I'm having my first and I need mom friends!

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Anonymous wrote:Join PACE! Which neighborhood do you live in?

Definitely PACE! One of my regrets from postpartum even 6 years after my first, I wish I had done this. Most people i know who did ended up with at minimum a text chain of moms with babies a similar age who could commiserate, and some ended up with friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm pregnant with my first and just moved here from Seattle - how do I meet pregnant moms in person? Is that a thing? PLEASE recommend! I'm social and I miss my friends so much.

What are "Mom's friends going to do for you? Most "moms" are either working or are SAHM and busy with their lives and children and don't have time to hold your hand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm pregnant with my first and just moved here from Seattle - how do I meet pregnant moms in person? Is that a thing? PLEASE recommend! I'm social and I miss my friends so much.

What are "Mom's friends going to do for you? Most "moms" are either working or are SAHM and busy with their lives and children and don't have time to hold your hand.

sorry you don't have any mom friends. I still whatsapp with my PACE group multiple times a week- people vent, gribe, support, share exciting milestones that only other fellow moms with kids the same age really care about and can relate to. in the first 6 months i talked to my PACE mom friends way more than my actual pre- baby friends (most of who have kids... but those early days are so intense and even now i've blocked out half of it when talking to other newborn moms)

[Anonymous]

PACE was the best thing I did with my first kid and I just signed up to do it with my second

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When does one join PACE?
-Fellow expectant FTM who is only 3 months along

The babies in my PACE group ranged from 5 weeks to 9 weeks old when we started. It was the best thing I ever did. It’s been almost 16 years and several of us still get together for dinner from time to time and a couple of us are really close.

My older daughter is 11 and I’m still in touch with some PACE friends - I’d be in touch with more if we hadn’t left DC. I joined when she was about 3 months old because I didn’t know about it sooner and she was the oldest in the group but it was still worth it. (I think they have some discounts for hardship.)

When I was pregnant and home with my newborn I’d approach pretty much anyone out walking a baby, in our local grocery store etc and say I was starting an email list for exchanging advice, babysitter info, forming play groups etc. I met a really good friend the day I came home from the hospital - she was out doing laps in the park trying to get her baby to come (he was born a few days later) and I was enjoying the nice fall air and we just talked in the park. It can be a lonely time transitioning to parenthood and being out of the regular routines I found a lot of women were receptive to meeting up for a walk or a coffee etc and then if I saw them enough they became friends.