Yup. I don't get it. Being a couple (IMO) means you are working together for everything as a couple. Debt means less home/car/vacations/etc. Don't understand how you can say the social worker making $40K has to drive a 10+yo beater car while the doctor making 250K gets a sports car for $70K because they can "afford it". You are not really a couple if everything is separate. My HHI spouse fully admits that having me be SAHP allowed them to easily focus on work and advance further (and I was making $100K+ 25+ years ago when I became SAHP, so contributing well to the family finances). I was never "given an allowance"---I manage the finances as part of "my being the SAHP". I wouldn't want to be married to someone who used $$$ as control. Once we got married we joined finances and worked towards goals together (including paying off their major debt of over 60K) |
Muscling your wife to pay off your debts. How romantic. |
She should not use any premarital assets of hers to pay it off. Keep separate and don’t mingle. But use marital funds and joint income to pay it off as a team. |
Lol, are you kidding - DCUM is unfair to women?? This site is largely female, with a disproportionate representation of radical feminists. Specifically on the issue of prenups, threads here always include some respondents who insist that they would never remarry without one (if they would remarry at all), while acknowledging at the same time that they would have been extremely offended if their ex-husband (from whom they acquired their wealth via a divorce settlement) had requested one before marriage. |
+1 |