Would you sign a prenup?

[Anonymous]

Yes or no?
Situation is that the groom's family has a family run business. Now the one son is engaged and the parents told the son his bride must sign a prenup to protect the business. She was blindsided. It goes against her value system.
The groom says he won't make her sign.
Parents say they are not coming to the wedding, it's a large wedding.

Thoughts on this?
Would you sign?

They are late twenties and no kids and have never been married before.

[Anonymous]

I would sign.

[Anonymous]

Hell no.

Then I would kiss my husband to be for supporting me and holding true to the vows we are about to take.

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

I would sign a very specific prenup that states I am not entitled to his families business. I would make sure that there is nothing else folded into the agreement...like nothing else. Nothing about his assets, income, division of future incomes, retirement, ect. I would get my own lawyer to read the agreement.

[Anonymous]

I would, but I came into my relationship with more financially so I think that makes me biased.

[Anonymous]

Yes, we did. We both had assets that we wanted to make sure stayed within our families, should anything happen. We are about to celebrate our 11th anniversary with no problems, but there are assets and heirlooms that really need to stay within our families. The point is to be honest and fair. In our case, we both came in with a fair amount of assets and there is still a lot of shared marital assets that will be divided evenly, but there are certain important things that need to be set aside before the division. However my sister got suckered by a completely unbalanced prenuptial that did screw her when she did divorce, so I've seen both sides.

If you are faced with a prenuptial, then you need to get adequate legal representation to make sure that you are protected by the prenuptial and it doesn't leave you completely resourceless in the event of a separation. Get a good divorce lawyer to represent you in the negotiations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would sign a very specific prenup that states I am not entitled to his families business. I would make sure that there is nothing else folded into the agreement...like nothing else. Nothing about his assets, income, division of future incomes, retirement, ect. I would get my own lawyer to read the agreement.

That's a good idea.
Would you be bothered if you we the only child in law asked to sign?

[Anonymous]

I mean were not we.

[Anonymous]

He's stupid.

--Signed a woman with a family business

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's stupid.

--Signed a woman with a family business

Why is he stupid?
I knows many people who own businesses and didn't do that.

[Anonymous]

Hmmm. I did not and would not have signed a prenup when I got married. If for some reason I get a divorce, now that I have kids I would absolutely sign one if I got married again (to protect my kids assets, inheritance, etc.) So I guess, given that, I can at least understand why his parents want the prenup. But that's their problem, not hers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hmmm. I did not and would not have signed a prenup when I got married. If for some reason I get a divorce, now that I have kids I would absolutely sign one if I got married again (to protect my kids assets, inheritance, etc.) So I guess, given that, I can at least understand why his parents want the prenup. But that's their problem, not hers.

OP here, I would feel differently for a second marriage or if children were involved.

[Anonymous]

No.

[Anonymous]

No.