s/o - How often do you talk to your significant other during the work day?

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I think we like the feeling of missing each other all day and then "reuniting" when we get home.
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"If you have nothing of interenst that you want to talk to your spouse about, then that sounds like a pretty miserable marriage. I dunno, last night we talked about the presidential election for a bit, we talked about our camping trip this weekend, and we talked about him possibly getting laid off soon and his action plan to look for a new job before cuts start happening and ways that we could cut our own spending in anticipation. "

I'm a talker, DH isn't. He's a rabid right winger, and I get more liberal every year, so no politics chat. He's into guns and cycling, neither of which are my interests. We often have nothing to say to each other, other than logistics about the house and the kids.
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Anonymous wrote:DH and I chitchat on Gchat a couple of times during the day, usually just to say I love you or he'll ask what I need from the grocery store (he walks past it on his way home). Last week he was sending me a bunch of links to funk songs on YouTube because we had been talking about the genre the night before.


Interesting. At work, Gchat and YouTube are both blocked and not accessible.
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Anonymous wrote:DH and I chitchat on Gchat a couple of times during the day, usually just to say I love you or he'll ask what I need from the grocery store (he walks past it on his way home). Last week he was sending me a bunch of links to funk songs on YouTube because we had been talking about the genre the night before.


Interesting. At work, Gchat and YouTube are both blocked and not accessible.


DH and I are both the IT people at our offices.
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I'm a talker, DH isn't. He's a rabid right winger, and I get more liberal every year, so no politics chat. He's into guns and cycling, neither of which are my interests. We often have nothing to say to each other, other than logistics about the house and the kids.


wow, how did that happen, then? and how are you keeping it together? This would all be too much to take for me. My political leanings align with my values, so being married to someone who feels otherwise would just NOT work out for me.

Having nothing to talk about other than logistics and kid talk sounds pretty sad.
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I don't know - I just don't see the need to talk several times a day, everyday.


There doesn't have to be a need for some of us. I love talking to my husband - he is my best friend.


are you calling each other from your desks at work? Or are you home and bored/needing adult interaction? I'm not trying to be mean, it just seems like talking several times a day every day would be a distraction during a work day. My husband starts sounding aggravated if I call him more than once during a work day, and I know there are days I am too busy to be taking several phone calls.


I think there are some personalities that are more needy than others. FWIW, I SAHM with three kids and I don't call my husband unless it is imperative I speak to him-I mostly email/text to confirm events, appts etc but we both could live without the How are you hon? How is your day? conversations, we have those in the evening. We laugh at people who do that in the same way couples post on FB with I love you sweetie, miss you, etc. Maybe we are weird..


I like that you insult people and call them needy, judging other peoples relationships is always super healthy.


why so sensitive? Some people ARE needy, others are more independent and like some space. It is not a judgement, just an observation.
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I don't know - I just don't see the need to talk several times a day, everyday.


There doesn't have to be a need for some of us. I love talking to my husband - he is my best friend.


are you calling each other from your desks at work? Or are you home and bored/needing adult interaction? I'm not trying to be mean, it just seems like talking several times a day every day would be a distraction during a work day. My husband starts sounding aggravated if I call him more than once during a work day, and I know there are days I am too busy to be taking several phone calls.


I think there are some personalities that are more needy than others. FWIW, I SAHM with three kids and I don't call my husband unless it is imperative I speak to him-I mostly email/text to confirm events, appts etc but we both could live without the How are you hon? How is your day? conversations, we have those in the evening. We laugh at people who do that in the same way couples post on FB with I love you sweetie, miss you, etc. Maybe we are weird..


I like that you insult people and call them needy, judging other peoples relationships is always super healthy.


why so sensitive? Some people ARE needy, others are more independent and like some space. It is not a judgement, just an observation.


Laughing at people is being nonjudgmental? You are weird.
Anonymous
We text usually at least once per day for an "I love you" or " how's your day going how are you feeling what's for dinner" gosh, my husband is my BEST friend. He's not a huge talker but we never run out of things to chat about. I would be sad if I didn't get my daily I love you's.
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I don't know - I just don't see the need to talk several times a day, everyday.


There doesn't have to be a need for some of us. I love talking to my husband - he is my best friend.


are you calling each other from your desks at work? Or are you home and bored/needing adult interaction? I'm not trying to be mean, it just seems like talking several times a day every day would be a distraction during a work day. My husband starts sounding aggravated if I call him more than once during a work day, and I know there are days I am too busy to be taking several phone calls.


I think there are some personalities that are more needy than others. FWIW, I SAHM with three kids and I don't call my husband unless it is imperative I speak to him-I mostly email/text to confirm events, appts etc but we both could live without the How are you hon? How is your day? conversations, we have those in the evening. We laugh at people who do that in the same way couples post on FB with I love you sweetie, miss you, etc. Maybe we are weird..


I like that you insult people and call them needy, judging other peoples relationships is always super healthy.


why so sensitive? Some people ARE needy, others are more independent and like some space. It is not a judgement, just an observation.


Laughing at people is being nonjudgmental? You are weird.


yes, we laugh, therefore we are weird, makes perfect sense. Don't you need to call/email/text your husband?
Anonymous
Usually only once, at his lunch time. Then he calls when he's on the way home. If we really need each other, we'll text.
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I'm a talker, DH isn't. He's a rabid right winger, and I get more liberal every year, so no politics chat. He's into guns and cycling, neither of which are my interests. We often have nothing to say to each other, other than logistics about the house and the kids.


wow, how did that happen, then? and how are you keeping it together? This would all be too much to take for me. My political leanings align with my values, so being married to someone who feels otherwise would just NOT work out for me.

Having nothing to talk about other than logistics and kid talk sounds pretty sad.


We are in the same line of work, and enjoy doing activities together with our kids. We go out a lot with other couples, not so much just the two of us. We have more of a "guys' marriage" - activities but not much talking. I talk to my girlfriends lol. We also are very similar in terms of religion, which is more important to both of us than politics.
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I don't know - I just don't see the need to talk several times a day, everyday.


There doesn't have to be a need for some of us. I love talking to my husband - he is my best friend.


are you calling each other from your desks at work? Or are you home and bored/needing adult interaction? I'm not trying to be mean, it just seems like talking several times a day every day would be a distraction during a work day. My husband starts sounding aggravated if I call him more than once during a work day, and I know there are days I am too busy to be taking several phone calls.


I think there are some personalities that are more needy than others. FWIW, I SAHM with three kids and I don't call my husband unless it is imperative I speak to him-I mostly email/text to confirm events, appts etc but we both could live without the How are you hon? How is your day? conversations, we have those in the evening. We laugh at people who do that in the same way couples post on FB with I love you sweetie, miss you, etc. Maybe we are weird..


I like that you insult people and call them needy, judging other peoples relationships is always super healthy.


why so sensitive? Some people ARE needy, others are more independent and like some space. It is not a judgement, just an observation.


Laughing at people is being nonjudgmental? You are weird.


yes, we laugh, therefore we are weird, makes perfect sense. Don't you need to call/email/text your husband?


No, you said laughing at people. You just sound mean and broken. Or maybe jealous of all the people who have husbands and partners that are best friends. I'm sorry for you.
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Anonymous wrote:"If you have nothing of interenst that you want to talk to your spouse about, then that sounds like a pretty miserable marriage. I dunno, last night we talked about the presidential election for a bit, we talked about our camping trip this weekend, and we talked about him possibly getting laid off soon and his action plan to look for a new job before cuts start happening and ways that we could cut our own spending in anticipation. "

I'm a talker, DH isn't. He's a rabid right winger, and I get more liberal every year, so no politics chat. He's into guns and cycling, neither of which are my interests. We often have nothing to say to each other, other than logistics about the house and the kids.


I'm the person you quoted and we too have very different politial views. We have great conversation. I'd rather talk to someone who has a differing opinion rather than preaching to the choir. I think it boils down to respect and perspective. I realize that in the grand political scheme of things what DH and I believe makes no impact on the world. We respect each other and don't belittle each other's opinions. Makes for really good dinner conversation and I think it is great that the children are exposed to lively intellectual debate. It will make them all that much better and well rounded in life.
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My husband and I don't align 100% on every issue, so we still can have lively debates even though we agree on the basics. I have plenty of friends on the other side of the political spectrum from me, but I could never imagine being married to them.
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I don't know - I just don't see the need to talk several times a day, everyday.


There doesn't have to be a need for some of us. I love talking to my husband - he is my best friend.


are you calling each other from your desks at work? Or are you home and bored/needing adult interaction? I'm not trying to be mean, it just seems like talking several times a day every day would be a distraction during a work day. My husband starts sounding aggravated if I call him more than once during a work day, and I know there are days I am too busy to be taking several phone calls.


I think there are some personalities that are more needy than others. FWIW, I SAHM with three kids and I don't call my husband unless it is imperative I speak to him-I mostly email/text to confirm events, appts etc but we both could live without the How are you hon? How is your day? conversations, we have those in the evening. We laugh at people who do that in the same way couples post on FB with I love you sweetie, miss you, etc. Maybe we are weird..


I like that you insult people and call them needy, judging other peoples relationships is always super healthy.


why so sensitive? Some people ARE needy, others are more independent and like some space. It is not a judgement, just an observation.


Laughing at people is being nonjudgmental? You are weird.


yes, we laugh, therefore we are weird, makes perfect sense. Don't you need to call/email/text your husband?


No, you said laughing at people. You just sound mean and broken. Or maybe jealous of all the people who have husbands and partners that are best friends. I'm sorry for you.


oh how sweet of you! But please don't worry about me-I am ok, yeah I guess I can seem mean to sensitive types as yourself--I don't need constant reinforcement from my husband-nor he from me. We have been together too long and have went through too much crap together-sometimes less is more! Create a bit of mystery-maybe pretend you have a life?? This can continue all day but I am willing to guess no matter what I say you will take it personally. Maybe ask yourself why? I should ask myself the same thing since I keep responding to you but I need to pack for a vacation and I just don't feel like it...you know the beach, three little kids, so much stuff....this is so much easier...
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