I am so. tired. of hearing about my mother’s neighbors.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Trust me, you will miss her conversations when she’s gone. Stop being an A.

Oh stop. My MIL has been crying that every Christmas might be her last Christmas and we need to do what she wants, at her house, with her. Because, we will miss her when she is gone. Been this way for a decade, kids are teens now, I bitterly regret not ever spending Christmas in my own home with my children waking up in their own beds. But, nooo, because MIL might one day die! In 20 years!

[Anonymous]

Lots of people who do not like their moms on this thread for sure. When shoe is on the other foot and your grown adults kids want you to send them voice text messages...maybe you will get the point. Awful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Trust me, you will miss her conversations when she’s gone. Stop being an A.

Oh stop. My MIL has been crying that every Christmas might be her last Christmas and we need to do what she wants, at her house, with her. Because, we will miss her when she is gone. Been this way for a decade, kids are teens now, I bitterly regret not ever spending Christmas in my own home with my children waking up in their own beds. But, nooo, because MIL might one day die! In 20 years!

+1, my Mo constantly said my grandmother was 75, 80 etc and it could be her last Xmas. Finally one year, my sister said “you’ve been saying that for 15 years! I don’t believe you anymore.”

[Anonymous]

I think you need to make peace here. It just sounds like your mom is boring but not harmful. Set a timer on how long you would like to talk. Ask her about other things if you just want to change the topic (e.g., TV, books, movies, your siblings, your dad). But you should get over this idea that you will have mutually supportive and productive conversation on being curious with one another. That's not in the cards for either of you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Trust me, you will miss her conversations when she’s gone. Stop being an A.

Oh stop. My MIL has been crying that every Christmas might be her last Christmas and we need to do what she wants, at her house, with her. Because, we will miss her when she is gone. Been this way for a decade, kids are teens now, I bitterly regret not ever spending Christmas in my own home with my children waking up in their own beds. But, nooo, because MIL might one day die! In 20 years!

+1, my Mo constantly said my grandmother was 75, 80 etc and it could be her last Xmas. Finally one year, my sister said “you’ve been saying that for 15 years! I don’t believe you anymore.”

We have someone who had an older relative who might have the last Xmas and 1 year it did turn out to be the last. Conversations with one of our adult DCs are one sided by them - their work and their scheduling our work for them. That is 5-7 days per week with no fixed departure time. Christmas is on a Wednesday this year and I hope to get a day off...

[Anonymous]

Can you imagine the conversations OP's mom has with her neighbors?

"All my daughter seems to do is fold laundry, sigh, and post on some website for parents! She's so dull."

[Anonymous]

My mom talks to me about her friends and neighbors so much that there are a few storylines I’m really into. Actively ask about them and get the juicy details.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Trust me, you will miss her conversations when she’s gone. Stop being an A.

Oh stop. My MIL has been crying that every Christmas might be her last Christmas and we need to do what she wants, at her house, with her. Because, we will miss her when she is gone. Been this way for a decade, kids are teens now, I bitterly regret not ever spending Christmas in my own home with my children waking up in their own beds. But, nooo, because MIL might one day die! In 20 years!

This is on YOU! YOU should have hosted dinners at your house for there holidays and invited her, this is not her problem. YOU let it happen. Stop whining and GTFU.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Help us moms out, give us tips.

I'm an adult daughter. I don't mind hearing updates on friends and neighbors but it drives me nuts when the updates are gossipy and mean- spirited and said in front of my young kids. So basically I don't like her hearing her incessantly taking behind people's backs, and especially not in front of my kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Folding laundry is the way to go. My mom is on the governing board of her town and it'll be the death of me.

HAHAHAHA. This is really funny. I can only imagine.

[Anonymous]

My mom tells me about everything she bought and the grocery store or everything she had to buy at the grocery store, ugh 😩

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you would prefer your mom to talk about? I'm a mom of adult children and a daughter of an elderly mither and I feel bored talking to all of them because none of us has much to add. Its more of a ritual than conversation.

My dad would always start out with a weather report, and then ask how we were doing then hand me off to mom. It's been six years since they passed/ were able to hold a convo. It was boring but I miss it.