When does one join PACE?
-Fellow expectant FTM who is only 3 months along |
The breastfeeding center used to have a free support group which met weekly. The group used to split in to smaller groups to go out to lunch after.
In my neighborhood the parenting email list serve/ Facebook group are also used to facilitate mom meetups - usually moms on maternity leave. |
My PACE group was catty and unsupportive. I know other women who liked their PACE groups, but it was not for me.
Instead, I found support in my neighbors. You sound like an outgoing person. You’ll meet moms on walks. I was new to my neighborhood too and my husband joked that every time I went out, I was picking up a new mom friend. I’m normally kind of shy but I really made the effort to chat up the moms, and all responded warmly. |
I joined mamistad years ago and it was very powerful for me. Met some mom friends and we all gathered a few times a week for at least a year. Still keep in touch with some ten years later. |
PACE was totally worth the cost to me.
But I also agree with just walking with the baby a lot and saying hi to everyone with a baby you see. It’s also a good way to meet Nannies. |
That sucks, mine was SO supportive. Really. |
These were my suggestions. Maybe we are in the same neighborhood! It was funny, I went to the breastfeeding center a few times before one person spoke up at a meeting and suggested hanging out afterwards. Everyone who went was so grateful to have a chance to meet some friends. So if you go, didn't be afraid to be that person. Over time and changing nap schedules, neighborhood friends ended up being crucial. I think our group formed when someone suggested a park meet up on the neighborhood parents Facebook page. In case you try to set something up, we found it more successful to have a regular time and place to start off. |
The babies in my PACE group ranged from 5 weeks to 9 weeks old when we started. It was the best thing I ever did. It’s been almost 16 years and several of us still get together for dinner from time to time and a couple of us are really close. |
Prenatal yoga scored me some friends. Plus I told my midwife to feel free to set me up with mom friends and she did. |
I had a friend join a mom group in NYC in her neighborhood and two of her besties are from that group, their kids all play together and are close.
Here's a listing I found for moms in your area: https://dcmoms.com/mom-life/community/12-empowering-mom-support-groups-in-the-dc-area/ |
Mamistad is for moms who are pregnant with their first! Wish I'd done it. A friend just told me she had great success too - and lots of good resources. |
Wish I done it EARLIER that is. |
Does anyone know of PACE has groups for pregnant women or is it just first time moms? Like post-birth lol |
It’s post birth. |
another recommendation for PACE. I joined in 2020 and babies ranged from few days old to 3 months. The group was super supportive and we are all still in touch. It has been an INVALUABLE resource, helping with answers , solidarity and support to so many of the situations and concerns that arise during the postpartum period and parenting in the early years. I balked at the cost initially as well but it has been more than worth it.
I wrote to PACE while i was still pregnant- did not hear back for a while and after a few repeated emails heard back from them a little after the birth - they matched me with folks who had delivered around the same time. |