have to be a good mother! |
Anonymous
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Getting divorced sucks.
BEING divorced rocks: I don't have some man's crap in my house. My legs are some serious kind of fuzzy right now and nobody is giving me any grief about it. Any dishes in the sink are my fault. The deed to my house has MY name, and only my name on it. I well up a little when I look at it. I think about my mom, my grandmothers, my great-grandmothers, who couldn't even open a checking account without a spouse. I learned how to do stuff I didn't used to know how to do. E.g., some basic car care, how to mow a lawn, and how to navigate a legal system. I got over the fear of living alone. I built my community, and I'm still building it. My son knows what a house where everyone is treated with respect looks like. I am no longer modeling a really crappy relationship for my son. It's going to be a good new year. |
Anonymous
Love this reply 
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Anonymous
I'd rather get divorced than live my life with someone who is a cheater. Life in a relationship with a person who cheats IS a fate FAR worse than divorce! As a fellow cheated-upon, I can attest that while being cheated upon and having to get divorced sucks, being divorced and living a life without the cheater (or at least with as minimal contact with the cheater as I can manage given we have kids together) is wonderful. I can't imagine having stayed. And while I don't have the life I wished for when I got married, even being alone is better than being together and cheated upon. I count myself so fortunate now... |
Anonymous
| OP, do you mean *not* worse then divorce? Your first paragraph indicates you are looking for things worse then divorce, but the sentence before your list says "things that are worse than" If you loose your sight, that will only happen once. Your heart, brain and emotions will still work, and you will still be able to parent and bein a loving romantic relationship. If you relocate, you will be able to come home I do agree, loosing your sense of humor is a death knell. |
Anonymous
| Now that I am single, my life keeps getting better and better. What's not to love? |
Anonymous
| 15:27 Do you do 50-50 split or have full custody? |
Anonymous
If it helps, I have quite a few friends who've divorced over the years and all but one of them are happily remarried or happily coupled/engaged. (the last holdout has other issues besides the divorce.) Many of them are also better off in other ways, including financially. In the short term, this sucks bigtime. But in the long run, chances are you will be better off. Cheating means that either the guy or the relationship had issues. Now you're free to either look for someone else who is better suited to you, or you are free to do whatever the hell you want, by yourself. 
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