are you fine with male teacher at daycare?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'd be happy for my kids to see a man in that role. One of my kids had a male teacher for pre-k and he was awesome.

+1 My kids' best preschool teacher was a man.

Us too. Our best teacher has been a male prek lead teacher.

[Anonymous]

Our daycare has a male teacher and he was my daughters favorite teacher. I was happy she was in his class.

When she was younger her home daycare provider also sometimes had her adult son fill in to help when her usual assistant had the day off.

For me it is the same as having any gender of kindergarten or early elementary teacher and there are plenty of men who teach in those roles.

[Anonymous]

The profession of teaching young children will never get the respect or compensation it deserves as long as men are shamed away from the field. If we could get more male preschool teachers the female teachers would benefit in the long run. Sad but true side of pink collar jobs.


(Also, men in women predominated fields like nursing and teaching are much more likely to move up to the more prestigious admin positions. Depressing view of the gender bias in choosing “leaders.”)

[Anonymous]

Absolutely fine with it. I thought our preschool's male preschool teachers, who was in charge of potty training, was one of the best teachers I've met. Teachers are vetted with a background check and good recommendations, have taken coursework and training. This is significantly more vetting than if you left your children in the care of a male relative.

[Anonymous]

I don’t trust men in those position.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd be happy for my kids to see a man in that role. One of my kids had a male teacher for pre-k and he was awesome.

+1 My kids' best preschool teacher was a man.

Us too. Our best teacher has been a male prek lead teacher.

Our son also had a male teacher for pre-k. It was a POSITIVE EXPERIENCE. His teacher was amazing and we appreciated having a male teacher in an almost female school. I will mention that his assistant escorted students to the bathroom. Since they were were 4 years, children were to use the bathroom independently, having the necessary self help skills.

[Anonymous]

nope.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry- nope. I would not be ok with that.

Why? I have a boy. Should I be worried about every female teacher or babysitter?

When you look at the arrest pictures of child pornography rings, they are men. Very rarely do you see women pictured. Now, this preschool teacher might be the best preschool teacher in the world with zero ill intent. But my opinion and my feeling is I would not be OK with giving a male unrestricted access to my three-year-old who needs a lot of help in the bathroom.

But like.... how do you feel about dads in general? As your kids get older, would you trust another male parent to watch them the way you would a female parent?

I was raised by a single dad and I find that the bias against male caregivers gets really problematic really fast. It's true that men are statistically more likely to commit these kinds of crimes but we're still talking about something most humans would never do, and discriminating against all men is a really troubling overreaction. Obviously be conscientious, research your daycare, choose people and a place you're comfortable with, but I think this is going too far.

Child sexual abuse, rape, incest, etc. are crimes that are so under-reported that I don't agree with the bolded above.

[Anonymous]

I have no problems with male elementary school teachers.

I am not ok with a male preschool teacher of kids that still need help wiping themselves.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry- nope. I would not be ok with that.

Why? I have a boy. Should I be worried about every female teacher or babysitter?

When you look at the arrest pictures of child pornography rings, they are men. Very rarely do you see women pictured. Now, this preschool teacher might be the best preschool teacher in the world with zero ill intent. But my opinion and my feeling is I would not be OK with giving a male unrestricted access to my three-year-old who needs a lot of help in the bathroom.

But like.... how do you feel about dads in general? As your kids get older, would you trust another male parent to watch them the way you would a female parent?

I was raised by a single dad and I find that the bias against male caregivers gets really problematic really fast. It's true that men are statistically more likely to commit these kinds of crimes but we're still talking about something most humans would never do, and discriminating against all men is a really troubling overreaction. Obviously be conscientious, research your daycare, choose people and a place you're comfortable with, but I think this is going too far.

Child sexual abuse, rape, incest, etc. are crimes that are so under-reported that I don't agree with the bolded above.

I get your point, but I still find it really extreme to essentially blame all men for this.

Men make good carers. Women make good carers. Precautions are appropriate but sex-based discrimination is as problematic here as it is elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have no problems with male elementary school teachers.

I am not ok with a male preschool teacher of kids that still need help wiping themselves.

We are a gay couple with a daughter - should we not be helping her wipe herself? This is silly, it seems to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wanna say yes but it's giving me a bad feeling.

I want to say 'yes' also. Just can't. I have sons who helped with church camp, etc and I assume there was always a female nearby. I know they were boys of integrity yet I can't expect other parents to know that about them.

[Anonymous]

For those not comfortable…. What exactly are you expecting? It would be illegal for childcare centers to discriminate in hiring.

[Anonymous]

Former preschool teacher here and I’ve worked with 2 male teachers- they both gave me a bad vibe. 1 often would lock himself in a bathroom to “talk” to a specific boy who wanted nothing to do with said teacher and the other one constantly looked at suggestive dancers/twerkers and always wanted the kids to sit on his lap/give him hugs

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I worked for many years in an elementary school. There were never very many male teachers. Some of them were really great teachers. Others, not so much. However, parents generally loved the male teachers no matter what because they just assumed male teachers were good, I guess. Or they liked the idea of a male role model. Not totally sure, but I can tell you some of those guys had no business working with kids. Either they were very weak teachers, they were creepy, or both.

Same is true for women of course, some have no business working with kids, but people do not automatically assume they are great teachers just because they are women.

The unconditional love for males in a teaching role is a bit of a weird dynamic and inappropriate overreaction.

I think far more people are of the opinion of OP, that there’s something creepy and off about male teachers/caregivers.

That’s not true at all.

Just look at the responses on this thread! People "want to be okay with it", but they're not.