6yo little girl with a unibrow-being teased

[Anonymous]

Don't say anything more to your SIL.

For your niece, tell her that kids who want to tease are called bully, that they will always look for something to use (too short, too tall, too many hair, too few hair,...) that she is beautiful as it is.....
that she should ignore them, look at them in the eye (good anti-bully) and tall them that it is not nice to make fun of others, how would they feel if she made fun of them, then ignore.

[Anonymous]

Get the school involved and make sure the teasing stops. Leave the child the way she is. It's not she who has to change - the kids teasing her need some serious changes to their behavior and how they judge other children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG, shes 6!!! Perhaps we could do a better job of teaching our 6 year olds not to tease, rather than insisting this child start modifying herself to fit beauty standards before even hitting puberty.

+1. What a horrible lesson to teach a six year old that something is wrong with her. I hate talking to my 12 year old about hair removal. They are fine as they are, IMO.

[Anonymous]

OP here, just thought I'd update. Unibrow is gone, my niece was really crying over it and my brother had enough and insisted. SIL still thinks its ridiculous and no big deal, thinks my niece will get over it but agreed. He took her to get it waxed this time but I told him about threading for future reference. Thanks for all the advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let her know that there is NOTHING wrong with her or her unibrow.
Empower her to love it and dismiss teasing. If she can explain why it is special and beautiful, it will diminish power of insults. The kids will think it's cool - ala Rudolph the Red Nose Reindeer.
Show her pictures of girls and women with unique features. Frida Kahlo, Lauren Hutton, Cara Delvigne - beautiful women. My niece has a giant gap tooth and I am so hoping she chooses to keep it.

https://darcyarts.files.wordpress.com/2008/06/kahlo.jpg

+1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't see why people make such a huge deal out of fixing a uni brown. I mean it is unsightly and adults do not go around with them so why make a child do it? You don't tell the kid there is something wrong with them you just tell them that for some people this is part of the grooming routine.

Maybe adults should own their unibrows.

[Anonymous]

My poor cousin (female) had seriously hairy legs at around 11 years old. She was tall and stocky and the nickname sasquatch followed her all the way through school. It f'd up her self esteem.

Don't make a social justice stand with your daughter/niece, let the poor girl have some peace at school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, just thought I'd update. Unibrow is gone, my niece was really crying over it and my brother had enough and insisted. SIL still thinks its ridiculous and no big deal, thinks my niece will get over it but agreed. He took her to get it waxed this time but I told him about threading for future reference. Thanks for all the advice.

So glad -- I'm all for empowering girls, but when it is such a little thing and it's causing is much distress, it's an easy fix. It's a brow wax- routine maintenance for many women. Your niece started a bit early.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG, shes 6!!! Perhaps we could do a better job of teaching our 6 year olds not to tease, rather than insisting this child start modifying herself to fit beauty standards before even hitting puberty.

Yes, this.

What is being done to stop the teasing? I mean, other than altering the little girl's natural aspect. What actions are being undertaken against the ill-bred children who are doing the teasing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the child were being teased because she had dark skin, would you suggest a skin-lightening product?

She's six. SIX. And her mother is trying to protect her from a lifetime of messages aimed at women trying to get them to believe there is something wrong with their appearance. OP, if you want to be an ally to this kid, help her mom with that message.

This.

Also, why is the school allowing the teasing to go on?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG, shes 6!!! Perhaps we could do a better job of teaching our 6 year olds not to tease, rather than insisting this child start modifying herself to fit beauty standards before even hitting puberty.

This.

Just love her for who she is. Look past it. Help her see joy and to be joyful. so much of being accepted by other kids comes from how someone carries herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My poor cousin (female) had seriously hairy legs at around 11 years old. She was tall and stocky and the nickname sasquatch followed her all the way through school. It f'd up her self esteem.

Don't make a social justice stand with your daughter/niece, let the poor girl have some peace at school.

+1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG, shes 6!!! Perhaps we could do a better job of teaching our 6 year olds not to tease, rather than insisting this child start modifying herself to fit beauty standards before even hitting puberty.

Thank you. Ridiculous that we are talking about salons, bleaching etc... for a 6yr old. OP, if I was your sister I would be offended too. WTF???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, just thought I'd update. Unibrow is gone, my niece was really crying over it and my brother had enough and insisted. SIL still thinks its ridiculous and no big deal, thinks my niece will get over it but agreed. He took her to get it waxed this time but I told him about threading for future reference. Thanks for all the advice.

Sorry but waxing a 6yr old's face is child abuse in my eyes. You basically just told her that SHE needs to change herself to conform and stop teasing. Not dealing with the teasing. Did she not like herself before or only when the teasing started. My guess is the teasing which means it is the teasers who have the issue, not her. Honestly, this is so sad. Hope she doesn't get teased about weight in the future. I see a bulimic in the making.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, just thought I'd update. Unibrow is gone, my niece was really crying over it and my brother had enough and insisted. SIL still thinks its ridiculous and no big deal, thinks my niece will get over it but agreed. He took her to get it waxed this time but I told him about threading for future reference. Thanks for all the advice.

Sorry but waxing a 6yr old's face is child abuse in my eyes. You basically just told her that SHE needs to change herself to conform and stop teasing. Not dealing with the teasing. Did she not like herself before or only when the teasing started. My guess is the teasing which means it is the teasers who have the issue, not her. Honestly, this is so sad. Hope she doesn't get teased about weight in the future. I see a bulimic in the making.

Not allowing her access to an easy solution to a problem that is upsetting her is child abuse in my eyes.