Does Hourly Help Exist?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, are you imagining that there’s a group of people out there who want to commute to and from someone’s house at the last minute for an hour’s pay?

I get why this would be nice for you, but how does it work from the employee’s end?

+1 Strange how people don't consider time and expense of commuting

Be kind. Elder care is expensive and, with dementia, OP is probably worried and stressed. So other peoples' commutes is probably not at the front of her mind. Can people on here show some grace and kindness for once? Because, to me, its strange how people are incapable of doing this.

I have an elderly parent who is on a sharp decline cognitively. It's overwhelming. I get it.

But I also see how hard it is to be a good home healthcare worker, and the notion that they need to extend themselves more because it would make OP's life easier is just really, really off.

DP. All OP is asking is if this is possible. It is, but you have to find it, and it's dependent on location.

And it takes time to deplete assets to get to a Medicaid situation, then the time to apply and get accepted. Posters are using this as a platform to grandstand, NOT try to help OP who is in an overwrought situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you imagining that there’s a group of people out there who want to commute to and from someone’s house at the last minute for an hour’s pay?

I get why this would be nice for you, but how does it work from the employee’s end?

+1 Strange how people don't consider time and expense of commuting

Be kind. Elder care is expensive and, with dementia, OP is probably worried and stressed. So other peoples' commutes is probably not at the front of her mind. Can people on here show some grace and kindness for once? Because, to me, its strange how people are incapable of doing this.

I have an elderly parent who is on a sharp decline cognitively. It's overwhelming. I get it.

But I also see how hard it is to be a good home healthcare worker, and the notion that they need to extend themselves more because it would make OP's life easier is just really, really off.

DP. All OP is asking is if this is possible. It is, but you have to find it, and it's dependent on location.

And it takes time to deplete assets to get to a Medicaid situation, then the time to apply and get accepted. Posters are using this as a platform to grandstand, NOT try to help OP who is in an overwrought situation.

This. And just b/c the other PP has an elderly parent and "gets it" does not mean you cannot show some compassion to someone who is struggling. Maybe more that you. Shame on you, to that PP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you imagining that there’s a group of people out there who want to commute to and from someone’s house at the last minute for an hour’s pay?

I get why this would be nice for you, but how does it work from the employee’s end?

+1 Strange how people don't consider time and expense of commuting

Be kind. Elder care is expensive and, with dementia, OP is probably worried and stressed. So other peoples' commutes is probably not at the front of her mind. Can people on here show some grace and kindness for once? Because, to me, its strange how people are incapable of doing this.

I have an elderly parent who is on a sharp decline cognitively. It's overwhelming. I get it.

But I also see how hard it is to be a good home healthcare worker, and the notion that they need to extend themselves more because it would make OP's life easier is just really, really off.

DP. All OP is asking is if this is possible. It is, but you have to find it, and it's dependent on location.

And it takes time to deplete assets to get to a Medicaid situation, then the time to apply and get accepted. Posters are using this as a platform to grandstand, NOT try to help OP who is in an overwrought situation.

This. And just b/c the other PP has an elderly parent and "gets it" does not mean you cannot show some compassion to someone who is struggling. Maybe more that you. Shame on you, to that PP.

DP here
Nothing in OP's post stated or indicated that OP is "overwrought" or "struggling." She wants to go out to dinner. Don't we all?

[Anonymous]

I work in a nursing home. A lot of the CNAs look for side work and an hour or two at a time, locally, would be ideal for a lot of them, who also have family to care for. I would call local nursing homes and ask in the nursing/ social work departments. They won't provide names/ numbers but they can take your info and give it to interested parties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I work in a nursing home. A lot of the CNAs look for side work and an hour or two at a time, locally, would be ideal for a lot of them, who also have family to care for. I would call local nursing homes and ask in the nursing/ social work departments. They won't provide names/ numbers but they can take your info and give it to interested parties.

This is what we did. We hired people who worked at the nursing home near our parent who wanted extra hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you imagining that there’s a group of people out there who want to commute to and from someone’s house at the last minute for an hour’s pay?

I get why this would be nice for you, but how does it work from the employee’s end?

+1 Strange how people don't consider time and expense of commuting

Be kind. Elder care is expensive and, with dementia, OP is probably worried and stressed. So other peoples' commutes is probably not at the front of her mind. Can people on here show some grace and kindness for once? Because, to me, its strange how people are incapable of doing this.

I have an elderly parent who is on a sharp decline cognitively. It's overwhelming. I get it.

But I also see how hard it is to be a good home healthcare worker, and the notion that they need to extend themselves more because it would make OP's life easier is just really, really off.

DP. All OP is asking is if this is possible. It is, but you have to find it, and it's dependent on location.

And it takes time to deplete assets to get to a Medicaid situation, then the time to apply and get accepted. Posters are using this as a platform to grandstand, NOT try to help OP who is in an overwrought situation.

This. And just b/c the other PP has an elderly parent and "gets it" does not mean you cannot show some compassion to someone who is struggling. Maybe more that you. Shame on you, to that PP.

DP here
Nothing in OP's post stated or indicated that OP is "overwrought" or "struggling." She wants to go out to dinner. Don't we all?

Get back to us when you have been in this situation. Taking care of an elderly, in the process of end of life, is a truly horrifying experience no matter how easy you try to make it. You can say all you want when you're young, but when most people are faced with ceasing to exist (and aren't in heinous pain) do to age and the body breaking down, it is awful.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you imagining that there’s a group of people out there who want to commute to and from someone’s house at the last minute for an hour’s pay?

I get why this would be nice for you, but how does it work from the employee’s end?

+1 Strange how people don't consider time and expense of commuting

Be kind. Elder care is expensive and, with dementia, OP is probably worried and stressed. So other peoples' commutes is probably not at the front of her mind. Can people on here show some grace and kindness for once? Because, to me, its strange how people are incapable of doing this.

I have an elderly parent who is on a sharp decline cognitively. It's overwhelming. I get it.

But I also see how hard it is to be a good home healthcare worker, and the notion that they need to extend themselves more because it would make OP's life easier is just really, really off.

DP. All OP is asking is if this is possible. It is, but you have to find it, and it's dependent on location.

And it takes time to deplete assets to get to a Medicaid situation, then the time to apply and get accepted. Posters are using this as a platform to grandstand, NOT try to help OP who is in an overwrought situation.

This. And just b/c the other PP has an elderly parent and "gets it" does not mean you cannot show some compassion to someone who is struggling. Maybe more that you. Shame on you, to that PP.

DP here
Nothing in OP's post stated or indicated that OP is "overwrought" or "struggling." She wants to go out to dinner. Don't we all?

I am the insufficiently sympathetic poster who also has a declining parent, and "don't we all" really diminishes how overwhelming this is. But the OP has decided what she wants, and pace a PP, it's probably not available no matter where she looks. OP needs a different plan that takes into account reality: Rather than the odd hour here or there when she's at the breaking point, she needs to schedule blocks of time when she does errands and meets a friend for lunch, all in a clump. Would an hour here and there be nicer? Maybe, but trying to find it is going to be one more source of frustration.

If OP wants sympathy, great, we all deserve that. Ask for sympathy. If OP wants a solution to a problem, ask for a solution to a problem. OP did the latter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you imagining that there’s a group of people out there who want to commute to and from someone’s house at the last minute for an hour’s pay?

I get why this would be nice for you, but how does it work from the employee’s end?

+1 Strange how people don't consider time and expense of commuting

Be kind. Elder care is expensive and, with dementia, OP is probably worried and stressed. So other peoples' commutes is probably not at the front of her mind. Can people on here show some grace and kindness for once? Because, to me, its strange how people are incapable of doing this.

I have an elderly parent who is on a sharp decline cognitively. It's overwhelming. I get it.

But I also see how hard it is to be a good home healthcare worker, and the notion that they need to extend themselves more because it would make OP's life easier is just really, really off.

You clearly aren't reading all the posts. A RN at a nursing home just said that there are CNAs at nursing homes who look for extra hours, and I responded with this is what we did. It is doable. It has been done. So stop saying that it can't be done. You are wrong.

DP. All OP is asking is if this is possible. It is, but you have to find it, and it's dependent on location.

And it takes time to deplete assets to get to a Medicaid situation, then the time to apply and get accepted. Posters are using this as a platform to grandstand, NOT try to help OP who is in an overwrought situation.

This. And just b/c the other PP has an elderly parent and "gets it" does not mean you cannot show some compassion to someone who is struggling. Maybe more that you. Shame on you, to that PP.

DP here
Nothing in OP's post stated or indicated that OP is "overwrought" or "struggling." She wants to go out to dinner. Don't we all?

I am the insufficiently sympathetic poster who also has a declining parent, and "don't we all" really diminishes how overwhelming this is. But the OP has decided what she wants, and pace a PP, it's probably not available no matter where she looks. OP needs a different plan that takes into account reality: Rather than the odd hour here or there when she's at the breaking point, she needs to schedule blocks of time when she does errands and meets a friend for lunch, all in a clump. Would an hour here and there be nicer? Maybe, but trying to find it is going to be one more source of frustration.

If OP wants sympathy, great, we all deserve that. Ask for sympathy. If OP wants a solution to a problem, ask for a solution to a problem. OP did the latter.