Termination at 13 weeks due to fetal anomaly
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Anonymous
| I am currently 13 weeks pregnant and the CVS result from a couple of weeks ago indicated that the baby has T18. After going through a grieving period my husband and I made the difficult decision to terminate. I am scheduled to have the termination on Friday at the Washington Hospital center, but today to my surprise I found out the termination will be done without anesthesia!!!! I think that is cruel given that I will be very emotional on that day and now I have to watch the whole procedure! Even without considering the emotional aspect, the procedure must be painful! I once had a D&C after my miscarriage at 7 weeks, and that was about as much pain I could take, so I can only imagine how painful the D&C at 13 weeks will be!! Has anyone gone through a termination without anesthesia? Is the pain tolerable? Should I ask my OB to refer me to another center? please help. |
Anonymous
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I did, physically it was bad cramps like a heavy period.
It's not the physical pain that will get to you, it's the emotional. Bring headphones...the sounds were the worst part (just want you to be prepared) and I didn't even feel the pain. I didn't even feel there. I also had a medical termination and you just feel numb. I'm so sorry... |
Anonymous
| I have no experience with termination, but I wanted to say that I am so sorry for what you are going through! Can't you ask them to give you propofol sedation so you are asleep during the procedure? |
Anonymous
| Thanks PP. Can I ask how far along were you? did you also do the termination at WHC? |
Anonymous
| OP here, 10:05, I did ask them but they said they only perform the procedure with local sedation(numbing the cervix)! |
Anonymous
| OP here, I meant to say 10:03. |
Anonymous
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Also, I believe you can ask for something to relax you - I think they gave me Valium in a pill form. It was several years ago (and I've blocked it out, so I don't remember).
My thoughts are with you. |
Anonymous
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I had a D&C at WHC after a miscarriage at 11 weeks. I wish I could tell you differently but it was extremely painful. I was literally screaming and squeezing my husband's hand the entire time. They said they could do it under anesthetic but that it would take a while to schedule or they could do it immediately without. I didn't even have a tylenol. It was very difficult and very emotional but I don't like general anesthetic either as it makes me nauseus. Some (strong) pain killers in advance would be a good idea and I probably should have asked for them.
BTW, I'd already passed the fetus at home (like full blown labor), so this was just removing the placenta. |
Anonymous
I i can get valium for dental appts, you should definitely be able to ask for something to relax you. Our thoughts are with you, OP. Tell your partner to advocate for getting you the care you need. |
Anonymous
| Like the 10:28 poster above, I had a mc at 11 weeks also and passed the fetus at home by myself. I kept myself pretty consistently on Motrin for a period of 2 weeks or so but even so, the passing of the fetus broke thru this and I felt the pain. So, I do think you'd want some good pain management, PP. I will keep you and your DC in my thoughts. |
Anonymous
| I had a D&C at Shady Grove - and I had general anesthesia. Can't imagine it otherwise. |
Anonymous
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I'm so very sorry OP.
I had a D & C at 13 weeks at Holy Cross, and I was given anesthesia. It made the whole thing much more tolerable. I would push for it. Certainly some docs do it that way (in fact, I wasn't even aware that some didn't do it that way at 13 weeks). |
Anonymous
| I had a D&C at Sibley for a missed MC at 11 weeks and was put under. There is no way in he'll that I'd have it any other way. I had an an abortion without anesthesia - I was very young and in college - and it was pure hell. |
Anonymous
| OP, I'm sorry. Wishing you well. |
Anonymous
| Hugs to you and your husband. |