How would you handle this? Punishment?

[Anonymous]

It’s anxiety or ADHD

Get her acrylics or cut her nails super short

Then treat her internally

[Anonymous]

Accutane

[Anonymous]

Agree with the rest.
"sabotaging" treatment is seriously crazy talk.

[Anonymous]

I used to do this too as a teen. It wasn’t really anxiety for me - really more just a habit or compulsion that was hard to break. Punishment would not have helped.

Treat her acne so there’s less to pick at (that’s what ultimately helped me). Brainstorm solutions with her that might help - the gauze, the other fidgets, treating any anxiety. Be a problem solver with her on this rather than a “punisher” - let her know you are on her side, there to find solutions with her, and see what you can come up with together. Saying you won’t pay for more peels until you’ve figured out together how to get to a good place, and perhaps setting a goal together for what would constitute a “good place” and asking her how you should help her get there (are reminders from you to stop when you see her doing it helpful? Is there another way you can help?)

I was a very obedient teen, but my mom harping on me to do or not do things like pick my skin or eat the extra cookie definitely made me MORE likely to do those things not less. You need to empower her, not belittle her

[Anonymous]

Omg. You should not be parents. Your poor kid.

[Anonymous]

Another adult picker here - as a teen I too picked at my back.
It wasn’t anxiety as much as it was a habit - as pp said too.
I picked my back because I could always opt to cover my back (vs my face)
OP I’m a functioning adult who hasn’t kicked my picking habit completely. But I manage fine in life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Omg. You should not be parents. Your poor kid.

Baloney. Nobody knows everything there is to know. OP wasn’t sure how to handle the situation, so she asked. That’s a great way to learn and get help. She obviously loves her dd and wants to help her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Omg. You should not be parents. Your poor kid.

Baloney. Nobody knows everything there is to know. OP wasn’t sure how to handle the situation, so she asked. That’s a great way to learn and get help. She obviously loves her dd and wants to help her.

People are ROUGH in this thread! Anyone else notice it’s getting worse lately?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. OP here. I had no idea it could be anxiety related. Why wouldn’t the dermatologist have suggested this?

I think the derm should have suggested the possibility - this is a common issue. Similar to how OBs aren't mental health experts but they are taught to notice signs of PPD so they can refer patients.

[Anonymous]

The way I read the OP is that her daughter had acne on her back first, which is usually symptomatic since it's an inflammation, so she keeps touching it and hence would not heal. The derm treated the acne because that is what is causing the 'picking', not anxiety (about something unrelated to her acne) in which case the derm would have sent her daughter to a counselor.