Well now we know where she got the melodrama from! |
She has them occasionally at home...they're basically crying meltdowns when she can't perform to her expected level immediately, and the meltdowns lead to avoidance. We've told her it's not ok to avoid homework, studying, and practice, and every time she skips one of the three, she gets another fun thing taken away (iPad, Switch, TV time, bike, etc). |
What melodrama? She doesn't have anything else to take away - she's already lost it all! |
You sound pretty clueless. I am guessing she is your only. I feel bad for her. Give her a break - definitely cut piano for now and set a time for homework and when she is done she is done. No wonder she is stressed. |
Terrible advice. Homework needs to be done, not just worked on for 20 minutes. |
How much studying does a 10 yo need to do? Go over her spelling words?
Maybe piano isn’t a good fit. Does she even want to play the piano of is this something you force her to do? |
She has tests every other week or so, so yes, there's a lot of studying. Claims she doesn't need to study because she knows all the material, but I don't think so. She asked to learn the piano, but she refuses to practice, and so I routinely get really embarrassing emails from her teacher about her lack of progression. |
This piano nonsense just reenforces that disciplining incorrectly has been the issue all along. |
Don't take away her books! Think of the transition as a chance to start fresh. If the private school wasn't specific about DD's issues, ask them for specific issues so you can work on them with your DD over the summer. |
Explain? If she doesn't practice as required, she's punished by losing more and more "fun" things she would rather be doing. That's literally how discipline works. |
This is crazy. Can she stay through the end of the year? Was there an incident causing injury? I’m really sorry and can understand why you are upset OP. |
She doesn't have anything left to take. She's already lost access to her devices and bike, and until she can show that she can sit down and study and or practice, she's not getting them back. |
You cannot be real. Are you trolling? |
She's staying through the end of the year, yes. And no injuries. She just burst into tears into math class yesterday because another classmate was singing under her breath and she couldn't hear the teacher. She corned the girl during recess and asked that she stop singing, girl refused, so she cried again on the playground. Straw that broke the camel's back for the admin. And I agree! She should not be crying in public or telling other students what to do. |
No? How else do you force a child to do unfun things they don't want to do? |