But it really doesn't matter that these were all fellow moms at OP's kid's school whom OP is thus acquainted with. Surely there are plenty more than 15 kids at the school, and all those other moms of those kids -- who are probably also friendly with one or two someones at that table -- weren't there either. OP's post describes one instance of moms meeting up to socialize. It does not describe cliquish behavior. (Maybe these women are cliquey, but we wouldn't know that in the slightest from the OP.) |
Agree we need an update on that Stat even if the response was crickets. OP don't let us down. |
Yes. Omg you all are exhausting. This is beyond bananas that anyone would care about this and be offended enough to send a text about not getting invited. Wave, say hi, move on with your day. That is all OP needed to do. OP has said nothing indicting this is some mean mom Clique. |
OP here—I live in a small subdivision maybe 15 houses. Most of the moms (except for one) are moms from my kids classes. There was one mom that was not, but I know her as well. We had coffee together a couple of times. |
I don't know if OP is someone who needs to hear this, but here goes: friendships, even so-called "mom friendships", take time, work, and effort. You don't get an invites to the lunches, etc. just by showing up at the bus stop or soccer practice and making chit chat about your kids' schedules or the weather. You need to reach out to people, ask them to have coffee or go for a walk, show interest in their lives, have actual conversation, form connections... Sometimes you need to be the one to organize and host the outing... I hear women complain about being excluded or cliques, but they are doing diddly squat to try and form friendships.
Presumably it was only like one or two of these women who initiated and organized the get together. And presumably it was the initiators/organizers who got to set the guest list, which also presumably had a cap since this was at restaurant or similar venue. OP it probably wasn't one of the women that you are closer with who were doing the planning and inviting. NBD. |
+1 |
Did I miss why the subdivision is relevant? These women have kids are your school, but they don't all live in your subdivision, right? |
Another DP. Based on little information, you are all projecting your own biases on this situation. Some of the overlong posts on here are just crazy with the invented details in order to justify gaslighting the OP. Some people really do use DCUM as some kind of therapy. |
No, the longwinded posts are the from those triggered by seeing groups of women out with out them and their intense FOMO. |
If I were the OP, I'd give you nothing. The PPs on here will twist anything she says to make the situation her fault and tell her how she deserves to be left out of every activity ever. It's absolutely bananas on this thread. |
Nope. |
So most aren't your neighbors, some of the moms are in some of your kids' classes, and you don't even know them all very well. What do you think the connection is among these women and why do you think you should have been included? It wasn't all the neighborhood, or all the parent in all the classes, what makes you so special? |
I guess you missed the last 21 pages. |
What are you taking about? Based on the little information, there is nothing at all weird or wrong that these women did. The only bizarre part was OPs text. |
This is so dumb. If there were 15 people there, it's likely that every single other parent in the class know several people there. According to your logic, they all should feel hurt that they weren't invited too - which would be ridiculous. People are allowed to socialize with their friends without taking a poll to make sure that anyone with a connection to three of them also is invited. And OP's text - oh boy. That is, 100%, being circulated amongst the other moms, accompanied by eyerolls and comments about how they'll definitely not invite OP next time, either. |