6yo little girl with a unibrow-being teased

[Anonymous]

Waxing only hurts the first time. The pain is less the subsequent times. I would 100% get it waxed or threaded.

[Anonymous]

My DD is also 6 and she has lots of dark hair growing on her upper lip area. She hasn't mentioned anyone teasing her, but I do worry as it seems to be getting more pronounced. My 8 year old DS has it too (he really looks like he has a mustache - I'm not kidding) but we shave him with an electric razor. I'm reluctant to shave my DD for obvious reasons. Does threading work on upper lip area too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG, shes 6!!! Perhaps we could do a better job of teaching our 6 year olds not to tease, rather than insisting this child start modifying herself to fit beauty standards before even hitting puberty.

I don't think OP has any control over the children that are teasing her niece.

[Anonymous]

Start a Go Fund Me to cover the costs of the hair removal

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DD is also 6 and she has lots of dark hair growing on her upper lip area. She hasn't mentioned anyone teasing her, but I do worry as it seems to be getting more pronounced. My 8 year old DS has it too (he really looks like he has a mustache - I'm not kidding) but we shave him with an electric razor. I'm reluctant to shave my DD for obvious reasons. Does threading work on upper lip area too?

I'm a hairy lady who has tried every possible hair removal option under the sun.

Yes, threading works great on the upper lip area.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Start a Go Fund Me to cover the costs of the hair removal

Not sure what this means, am I out of some loop?

[Anonymous]

My daughter was teased in G1 about her light, barely noticeable unibrow, too. It was one kid in particular who was using it as a way to yield power over her. She was distraught, I suggested a variety of strategies to deal with the teasing (and broached it with the teacher--it wasn't confined to the unibrow). I also told her that if it really distresses her, I will take her with me when I get my eyebrows waxed (nothing major, just a little here and a little there--I'm far too lazy to pluck even the few stray hairs myself. Anyhoo).

She said yes.

So we went.

The aesthetician was incredibly GREAT! She didn't shape or mold my DD's eyebrows, just whisked a little bit off the middle. She was funny, cool, said she LOVED all kinds of eyebrows, even unibrows! We had a funny, good time. DD didn't look any different in the end, that I could tell. But it made all the difference to my daughter.

Not long after, my DD's AWESOME first grade teacher got right on the teasing-prevention train and shut that whole circus down. DD got full permission to come to her and the playground monitor when any sort of teasing erupted, and they took care of it. When it was time for my next brow appointment, I asked my DD if she wanted to come.

"No, mom, I'm okay now. The teasing stopped. I like my eyebrows just fine."

The end.

For now. Grade 2 and we're going strong.

I felt silly taking my DD to get her brows waxed, too, but I felt that (a) we weren't doing a "big shaping," (b) the woman I went to was groovy and hysterical and kick ass down to earth and (c) my daughter felt plagued by her brows from external forces.

Tackle the issue on all fronts. Not just waxing. Get the teasing SHUT DOWN.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter was teased in G1 about her light, barely noticeable unibrow, too. It was one kid in particular who was using it as a way to yield power over her. She was distraught, I suggested a variety of strategies to deal with the teasing (and broached it with the teacher--it wasn't confined to the unibrow). I also told her that if it really distresses her, I will take her with me when I get my eyebrows waxed (nothing major, just a little here and a little there--I'm far too lazy to pluck even the few stray hairs myself. Anyhoo).

She said yes.

So we went.

The aesthetician was incredibly GREAT! She didn't shape or mold my DD's eyebrows, just whisked a little bit off the middle. She was funny, cool, said she LOVED all kinds of eyebrows, even unibrows! We had a funny, good time. DD didn't look any different in the end, that I could tell. But it made all the difference to my daughter.

Not long after, my DD's AWESOME first grade teacher got right on the teasing-prevention train and shut that whole circus down. DD got full permission to come to her and the playground monitor when any sort of teasing erupted, and they took care of it. When it was time for my next brow appointment, I asked my DD if she wanted to come.

"No, mom, I'm okay now. The teasing stopped. I like my eyebrows just fine."

The end.

For now. Grade 2 and we're going strong.

I felt silly taking my DD to get her brows waxed, too, but I felt that (a) we weren't doing a "big shaping," (b) the woman I went to was groovy and hysterical and kick ass down to earth and (c) my daughter felt plagued by her brows from external forces.

Tackle the issue on all fronts. Not just waxing. Get the teasing SHUT DOWN.

PS: I also told my DD we NEVER tease anyone about their appearance for any reason. If someone were to be teased for their ears, height, different arm, leg, face, hair or anything, she had an obligation to step in. Also, as another PP said, we jumped on the Frida Kahlo bandwagon and observed and how in her portraits she emphasized what made her unique and interesting. Unibrow? Check. Lip hair? Check. Spinal injury? Check. And so on... Even so, we did do the waxing as an immediate remedy that in her case turned out not to be a long-term necessity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter was teased in G1 about her light, barely noticeable unibrow, too. It was one kid in particular who was using it as a way to yield power over her. She was distraught, I suggested a variety of strategies to deal with the teasing (and broached it with the teacher--it wasn't confined to the unibrow). I also told her that if it really distresses her, I will take her with me when I get my eyebrows waxed (nothing major, just a little here and a little there--I'm far too lazy to pluck even the few stray hairs myself. Anyhoo).

She said yes.

So we went.

The aesthetician was incredibly GREAT! She didn't shape or mold my DD's eyebrows, just whisked a little bit off the middle. She was funny, cool, said she LOVED all kinds of eyebrows, even unibrows! We had a funny, good time. DD didn't look any different in the end, that I could tell. But it made all the difference to my daughter.

Not long after, my DD's AWESOME first grade teacher got right on the teasing-prevention train and shut that whole circus down. DD got full permission to come to her and the playground monitor when any sort of teasing erupted, and they took care of it. When it was time for my next brow appointment, I asked my DD if she wanted to come.

"No, mom, I'm okay now. The teasing stopped. I like my eyebrows just fine."

The end.

For now. Grade 2 and we're going strong.

I felt silly taking my DD to get her brows waxed, too, but I felt that (a) we weren't doing a "big shaping," (b) the woman I went to was groovy and hysterical and kick ass down to earth and (c) my daughter felt plagued by her brows from external forces.

Tackle the issue on all fronts. Not just waxing. Get the teasing SHUT DOWN.

I think some people are forgetting this is OPs niece.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter was teased in G1 about her light, barely noticeable unibrow, too. It was one kid in particular who was using it as a way to yield power over her. She was distraught, I suggested a variety of strategies to deal with the teasing (and broached it with the teacher--it wasn't confined to the unibrow). I also told her that if it really distresses her, I will take her with me when I get my eyebrows waxed (nothing major, just a little here and a little there--I'm far too lazy to pluck even the few stray hairs myself. Anyhoo).

She said yes.

So we went.

The aesthetician was incredibly GREAT! She didn't shape or mold my DD's eyebrows, just whisked a little bit off the middle. She was funny, cool, said she LOVED all kinds of eyebrows, even unibrows! We had a funny, good time. DD didn't look any different in the end, that I could tell. But it made all the difference to my daughter.

Not long after, my DD's AWESOME first grade teacher got right on the teasing-prevention train and shut that whole circus down. DD got full permission to come to her and the playground monitor when any sort of teasing erupted, and they took care of it. When it was time for my next brow appointment, I asked my DD if she wanted to come.

"No, mom, I'm okay now. The teasing stopped. I like my eyebrows just fine."

The end.

For now. Grade 2 and we're going strong.

I felt silly taking my DD to get her brows waxed, too, but I felt that (a) we weren't doing a "big shaping," (b) the woman I went to was groovy and hysterical and kick ass down to earth and (c) my daughter felt plagued by her brows from external forces.

Tackle the issue on all fronts. Not just waxing. Get the teasing SHUT DOWN.

I think some people are forgetting this is OPs niece.

Yup, that's me. I forgot. Still, if some message can be conveyed to the mom-- no, the root of the problem isn't the child's unibrow (it's the teasing), but addressing the unibrow might be a reasonable surface-level approach to helping the child if (child wants it), and that eyebrow waxing need not be a frou-frou or vanity activity (depending on how you approach it), and that other social/bully interventions (helping the victim and the bully) are also necessary--that might help her take a different perspective on the situation.

[Anonymous]

Please don't bleach close to her eyes or suggest this to your SIL. Thread, wax or cut but ultimately it's your niece not your child so it's up to SIL.

[Anonymous]

If the child were being teased because she had dark skin, would you suggest a skin-lightening product?

She's six. SIX. And her mother is trying to protect her from a lifetime of messages aimed at women trying to get them to believe there is something wrong with their appearance. OP, if you want to be an ally to this kid, help her mom with that message.

[Anonymous]

This is so hard for me to imagine. Does she go to a school where everyone else looks the same? I struggle to imagine anyone even noticing this in my children's diverse public school.

[Anonymous]

I don't see why people make such a huge deal out of fixing a uni brown. I mean it is unsightly and adults do not go around with them so why make a child do it? You don't tell the kid there is something wrong with them you just tell them that for some people this is part of the grooming routine.

[Anonymous]

Threading is the way to go for a unibrow. Look for skilled Indian beauticians for it. Many do it at home. Ask your Indian friends with well groomed eyebrows where they get it done.