Huh? This parent is flaking out almost entirely on their custody time. It’s absolutely the basis for the other parent to make a strong argument to get more custody. Not sole custody (as in zero time for othet parent) but certainly most days. |
Because the other parent is showing they have minimal interest in parenting. What if the relatives change their mind? What happens when the kid gets older and needs an actually stable home with their belongings there? Essentially having your child couchsurf with relatives during your custody time is not an appropriate parenting plan. Such a parent deserves to have their custody time minimized and a court would do so. The more important factor here is actually that the child be able to preserve relationships with the relatives who are stepping up like OP. So OP should be sure to reach out to the other parent and make clear they are not a threat. |
ROFR would result in the kid basically spending 100% of time with the responsible parent, a tacit admission by all that the other parent is uninterested in parenting. It would possibly be a gentle and non-confrontational way to handle the situation. |
It *would* lead to a reduction in parenting time for the parent who is unloading the child onto others for the majority or all of that parent's custody/parenting time. |
OK, you also wrote that it would not lead to the parent losing custody, which is why I was confused. |
Yes, it would lead to a reduction in parenting time, but not elimination of parenting time. |
DP. Yes. This can be confusing. It IS very hard for a parent to lose custody altogether and have zero visitation time. But a court definitely would order that a parent like this have much reduced custody time, even just 2 weekends/month or a night a week. |
OP here, We're in MD where shared physical custody is defined as each party having at least 25% of overnights. If a parent has their children less than 25% of nights, then it's considered visitation. To me, it seems reasonable that the parent would lose physical custody (dropping below 25% of overnights), but keep some overnights. |
Yes that seems like it’s possible. The point is that they will retain some legal entitlement to spend time with the child. But a word of advice. I don’t know what you are hoping for or think the best thing will be, but even very dysfunctional parents often want to perceive themselves as good parents and love their kids. So everything should be framed to the parent as positively as possible: not “you are going to lose physical custody” but “seems like maybe one weekend a month and one dinner a week might be good? You’ll get to spend quality time with the girls!” |