SO BORED - SLEEPY HUSBAND goes to bed too early
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Anonymous
| SO FRUSTRATED that DH goes to bed before we can talk, interact, have fun, or have sex.... DH sleeps from 8:30 or 9 pm and wakes up with the kids at 8 aam.. .If i don't make plans to go out with friends it is dead quiet in here on wekeneds....I don't know how long I can stand it? Does anyone else have this isse? There is no sex anymore because he goes to bed before anything can happen..... |
Anonymous
| That's nearly 12 hours of sleep! Does he have a really physical job? |
Anonymous
| Desk job. |
Anonymous
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Is he depressed? have a chronic illness?
Why does he need 12 hours sleep? |
Anonymous
| Yes, does he have a medical condition? Or is he really old? |
Anonymous
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My aunt was sleeping like that right before she needed a triple bi-pass surgery. She was having mini-heart attacks and didn't realize it. Because of her symptoms, her primary doctor referred her to a cardiologist who did a stress test. My aunt completely failed the stress test and was rushed via ambulance to the hospital. She was only 40 years old and did not have any apparent risk factors for heart disease.
If DH is truly, consistently sleeping that much, he needs to get to a doctor for a complete physical ASAP. Make sure the doctor knows how much he is sleeping and how much it is affecting his relationship at home. |
Anonymous
| DH is mid-30s, blood tests came back normal.... |
Anonymous
| Go see another doctor, do the stress test and tell the doctor DH sleeps 12 hours every night. |
Anonymous
| Sounds like he's avoiding you. |
Anonymous
| Sounds like he is avoiding life. Work and sleeping seem to be taking up most of his time. |
Anonymous
| Some people need a lot of sleep. Stop being so dramatic. |
Anonymous
And you can stop being dismissive. Twelve hours EVERY night for an adult is not normal. Something is up. What does dh say about it? Do you guys enjoy each other's company when he is awake, or are you simplyexisting politely in the same space? Does he want to stay up, but he's too tired? Or does he just slink away and go to sleep? |
Anonymous
| OP: Does he drink? Drinking makes you tired. |
Anonymous
PP with aunt who needed bi-pass at 40: Initially her primary doctor did blood tests which came back normal. It was only after she kept coming back for multiple visits during a month's time span complaining of how tired she was after work, how much she slept, and all the tests he had run were fine that she was sent to the cardiologist. Like I previously said, she did not have any known risk factors for heart disease. The primary doctor even worried initially that her health insurance was going to give him flack for sending to a cardiologist but he had tested for everything else and everything else had been negative. Only the stress test (being on a tread mill while they monitored her heart) showed the problem. Another question for your DH would be has he always needed a lot of sleep or does he go through periods at a time where he needs more sleep or is this entirely a new problem? For my aunt, she was persistent with her primary care doctor because she was more tired than she had ever been in her life and it was not normal for her. Periodic episodes of tiredness (episodes that may last for several weeks but eventually gets better then comes back down the road) may be more indicative of an autoimmune problem. I have Lupus, so episodic periods of needing extra sleep is what I experience. |
Anonymous
| Tell him to start exercising and drink vitamins b12 |