I think we like the feeling of missing each other all day and then "reuniting" when we get home. |
"If you have nothing of interenst that you want to talk to your spouse about, then that sounds like a pretty miserable marriage. I dunno, last night we talked about the presidential election for a bit, we talked about our camping trip this weekend, and we talked about him possibly getting laid off soon and his action plan to look for a new job before cuts start happening and ways that we could cut our own spending in anticipation. "
I'm a talker, DH isn't. He's a rabid right winger, and I get more liberal every year, so no politics chat. He's into guns and cycling, neither of which are my interests. We often have nothing to say to each other, other than logistics about the house and the kids. |
Interesting. At work, Gchat and YouTube are both blocked and not accessible. |
DH and I are both the IT people at our offices. |
wow, how did that happen, then? and how are you keeping it together? This would all be too much to take for me. My political leanings align with my values, so being married to someone who feels otherwise would just NOT work out for me. Having nothing to talk about other than logistics and kid talk sounds pretty sad. |
why so sensitive? Some people ARE needy, others are more independent and like some space. It is not a judgement, just an observation. |
Laughing at people is being nonjudgmental? You are weird. |
We text usually at least once per day for an "I love you" or " how's your day going how are you feeling what's for dinner" gosh, my husband is my BEST friend. He's not a huge talker but we never run out of things to chat about. I would be sad if I didn't get my daily I love you's. |
yes, we laugh, therefore we are weird, makes perfect sense. Don't you need to call/email/text your husband? |
Usually only once, at his lunch time. Then he calls when he's on the way home. If we really need each other, we'll text. |
We are in the same line of work, and enjoy doing activities together with our kids. We go out a lot with other couples, not so much just the two of us. We have more of a "guys' marriage" - activities but not much talking. I talk to my girlfriends lol. We also are very similar in terms of religion, which is more important to both of us than politics. |
No, you said laughing at people. You just sound mean and broken. Or maybe jealous of all the people who have husbands and partners that are best friends. I'm sorry for you. |
I'm the person you quoted and we too have very different politial views. We have great conversation. I'd rather talk to someone who has a differing opinion rather than preaching to the choir. I think it boils down to respect and perspective. I realize that in the grand political scheme of things what DH and I believe makes no impact on the world. We respect each other and don't belittle each other's opinions. Makes for really good dinner conversation and I think it is great that the children are exposed to lively intellectual debate. It will make them all that much better and well rounded in life. |
My husband and I don't align 100% on every issue, so we still can have lively debates even though we agree on the basics. I have plenty of friends on the other side of the political spectrum from me, but I could never imagine being married to them. |
oh how sweet of you! But please don't worry about me-I am ok, yeah I guess I can seem mean to sensitive types as yourself--I don't need constant reinforcement from my husband-nor he from me. We have been together too long and have went through too much crap together-sometimes less is more! Create a bit of mystery-maybe pretend you have a life?? This can continue all day but I am willing to guess no matter what I say you will take it personally. Maybe ask yourself why? I should ask myself the same thing since I keep responding to you but I need to pack for a vacation and I just don't feel like it...you know the beach, three little kids, so much stuff....this is so much easier... |