Agree. Been there. Whenever I thought through what would happen if we actually slept together I broke out in a cold sweat -- no good endings there. But then tension and ambiguous part is good. |
You freaked yourself out over tension? |
Seems like the thought of actually going through with an affair freaked them out |
If you aren’t attracted, it’s fine. Is there an attraction? If so, back off and create more boundaries. |
This is a dumb question, you would not be so available to someone you are not attracted to. |
The fun can be quite risky and needs to be managed. |
We have managed the fun for almost a year. It’s not constant, one of us will pull back for a few weeks here and there and start up again. |
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Don’t get drinks or dinner with her again. Stop texting after 6pm work day. No hugs, no holding hands, avoid touching at all costs. Keep conversations to work. |
Agree you need to cutoff contact. Grey rock. |
The posters here are crazy. The only thing that even brings to approach a line is the hand holding, which is no big deal. |
texting at night and weekends because spouse will get suspicious needs to stop. |
Trying to understand this. If someone makes themselves available to you, it’s only because they are attracted to you? |
One big litmus test for me is comparing the amount of emotional intimacy, time spent together, communication etc. with that of your spouse. How often do you go out for drinks and dinner with your spouse? How often do you hold hands with your spouse? How often do you text your spouse? When you text your spouse, do you share the mundane things you're doing? Do you chat with your spouse late into the night? Do you talk about common interests with yoru spouse? |
Texting at night and weekends is suspicious? That's a weird take. |