s/o - How often do you talk to your significant other during the work day?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:WOW! We never talk unless it's an emergency.

Really folks??? What all do you talk reaching each other 2,4 times a day?

What do you talk when you get home, then???

How would you feel if your nanny or care provider were talking with their spouse that often while watching your kids?

My husband's my best friend. We like talking-to each other and seeing how the day's going.

really? Or is one of you a complete control freak? I would kill my husband if he called me that much

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:WOW! We never talk unless it's an emergency.

Really folks??? What all do you talk reaching each other 2,4 times a day?

What do you talk when you get home, then???

How would you feel if your nanny or care provider were talking with their spouse that often while watching your kids?

My husband's my best friend. We like talking-to each other and seeing how the day's going.

Same for us. We talk about what's going on at work, might ask advice about how to handle a situation or share a funny story or just vent. We'll talk about what we're going to do for dinner or an interesting news story. Sometimes if I know he has something important coming up, I'll call just to wish him luck and tell him he's going to do great. We're not on the phone for a long time (1-6 minutes depending).

There's still plenty to talk about when we get home - a few 3 minute phone calls is not going to cover everything for the day.

[Anonymous]

Usu only in emergencies or when scheduling to meet. One of my co-workers calls SO every.single.day. just to say things like what they have in the fridge for leftovers. Constantly IMing, sending email and on the phone with friends. I feel like I work with someone in high school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:WOW! We never talk unless it's an emergency.

Really folks??? What all do you talk reaching each other 2,4 times a day?

What do you talk when you get home, then???

How would you feel if your nanny or care provider were talking with their spouse that often while watching your kids?

My husband's my best friend. We like talking-to each other and seeing how the day's going.

really? Or is one of you a complete control freak? I would kill my husband if he called me that much

That makes me sad for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:WOW! We never talk unless it's an emergency.

Really folks??? What all do you talk reaching each other 2,4 times a day?

What do you talk when you get home, then???

How would you feel if your nanny or care provider were talking with their spouse that often while watching your kids?

My husband's my best friend. We like talking-to each other and seeing how the day's going.

really? Or is one of you a complete control freak? I would kill my husband if he called me that much

Yes, you do sound like a complete control freak.

[Anonymous]

We talk about once a day. Sometimes more, sometimes not at all.

Back in the pre-cell phone era I worked with a guy who had been caught having a fling. Part of his new deal was that he had to call his wife the minute he arrived at work, at break time, at the beginning of lunch, at the end of lunch, at the afternoon break and when he was walking out the door. It was brutal.

[Anonymous]

DH and I have been married for 20+ yrs, two kids,... We talk at least 2x a day. We don't email or text and there's plenty to talk about. Probably why we're still married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I might call once or twice a week if I need some information that is time sensitive. DH is the same. We probably e-mail about the same. My DH does have this habit of calling every day before he leaves his office, as he is shutting down his computer, to tell me that he is coming home. I am usually in the middle of something and have to stop what I am doing to go find the phone to answer it. It drives me crazy to have to say, "Great. We'll see you soon" every day. Just come home already. I don't need advance warning.

Is he anxious? Maybe he fears something happening on his commute and not talking to you. I have a friend who has her DH call her when he arrives at the office, same kind of thing (and she admits it is anxiety-driven) but she doesn't relax until they check in.

Anyway, I know it's aggravating, just wondering if it's part of a larger pattern with him.

[Anonymous]

We talk at least twice a day, more if we have something we're trying to coordinate. I'm home with DC, who's now old enough to request to "call Daddy" several times a day, and I usually allow it once (especially if DH leaves before DC is up in the morning). DH usually calls before he leaves work and/or when he's coming off the metro to see if we're at home or if he should meet up with us somewhere else.

We don't text at all and only email if we're forwarding something from a 3rd party (and those often don't get read during the day) or I'm sending him a photo or video of DC doing something new/funny, maybe once a week if that.

[Anonymous]

Most days, not at all. There have been a few days when we chatted a couple times in one day, but that is rare. I would say maybe once or twice a week we chat during the "workday," and most of those times are when he is in his car on his way home. I do pickup and drop off of the kiddo at school/camp, so there is rarely anything we really need to coordinate on. He's pretty intense and not much of a phone talker, so I feel like I'm bothering him if I just call to chat. At his old job, he used skype and occasionally would send me inappropriate chat msgs when he was bored (I work pt from home, and use skype to talk to my team who also work out of their homes - I'm not using work computers for such things). His current job is at a gov't facility and he doesn't have access to that stuff anymore.

I don't know - I just don't see the need to talk several times a day, everyday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I don't know - I just don't see the need to talk several times a day, everyday.

There doesn't have to be a need for some of us. I love talking to my husband - he is my best friend.

[Anonymous]

We are both busy at work, so unless there is some issue with one of the kids or some other emergency or bit of information that can't wait until after work, we don't talk, text, or email. I will usually call him on my way home if I need him to pick up the kids or stop and pick something up at the store, but that's pretty much it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I don't know - I just don't see the need to talk several times a day, everyday.

There doesn't have to be a need for some of us. I love talking to my husband - he is my best friend.

are you calling each other from your desks at work? Or are you home and bored/needing adult interaction? I'm not trying to be mean, it just seems like talking several times a day every day would be a distraction during a work day. My husband starts sounding aggravated if I call him more than once during a work day, and I know there are days I am too busy to be taking several phone calls.

[Anonymous]

Now we both work at home together so we talk briefly throughout the day. Previously, I would call on my way home and maybe email 2-3 times per week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:WOW! We never talk unless it's an emergency.

Really folks??? What all do you talk reaching each other 2,4 times a day?

What do you talk when you get home, then???

How would you feel if your nanny or care provider were talking with their spouse that often while watching your kids?

My husband's my best friend. We like talking-to each other and seeing how the day's going.

really? Or is one of you a complete control freak? I would kill my husband if he called me that much

Yes, you do sound like a complete control freak.

Huh? I am a control freak bc I don't need "my man" reporting to me all day?