Dating divorced men in their fifties

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Women are always looking for a reason to say "no".

Men that age with good jobs always have options so unless your friend is a 25 year old bikini model, an older man is going to live his life and fit the 50 year old woman in when convenient.

Feeling seconded and not being desired kills it for me. Last minute scheduling, formalistic texts etc. It’s called bread-crumbing dating style, really affects woman’s self esteem.
I stay single and don’t engage in these flings until I meet someone who makes me feel special. I would rather date a journalist who makes me feel that way, than a law partner who fits me in after all 25 year olds

Do you mean “formulaic?”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women are always looking for a reason to say "no".

Men that age with good jobs always have options so unless your friend is a 25 year old bikini model, an older man is going to live his life and fit the 50 year old woman in when convenient.

Feeling seconded and not being desired kills it for me. Last minute scheduling, formalistic texts etc. It’s called bread-crumbing dating style, really affects woman’s self esteem.
I stay single and don’t engage in these flings until I meet someone who makes me feel special. I would rather date a journalist who makes me feel that way, than a law partner who fits me in after all 25 year olds

Do you mean “formulaic?”

I meant lacking substance- could be both formulaic and formalistic. Just to text her something to fill the air

[Anonymous]

Does your friend not work outside the home? What job did her ex husband have? I’m finding it hard to understand how “I’m busy at work” is a foreign concept to her, especially in the DC area.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If he is into you he will see you.

+1 doesn't matter how busy, he'll make time. But, if he likes you but not over the moon, then he's going to slot you in somewhere when he has time.

Some men are just not into women that much. They just slot whoever they see into their free time, no matter how old, attractive, fun the woman is. It’s these men’s shallow relationships dating style, as it’s the easiest.

It’s dating, so…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If he is into you he will see you.

Yup, I agree. "If they want to, they will" is equally applicable to both sexes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does your friend not work outside the home? What job did her ex husband have? I’m finding it hard to understand how “I’m busy at work” is a foreign concept to her, especially in the DC area.

Curious about this as someone not from DC. If you were dating someone super busy like a White House aide, how much time would you expect them to make for you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does your friend not work outside the home? What job did her ex husband have? I’m finding it hard to understand how “I’m busy at work” is a foreign concept to her, especially in the DC area.

Curious about this as someone not from DC. If you were dating someone super busy like a White House aide, how much time would you expect them to make for you?

Men make time if they like you. Dated public officials from Pentagon and House Representatives. One was divorced with 3kids, he would always bring flowers and stay overnight any day he didn't have kids. He was waking up at 5am to work on his papers and then jumped into bed with me to have sex

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm divorced, in my 50s, not a law partner (I have a nice cushy GS-15 government gig), and have no kids. But if I were to try to date someone right now, I think the best I could do is, "Um, how's a week from Wednesday work for you?" I can't even imagine how busy someone with kids would be.

People our age just have a lot going on. Doesn't mean he's dating around.

Wut?

You're:
single
childless
employed by the fed

It's literally impossible that you have 'a lot' going on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does your friend not work outside the home? What job did her ex husband have? I’m finding it hard to understand how “I’m busy at work” is a foreign concept to her, especially in the DC area.

Curious about this as someone not from DC. If you were dating someone super busy like a White House aide, how much time would you expect them to make for you?

Men make time if they like you. Dated public officials from Pentagon and House Representatives. One was divorced with 3kids, he would always bring flowers and stay overnight any day he didn't have kids. He was waking up at 5am to work on his papers and then jumped into bed with me to have sex

What were his work hours? What happened with the relationship?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does your friend not work outside the home? What job did her ex husband have? I’m finding it hard to understand how “I’m busy at work” is a foreign concept to her, especially in the DC area.

Curious about this as someone not from DC. If you were dating someone super busy like a White House aide, how much time would you expect them to make for you?

Men make time if they like you. Dated public officials from Pentagon and House Representatives. One was divorced with 3kids, he would always bring flowers and stay overnight any day he didn't have kids. He was waking up at 5am to work on his papers and then jumped into bed with me to have sex

What were his work hours? What happened with the relationship?

He often stayed at the office till 9pm, and then we met after hours in downtown, went to night places, chess clubs and had sex. It was very passionate but didn't work out because of different relationship timeline for two of us. He was also a year younger than me, and I behaved very insecure adding tension

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does your friend not work outside the home? What job did her ex husband have? I’m finding it hard to understand how “I’m busy at work” is a foreign concept to her, especially in the DC area.

Curious about this as someone not from DC. If you were dating someone super busy like a White House aide, how much time would you expect them to make for you?

Men make time if they like you. Dated public officials from Pentagon and House Representatives. One was divorced with 3kids, he would always bring flowers and stay overnight any day he didn't have kids. He was waking up at 5am to work on his papers and then jumped into bed with me to have sex

What were his work hours? What happened with the relationship?

He often stayed at the office till 9pm, and then we met after hours in downtown, went to night places, chess clubs and had sex. It was very passionate but didn't work out because of different relationship timeline for two of us. He was also a year younger than me, and I behaved very insecure adding tension

What was the difference in the relationship timeline? He sounds like he was very into moving it forward.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does your friend not work outside the home? What job did her ex husband have? I’m finding it hard to understand how “I’m busy at work” is a foreign concept to her, especially in the DC area.

Curious about this as someone not from DC. If you were dating someone super busy like a White House aide, how much time would you expect them to make for you?

Men make time if they like you. Dated public officials from Pentagon and House Representatives. One was divorced with 3kids, he would always bring flowers and stay overnight any day he didn't have kids. He was waking up at 5am to work on his papers and then jumped into bed with me to have sex

What were his work hours? What happened with the relationship?

He often stayed at the office till 9pm, and then we met after hours in downtown, went to night places, chess clubs and had sex. It was very passionate but didn't work out because of different relationship timeline for two of us. He was also a year younger than me, and I behaved very insecure adding tension

What was the difference in the relationship timeline? He sounds like he was very into moving it forward.

Yes, he was. It was my own stupid behavior that destroyed it. Nothing related to his job, kids or anything. Just my first relationship post divorce and I went crazy

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does your friend not work outside the home? What job did her ex husband have? I’m finding it hard to understand how “I’m busy at work” is a foreign concept to her, especially in the DC area.

Curious about this as someone not from DC. If you were dating someone super busy like a White House aide, how much time would you expect them to make for you?

Men make time if they like you. Dated public officials from Pentagon and House Representatives. One was divorced with 3kids, he would always bring flowers and stay overnight any day he didn't have kids. He was waking up at 5am to work on his papers and then jumped into bed with me to have sex

What were his work hours? What happened with the relationship?

He often stayed at the office till 9pm, and then we met after hours in downtown, went to night places, chess clubs and had sex. It was very passionate but didn't work out because of different relationship timeline for two of us. He was also a year younger than me, and I behaved very insecure adding tension

What was the difference in the relationship timeline? He sounds like he was very into moving it forward.

Yes, he was. It was my own stupid behavior that destroyed it. Nothing related to his job, kids or anything. Just my first relationship post divorce and I went crazy

About to launch into dating post divorce too. Any advice?

How did you meet him, on OLD?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does your friend not work outside the home? What job did her ex husband have? I’m finding it hard to understand how “I’m busy at work” is a foreign concept to her, especially in the DC area.

Curious about this as someone not from DC. If you were dating someone super busy like a White House aide, how much time would you expect them to make for you?

Men make time if they like you. Dated public officials from Pentagon and House Representatives. One was divorced with 3kids, he would always bring flowers and stay overnight any day he didn't have kids. He was waking up at 5am to work on his papers and then jumped into bed with me to have sex

What were his work hours? What happened with the relationship?

He often stayed at the office till 9pm, and then we met after hours in downtown, went to night places, chess clubs and had sex. It was very passionate but didn't work out because of different relationship timeline for two of us. He was also a year younger than me, and I behaved very insecure adding tension

What was the difference in the relationship timeline? He sounds like he was very into moving it forward.

Yes, he was. It was my own stupid behavior that destroyed it. Nothing related to his job, kids or anything. Just my first relationship post divorce and I went crazy

About to launch into dating post divorce too. Any advice?

How did you meet him, on OLD?

Yes, on OLD.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does your friend not work outside the home? What job did her ex husband have? I’m finding it hard to understand how “I’m busy at work” is a foreign concept to her, especially in the DC area.

Curious about this as someone not from DC. If you were dating someone super busy like a White House aide, how much time would you expect them to make for you?

Men make time if they like you. Dated public officials from Pentagon and House Representatives. One was divorced with 3kids, he would always bring flowers and stay overnight any day he didn't have kids. He was waking up at 5am to work on his papers and then jumped into bed with me to have sex

What were his work hours? What happened with the relationship?

He often stayed at the office till 9pm, and then we met after hours in downtown, went to night places, chess clubs and had sex. It was very passionate but didn't work out because of different relationship timeline for two of us. He was also a year younger than me, and I behaved very insecure adding tension

What was the difference in the relationship timeline? He sounds like he was very into moving it forward.

Yes, he was. It was my own stupid behavior that destroyed it. Nothing related to his job, kids or anything. Just my first relationship post divorce and I went crazy

About to launch into dating post divorce too. Any advice?

How did you meet him, on OLD?

Yes, on OLD.

Do you recommend any particular app?