While these are all great programs, don't you have to be on disability to be eligible for Medicaid, food stamps, and so on? The government doesn't just hand out help to people who don't want to work. OP hasn't mentioned any physical or mental disabilities. |
How old are the kids? |
If Dad is able to sure, but if not, this is a way of helping kids without enabling the sister. |
Nope. They need to get a job. To the extent you can host the young cousins ever, do that. But do not start a precedent of funding your adult siblings life or issues. If they need welfare help them sign up for all their benefits or direct them to NGOs who can help. You have more than enough stuff to be saving you and your spouses income for for now and the future (401k, 529s, IRAs, emergency funds, retirement, elderly care, family vacations, kids ECs, travel, etc.) |
What does this mean? The ex doesn’t pay their court ordered child support or split the kid bills?? |
Well then. I assume they never had a neuropsych test or any mental disorders or learning disabilities to treat? |
So she’s on alimony for how long? |
Does pay court ordered support. It just isn’t much. Certainly not enough for her and kids to live. |
No. No alimony. He pay child support. But he was giving her extra money. Has stopped doing that. |
Not that I know about. Did well in school. |
It seems if she gets to the point of being homeless, then her ex can take his kids until she pulls herself together. It doesn’t sound like he’s a deadbeat Dad.
Sending money will not solve her problem — she needs to step up and get a job and she won’t as long as handouts keep coming. You can look for any sources of transitional support in her area, like a women’s center or a charity that has programs for job training and help getting into the workforce and give her the information. |
This. |
I have a sister that did well in school and then she developed a mental illness. She hid it very well. Most people who meet her don't realize it unless they get into deeper conversations with her. |
+1. Sounds a lot like my ADHD sibling. Needed a lot of structure and support to succeed. |
I think my nephew with ADHD would have ended up like this if his parents had not been aware of ADHD, medicated him effectively and gave him all the necessary supports through college and beyond. He is happily married with a successful career in his mid-30s and expecting their first child. My parents had no idea how to handle my brother with undiagnosed ADHD since all they called it back then was "hyperactivity"'and gave parents no guidance. He has failed to launch miserably despite intelligence, good looks and amazing social skills. |