Why Are Some People Not Interested in People?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A nerve is indeed hit

Does that make you happy? Are you upper class/old money?

PP, don't feed the troll.

[Anonymous]

Aside from the obvious troll, I think a lot of people responded the same way. Also, I think social media has had an impact in that it encourages narcissism. People get tired of it and withdraw.

[Anonymous]

OP, because they are idiots and don't know any better.

[Anonymous]

My parents are like this. My father has never had a male friend or done an activity with a male friend/acquaintance (like golfing, movies, etc.). My mother has one friend who lives out of town. They do socialize with other couples or in groups, but never one on one with others. They are not interested in getting to know someone one on one or on a deeper level. They don't talk to friends on the phone. They are content doing their own thing and find other people to be a bother.

I am completely the opposite. I long for close friends and need close relationships. I don't really understand their perspective at all, quite frankly.

[Anonymous]

I'm an introvert and I am interested in other people so I think there's more to it than that. I'm interested in how I can help others, in learning about others etc. what I don't like is is people who constantly talk without ever saying anything meaningful. Maybe that's what other introverts here are responding to. We've all meet people who talk just to hear the sound of their voice, completely oblivious to the fact the petiole around then are bored to tears and just want done quiet. That's not the same thing as not wanting to Keens a hand to someone who needs help. I've meet people who genuinely only care about themselves and it's really pathetic, but again, it's not the same thing as being an introvert and needing quiet time to recharge.

[Anonymous]

I'm an introvert but I truly like most people. Maybe 5 people are on my "dislike" list. Other than that, I love chatting, especially with positive, chatty people to uphold the conversation Parties are great, but I find I can't linger at a noisy party as long as my (extremely extroverted) partner.

So I'm not sure it's an introvert thing to be uninterested in people. A lot of us socialize online (lame, right?) rather than in person b/c we are more comfortable with written communication.

Point being, some people are loners by choice, and others are just misanthropes with bad attitudes, who want to be left alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know people who are only interested in themselves or their work.

They have little interest in socializing or understanding other people/their lives.


I wonder why some people are like this?

My husband is like this. He's just very self absorbed, plus doesn't hear well or think fast, so figuring out social situations on the fly in real time is stressful to him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know people who are only interested in themselves or their work.

They have little interest in socializing or understanding other people/their lives.


I wonder why some people are like this?

I am raising a child like this. It is, in a work, shocking to me because it's so very different than
a) I am myself and
b) the way I'm trying hard to raise him and
c) the way society expects him to be, as evidenced by every word of your post OP.


I assure you, he was born like this and his been unwavering in his 11 years on earth. He just isn't interested in being social, and he doesn't need it to feel good about himself or life (he has plenty of interesting solitary pursuits -- ie, distance running solo vs. soccer, let's say.)


Also -- and I think this is important -- is IS kind, and he IS NOT a jerk. When the situation calls for it, he will be polite and funny and help and elderly woman cross the street or hand a baby a dropped toy.

But he doesn't "like" hanging around with people for the sake of hanging around with people.

Does he have any friends, any at all?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My parents are like this. My father has never had a male friend or done an activity with a male friend/acquaintance (like golfing, movies, etc.). My mother has one friend who lives out of town. They do socialize with other couples or in groups, but never one on one with others. They are not interested in getting to know someone one on one or on a deeper level. They don't talk to friends on the phone. They are content doing their own thing and find other people to be a bother.

I am completely the opposite. I long for close friends and need close relationships. I don't really understand their perspective at all, quite frankly.

The survivor will be up a creek when the first of your parents dies. I see this all the time among my friends in their 40s - their social life is so completely about their spouse. I'm married, but I just don't get that.