Pros in the city speed dating?

[Anonymous]

A friend suggested I try this on a weekend...I am kind of terrified at the prospect, but I guess I could give it a go.

Has anyone had any experiences, positive or negative?

On the website, it seems they are always looking for men to fill up the spaces. (I'm a woman)

Seems a little discouraging from the get-go.

[Anonymous]

Horrible, horrible experience.
First guy I met when I tried speed dating told me that he dated a married woman. He was bragging about it. He brought up the topic, so it was definitely something he wanted to discuss.

Read the reviews on yelp.

[Anonymous]

Horrible, horrible experience.
First guy I met when I tried speed dating told me that he dated a married woman. He was bragging about it. He brought up the topic, so it was definitely something he wanted to discuss.

Read the reviews on yelp.

How long did you date him for?

[Anonymous]

Doctorfeelgood wrote:As a friend of one of the people in town who used to put these on I can give you some guidance here.

1. The girls are most usually frumpy at best. Not willing to do what it takes to be attractive and in the mode of finding someone who will put up with their laziness. They hope the guy they find doesn't smell too bad or dress up like a furry animal and simulate sex with other furry animals at conventions on the weekends. These women are educated, but not succesful to the point they should be. Their laziness in looks translates to their job performance. Educated, but not dynamic.

2. Men know about point #1. We also know that girls worth dating don't need to be forced into situations to find guys. Girls worth dating get hit on everywhere, not just a pre-planned events.

3. The men that do go to these things smell and dress up like furry animals on the weekends and simulate sex with other furry animals at conventions. They do not have the confidence to approach women in the wild, so they must resort to hunting them in captivity (speed dating). There's something wrong with a guy who can not simply walk up to a woman he finds attractive and ask her to spend time with him. You'll find this out if you go speed dating.

Give me your situation and I will give you a better solution - guaranteed.

Haha! OP here. That's what I suspected. Sigh. I am not trying to be egotistical but I am told I am a very attractive woman. When I go out I tend to get hit on by 20-somethings, and that is not what I am looking for.

My issue is that I work from home, have my kid the vast majority of the time, and haven't had a lot of success meeting quality men online. I am trying to think outside of the box and do something I haven't already tried! But maybe this isn't it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Horrible, horrible experience.
First guy I met when I tried speed dating told me that he dated a married woman. He was bragging about it. He brought up the topic, so it was definitely something he wanted to discuss.

Read the reviews on yelp.

How long did you date him for?

I didn't date him at all! He was the first one I met in the little switch-every-three-minutes meeting. I have higher standards than that.

[Anonymous]

DoctorFeelGood -- I'm not the OP, but I'm very tempted to answer your questionnaire to find out where you think I'll meet my Mr. Right!

[Anonymous]

Doctorfeelgood wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DoctorFeelGood -- I'm not the OP, but I'm very tempted to answer your questionnaire to find out where you think I'll meet my Mr. Right!

Are you divorced with children? If "yes" - then please answer and it will work. If not divorced or you don't have kids - I have different criteria. I can still help you.

You know, you just come off as weird and creepy with your posts. Seriously, just weird. OP take note - this is the kind of guy you are likely to meet at one of these events. Steer clear.

[Anonymous]

Do you care to provide me with some information? I can tell you when an where you will me Mr. Right.

OK, Dr. Feelgood, not OP, but I'll bite. (OP do you mind if I play? ). Going to be vague on some of the demographics for anonymity, but here you go:

1. Age - 37
2. Weight/dress size/height: 115 lbs, 5'2".
3. Three shows or movies you like. Shows: The Office, Law & Order. Movie: Empire of the Sun.
4. Books you are reading: The Whole Brain Child, The Woman Upstairs, We Need to Talk About Kevin (very different from the movie and a great read).
5. Activities you do with your kids the most: LO is a new walker. We wrestle on "the big bed", go to the park, cuddle and read books.
6. Line of work: Publishing.
7. Home state and rough geographic location of the city (i.e. northern california): Midwest.
8. Your favorite dish - something you order when you go out, not make at home: A nice rare steak, a good glass of red wine.
9. Where you would like to retire: Near family, mine or his, hopefully both, hopefully on the coast. Any coast will do.
10.Where you would prefer your children go to college and a degree you'd like them to have: Somewhere big enough that they find their voice and small enough that they won't get lost. Somewhere reasonably priced would help, as I plan to have the same deal with them that my parents had for us: Undergrad, we pay. Grad, you pay. Their degree: one that helps them write clearly, think critically, and that challenges their beliefs. Hopefully will lead to a job, but if not, the prospect of self-financing the grad degree tends to add a dose of practicality to the situation.
11. The kind of car you drove before you had kids: Going to get flamed for this, but it was a Boxster. I miss it. But no backseat.
12. Where you live now - DC, VA or MD? some place other is okay: DC.
13. Massage and pedicure/manicure habits: Not a massage/mani/pedi girl. Nails are clean and short. Just never got into this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Doctorfeelgood wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DoctorFeelGood -- I'm not the OP, but I'm very tempted to answer your questionnaire to find out where you think I'll meet my Mr. Right!

Are you divorced with children? If "yes" - then please answer and it will work. If not divorced or you don't have kids - I have different criteria. I can still help you.

You know, you just come off as weird and creepy with your posts. Seriously, just weird. OP take note - this is the kind of guy you are likely to meet at one of these events. Steer clear.

Um yeah, +1000

[Anonymous]

I'm a divorced dad in DC, 21:59. Loved your answers. I guess neither of us will be at speed dating. But wishing there was a place to connect. xo

[Anonymous]

Thanks, 23:19! Was awaiting the Rx from Dr. Feelgood (kind of like shaking a magic 8-ball), but appreciate the compliment. Only fair to hear your responses to same questions though...maybe Dr. FG knows Ms. Right as well as Mr.? Anyway...go!

[Anonymous]

I went to one once and left even though I had pre paid. The room was full of attractive women and then a few nerdy unattractive guys. I would have been one to meeting the guys but didnt feel like elbowing aside twenty other women to do so. Men should totally go to these things!! They are full of women. And I have loads of attractive female friends who go to this stuff. Meeting people is tough, ESP once you are over 30 and thus there are less parties, etc, to go to. When I was younger I met guys at parties but now hardly any of my friends throw parties.

[Anonymous]

Please tell me what to do doctor:

1. age - range is fine 40
2. weight/dress size/height - something to let me know your size 36 F on top, size 12 bottom
3. three shows or movies you like Hobbit, Game of Thrones, Avatar (watch with my kids)
4. books you are reading Just got The Graveyard Book by Neil Gamain
5. activities you do with your kids the most Playground, music
6. line of work Finance at a non profit
7. home state and rough geographic location of the city (i.e. northern california) Maine - coast
8. your favorite dish - something you order when you go out, not make at home. Sushi
9. Where you would like to retire Maine for summer, FLA for winter
10. Where you would prefer your children go to college and a degree you'd like them to have VA state school, veterinary science, biological science
11. the kind of car you drove before you had kids Pre kid, Honda CRV, did off road camping. Now, a Prius I don't like it.
12. where you live now - DC, VA or MD? some place other is okay. VA
13. massage and pedicure/manicure habits. no massage, regular manicures, but about to lose the manicures because I started taking Mandolin lessons.

[Anonymous]

Wow, I'm loving the Dr's 09:43 answer!

[Anonymous]

Huh. That's a more thoughtful response than I was expecting, DFG. And you're right on about a number of things...I've learned that my upbringing in the midwest shaped my personality in a number of ways, as did the men in my life at that time. Both parents remarried 20 years ago and both Dad and Step-dad are solid-to-the-core, "do the right thing" guys. And yes, entropy is kryptonite to me. Looks like I'll be opening my eyes a bit more at my local bookstore/farmer's market.

Thanks for giving me something to think about.