Have you interacted with the court system wrt an addict of any kind, when the addict hasn't been involved with the police? Nothing happens. No drug testing, no breathalyzers get ordered. |
She says she has texts where he goes on a tirade, which would hopefully be enough. |
Meth v alcohol for instance |
While it isn’t her fault, it IS her responsibility. She is the only person who can do anything. |
She actually has no power over his addiction, and likely has no ability through the courts to do anything preventive if he hasn’t physically harmed the child or done anything continuously and seriously neglectful. (And particularly if there is no external record of his addiction.). She actually can’t do anything until he actually gets a DUI or harms the child or physically threatens her. |
Again, aside from the type of testing, what difference does it make? |
Enough for what? On what basis can she file a court order? |
Well, smoking meth in a house literally makes the house unsafe. Literally those chemicals get into the walls and floors. Places have been condemned bc of it. Alcohol doesn’t do that. |
Get started now because the courts take a long time. Tell your ex you want to select a public place for exchanges moving forward and for all communication to be strictly through the app because of his verbal outbursts toward you, which is not good for your child. If he refuses, file for modification. |
I’m no expert, but it seems like smoking meth in a house can contaminate it, but not as much as manufacture. It can also be absorbed by the skin and young kids also tend to put things in their mouths. It’s not clear that there’s a LOT of contamination, but who wants to take that risk with a child?
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6926576/ |
Are you the op? |
DP, but it's telling that the thread got moved from something defining the relationship of the mother to the ex (relationships) to something defining the mother only in relation to the child (Parenting--Special Concerns). |
It’s only telling because DCUM loves to attack moms. There’s a subset of mentally ill posters. |
It's telling that the OP got reduced to only her relationship to her child, and nearly this entire thread is about how she has to protect the child. Moving the thread here just reinforces that she is only a mother. It not like OP is getting saved from attack here. |
You can ask to have parenting exchanges at the police station and all communication in an app like Our Family Wizard. You can also use AI (I like Grammarly) to draft your own texts to ensure the tone is not combative. I did both of these things for some time. |