Meh. Once she partnered with Emily Oster I blocked her. She’s going for white liberal UMC |
Sure you do. You can look at the results of people around you and figure out if you think what they're doing is working. People do that all the time. Yes, there might be one-offs, but if enough people try something and it's failing, you can draw a pretty firm inductive conclusion from that. |
Of course they are. They are terrified. Nothing like some violence to inspire good behavior. There is so much research about the damaging effects of spanking… There are other consequences that are more effective and don’t damage relationships. |
I found adhd dad more useful especially for boys with adhd |
What does she say that is political propaganda? I have listened to her a couple of times, but my kids are well behaved and nothing that she says apply to my family. |
I think this is spot on, as is a PP's point about people who have issues around the discipline they received as kids being attracted to Dr. Becky and the like. A friend who is the biggest Dr. Becky proponent 100% has issues around the relationship with her father and how harsh he was growing up. I am definitely not pro-spanking, but I think the current positive parenting trend is a bunch of BS. Many people cannot implement it properly and it turns into permissive parenting. People are afraid to let their kids feel negative emotions, so they let them do whatever they want. I am shocked at how some people are letting their little kids behave in public. They are either complete wild animals or their noses are buried in screens. I am teaching my children to be respectful of those around them. When they don't act respectful, they should feel a little bad about how they acted because of how it negatively affects others. There's a difference between guilt and shame. Some guilt is a good thing because it upholds the social contract. Shame should be avoided. I think Dr. Becky actually teaches this, from what I have seen, but most parents don't seem to be able to differentiate. You can make a kid feel guilty and want to repair a situation without making them feel ashamed of themselves. |
+1. Guilt is a natural reaction to doing something wrong. As long as this guilt is not misplaced (which can happen, the conscience isn't perfect and needs to be trained), it's not a bad thing. Then you have repentance for the wrong done, forgiveness from all involved, and relationships restored and hopefully the kid moves on, maybe even feels better afterwards because of the positive act of repenting. That's a great cycle, not a bad one. |
I bought into Dr. Becky for years but ultimately What actually helped was ABA parent training. For my kid with behavioral issues, I think Dr. Becky was actually harmful because it was waaaaaaay too permissive.
As one example, I had really bought into the idea of bodily autonomy for children. But ABA teaches how to use “physical guidance”. My kid used to be completely out of control before and didn’t see me as an authority figure. That is changing now thanks to ABA. |