Guy's opinion - Why guys go radio silent?

[Anonymous]

I've been seeing this guy for a little over a month. Right out of the gates we had incredible chemistry and we've been seeing each other about once a week and texting (very flirtatiously) pretty much every day/other day. When we are together he is incredibly engaged, says things about planning trips together and how incredible our chemistry is, etc. He's very very flattering in terms of telling me how much he finds me sexy, attractive, etc. The other week he brought up the "where is this going" conversation, which sort of caught me off guard and had I thought that thru better first would have responded more coherently but essentially we agreed we liked each other and spending time together. For the most part our relationship has been physical, but we've gone to dinner/drinks several times

The trouble he tends to go into these periods of "radio silence". It just so happens that each week either he or I (or both) have been traveling over the weekends and he won't even text me or respond to any texts at all over the weekends. It's really bizarre. Now I'm guessing that this is just his way of telling me he's not serious about me, but I am just struggling to put the two pieces together. I do like this one and would like to get closer but am afraid of pushing him away. He's about 7 years younger than me.

I'm sure I'm just being dense and looking for another answer to what the reality probably is (that's he's just not that into me) but it really does not add up given the way he is when we are together. It's kind of driving me crazy!

Any insight guy?

[Anonymous]

He is with someone else on the weekends?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He is with someone else on the weekends?

+1

[Anonymous]

Nope. That would make sense but two of the weekends he was with his family and this weekend at an out of town wedding. Honestly, it's not like we have discussed being exclusive so I have no doubt he might be seeing other people; however, would that preclude him from at least responding to at text? Espec to someone he's showing definite interest in.

I don't get it.

[Anonymous]

Something similar happened to my friend. He was married with a wife who traveled a lot during the week/worked late hours. Made it very easy for him to get away with it. My friend started to get suspicious when, after 2 months, they still hadn't had a real weekend date/she'd never spent much time at his house.

She ended up calling his office disguised as a florist and told his secretary something along the lines of "HI this is X florist. Mr. Z arranged to have some flowers delivered to his wife, but unfortunately her name was entered wrong in the order. Would you be able to correct that for me?" I had to give her a lot of credit for that one.

[Anonymous]

Women try harder when they like someone who doesn't seem to like them as much back. Maybe he's just keeping you interested by making you insecure. Women get bored of nice guys who are always available like they say they want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Something similar happened to my friend. He was married with a wife who traveled a lot during the week/worked late hours. Made it very easy for him to get away with it. My friend started to get suspicious when, after 2 months, they still hadn't had a real weekend date/she'd never spent much time at his house.

She ended up calling his office disguised as a florist and told his secretary something along the lines of "HI this is X florist. Mr. Z arranged to have some flowers delivered to his wife, but unfortunately her name was entered wrong in the order. Would you be able to correct that for me?" I had to give her a lot of credit for that one.

WOW - Well I don't think this guy is quite that devious. I was previously married to someone who WAS devious that way so I'm pretty tuned to it. Like I said he's young, lives with roommates. And we have a friend of friend in common who told me he was single.

[Anonymous]

On one hand it could be that he does like you and is afraid you might not like him. Maybe he feels you like him too much and is trying to tell you he just wants this to be physical. He only comes into the picture when he wants sex?

[Anonymous]

He's just not that into you.

It's hard to say you've been seeing someone for a month when that means seeing him once per week (4-5 times total?). If a guy likes you, he'll be pursuing you and lining up the next date before tonight's date is even over.

I'm not trying to be mean. We've all been there. He's just not serious about you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:On one hand it could be that he does like you and is afraid you might not like him. Maybe he feels you like him too much and is trying to tell you he just wants this to be physical. He only comes into the picture when he wants sex?

Don't fall for this. He's afraid of getting hurt, blah blah blah.

Men are socialized to pursue women they like. If he's not pursuing you, he not that into it. It's very old school, but true.

[Anonymous]

The reason why doesn't actually matter that much. Does it make a difference whether he is with another woman, married, or just not that interested in you? Either way, the answer is that the relationship will not be moving forward. Cut him lose.

[Anonymous]

He likes the sex. If he is busy (and therefore can't do you) why respond?

[Anonymous]

Spending time with his family and family wedding is code for "I'm married or have a serious girlfriend". He's just into you for the sex. I'm sorry.

[Anonymous]

You gave up the pussy too soon.

[Anonymous]

He's not that into you. Move on