Does Hourly Help Exist?

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Huge responsibility and liability as PPs mentioned.

I strongly suggest you hire through a reputable company. You can book 4 hours at a time.


That's the problem. OP wants fewer than 4 hours. She thinks it's too expensive to pay for 4 hours if she needs less than that.

Like another poster pointed out, less than 4 hours makes it not worth the employee's time.


This PP and realized OP stated she only wants an hour at a time. Yeah, not going to happen.

It was extremely difficult to cobble together 24/7 care for my (now deceased) mom who’d just been released from the hospital with orders that she could not be alone. She needed supervision as she was a fall risk and needed help to and from bed, the bathroom, showering, ADL. She was in a continuing care community but in her own apartment.

Long way of saying to OP: you need to get 8 hour care now. You’re only going to need more support and hands on help, not less.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don’t know why people think it to be such a strange concept. Many babysitters just come to the house for a couple of hours while a couple grabs dinner.


And by "babysitters" do you mean a neighborhood teenager who serves mac and cheese and watches Bluey with the kids for half an hour before bed? Or do you mean an adult with medical training and they physical strength to support 150 lbs?


+1 lol and stop exploiting the working class.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don’t know why people think it to be such a strange concept. Many babysitters just come to the house for a couple of hours while a couple grabs dinner.


And by "babysitters" do you mean a neighborhood teenager who serves mac and cheese and watches Bluey with the kids for half an hour before bed? Or do you mean an adult with medical training and they physical strength to support 150 lbs?


+1 lol and stop exploiting the working class.


You don’t know people’s circumstances. Maybe the OP is working class and that’s why they can’t afford extra hours they don’t really need
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don’t know why people think it to be such a strange concept. Many babysitters just come to the house for a couple of hours while a couple grabs dinner.


And by "babysitters" do you mean a neighborhood teenager who serves mac and cheese and watches Bluey with the kids for half an hour before bed? Or do you mean an adult with medical training and they physical strength to support 150 lbs?


+1 lol and stop exploiting the working class.


You don’t know people’s circumstances. Maybe the OP is working class and that’s why they can’t afford extra hours they don’t really need


Then OP needs to adjust their lifestyle so that they don't have gaps in coverage, and they need to start researching Medicare nursing homes, because they're going to need it soon.

But IME, the people who want to pay people less are almost always financially secure people who don't think about others' material needs, only their own wants. Just check Next Door for people in multimillion-dollar homes who want someone to clean them for $100.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don’t know why people think it to be such a strange concept. Many babysitters just come to the house for a couple of hours while a couple grabs dinner.


And by "babysitters" do you mean a neighborhood teenager who serves mac and cheese and watches Bluey with the kids for half an hour before bed? Or do you mean an adult with medical training and they physical strength to support 150 lbs?


+1 lol and stop exploiting the working class.


You don’t know people’s circumstances. Maybe the OP is working class and that’s why they can’t afford extra hours they don’t really need


Then OP needs to adjust their lifestyle so that they don't have gaps in coverage, and they need to start researching Medicare nursing homes, because they're going to need it soon.

But IME, the people who want to pay people less are almost always financially secure people who don't think about others' material needs, only their own wants. Just check Next Door for people in multimillion-dollar homes who want someone to clean them for $100.


Pretty much this
Anonymous
Yes, Agencies will do this but I found that the less hours you require, the higher the agency will charge to cover their costs. Two hours might end up costing you $45/50 an hour
Anonymous
There was a similar thread a few months ago. That OP wanted exactly this kind of a set up w/o any consideration on what it takes to attract qualified applicants for a job. Yes, this OP may luck out and find someone in the neighborhood through their local FB page or NextDoor who is retired, has a very flex schedule, and looking to pick up some extra money (though guessing OP wants to pay less $16/hour). If so, that's great. But even the one example of a local couple provided in this thread indicated that they wanted a set time for planning purposes.

And a teen watching seniors is just not the same as it is caring toddlers. Yeah, shit can happen, but most teens are not necessarily accustomed to being in a supervisory position with a senior and may be less than successful on executing it.

Finally, as another poster mentioned, who knows if the OP would end up attempting to sue the sitter if something went south - who wants that liability when the OP doesn't even want to pay a proper wage for the work.
Anonymous
Can't you just ask your regular people if they willl do it off the books for a few hours?
Anonymous
From my experience, the only 2 scenarios for that to work is if it’s a family friend or someone in your neighborhood.

I’m not sure this is a situation you should be looking to watch your pennies. The most important is to find reliable good care and you don’t want to pinch pennies here.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Can't you just ask your regular people if they willl do it off the books for a few hours?


That's risky. If they get caught the agency will drop OP as a client and drop the caregivers as employees. A lot of caregivers won't want to risk that
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, are you imagining that there’s a group of people out there who want to commute to and from someone’s house at the last minute for an hour’s pay?

I get why this would be nice for you, but how does it work from the employee’s end?


+1 Strange how people don't consider time and expense of commuting


+2 Maybe you could find a neighbor who wants to do this, but I doubt a qualified professional would find this attractive. Even for childcare, it’s not attractive to do a 2 hr stint and it’s harder to find someone good to do elder care.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, are you imagining that there’s a group of people out there who want to commute to and from someone’s house at the last minute for an hour’s pay?

I get why this would be nice for you, but how does it work from the employee’s end?


+1 Strange how people don't consider time and expense of commuting


+2 Maybe you could find a neighbor who wants to do this, but I doubt a qualified professional would find this attractive. Even for childcare, it’s not attractive to do a 2 hr stint and it’s harder to find someone good to do elder care.


Your neighbor can go weed someone's garden and make $70 an hour advertising on one of these online setups or can run errands or go wait on line for someone for $30 an hour. Very few people want to do eldercare unless you make it very easy and offer plenty of downtime. 1-2 hour a day gigs usually pay very well and make it worth it. For eldercare, even if you only expect 2 hours of actual work (making meal, giving meds, going for walk) you should hire for 4 hours so it's worth the drive unless you want to offer premium pay.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, are you imagining that there’s a group of people out there who want to commute to and from someone’s house at the last minute for an hour’s pay?

I get why this would be nice for you, but how does it work from the employee’s end?


+1 Strange how people don't consider time and expense of commuting


Be kind. Elder care is expensive and, with dementia, OP is probably worried and stressed. So other peoples' commutes is probably not at the front of her mind. Can people on here show some grace and kindness for once? Because, to me, its strange how people are incapable of doing this.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don’t know why people think it to be such a strange concept. Many babysitters just come to the house for a couple of hours while a couple grabs dinner.


And by "babysitters" do you mean a neighborhood teenager who serves mac and cheese and watches Bluey with the kids for half an hour before bed? Or do you mean an adult with medical training and they physical strength to support 150 lbs?


+1 lol and stop exploiting the working class.


You don’t know people’s circumstances. Maybe the OP is working class and that’s why they can’t afford extra hours they don’t really need


Then OP needs to adjust their lifestyle so that they don't have gaps in coverage, and they need to start researching Medicare nursing homes, because they're going to need it soon.

But IME, the people who want to pay people less are almost always financially secure people who don't think about others' material needs, only their own wants. Just check Next Door for people in multimillion-dollar homes who want someone to clean them for $100.


Are you always such a smug bit----ch? WTF is wrong with you?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, are you imagining that there’s a group of people out there who want to commute to and from someone’s house at the last minute for an hour’s pay?

I get why this would be nice for you, but how does it work from the employee’s end?


+1 Strange how people don't consider time and expense of commuting


Be kind. Elder care is expensive and, with dementia, OP is probably worried and stressed. So other peoples' commutes is probably not at the front of her mind. Can people on here show some grace and kindness for once? Because, to me, its strange how people are incapable of doing this.


I have an elderly parent who is on a sharp decline cognitively. It's overwhelming. I get it.

But I also see how hard it is to be a good home healthcare worker, and the notion that they need to extend themselves more because it would make OP's life easier is just really, really off.
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