This is 22207. |
We are richer than most, maybe all our friends. I try to downplay our lifestyle. It sometimes doesn’t work. We have a seven figure income, have multiple homes, etc. We have friends who buy blemished cheap groceries or only do free activities for the kids. People will say we live in a mansion or crack rich jokes. I feel like I’m always the one hosting and making plans. I don’t get invited to the casual get togethers. |
Income wise op has more in common with a person working to pay off their bad debt than Bezos. Op, I assume, is talking about maybe LMC judging UMC judging LUC judging UC...
This is just the nature of some people and it stems from a mix of feelings and insecurities but in my experience, they're just generally judgmental about everything. And it's always the judgmental types who ply you with questions so there is no vague "cool, what island?" It's "what hotel are you staying at?", "what will the kids be doing?"... I know a woman with an amazing career with some years at 7 figures, a second home and year round travel (some international) for work. She is the most vocally judgmental about how others travel (their carbon footprint, the planet!!) and spend on school/camp/clothes/cars. |
Nobody is crying for you, you poor little rich girl. |
Is this really a complaint? Do you really want us to feel for you?
Rich people are so pathetic. It’s not enough that they’re rich, they also want to be loved. |
Don't show too much on social media.
We are wealthy and are not on social media. When asked questions about where we go or what we do, we answer. But most of the time, our expenditure is not visible. It doesn't come in the form of particularly showy cars or expansive property, which is what most people notice. |
Oh, OP, this is not your real question and not your real problem. |
Uh, no, they are answering the question that was asked. Sorry if it makes you uncomfortable, perhaps spend some time thinking about why that is. |
Won’t someone think of the wealthy? |
No. Someone with a proper upbringing knows how to discuss these things without bragging, even under the radar. I’m sorry your parents didn’t teach you this. |
Not only that, but research and statistics show that most truly wealthy people don’t actually spend it on those things. Those are “big hat, no cattle” things. |
Not rich but if I get rich I will spend on whatever I want and won’t care what others think about it. |
It’s just DC. There are wealthy people in all big cities and in many non urban areas. I am from NYC and at least 90% of my friends are 1%ers. Only in DC enclaves do I see the level of shallowness (and also, classism) where everything is about aggressively spending money and talking about spending money as an end in itself. My wealthiest NY friends have tons of money in the bank and live nice lives but they talk about ideas. They don’t socialize exclusively around social climbing and showing off. |
It’s weird how many people on DCUM demonize anyone that becomes extremely successful (outside of sports / entertainment). I doubt the poster above would find anyone on the Forbes 500 wealthiest list to not be oppressing. Maybe this is a result of too many government or NPO workers that have no concept of how the world works. |
I'm not bothered at all by what rich people spend or if some purchase or trip comes up in conversation. The only thing that bothers me is comments like everyone must go to grad school/top 10 school (when they have overflowing 529s or family paying). Or I can't imagine living without/ understand how people can live without <an obvious luxury that I can never have>. Or how could anyone stay at the Holiday Inn?
It's not what they do or buy or even that it comes up in conversation, it's the entitlement that's looking down on me and millions of other people at the same time. I know rich people who do this and other rich people where I still feel like an equal even though they have or or do way more expensive stuff. Either way, it's more the whole of who they are and how the money/consumption does or doesn't define their own worth to themselves, which then spills put into words and actions, that I think males the difference. |